BODY LANGUAGE
Body language is an important part of communication which can constitute 50% or more of what we are communicating. If you wish to communicate well, then it makes sense to understand how you can (and cannot) use your body to say what you mean. essage clusters Body language comes in clusters of signals and postures, depending on the internal emotions and mental states. !ecogni"ing a whole cluster is thus far more reliable than trying to interpret indi#idual elements. $ggressi#e body language% &howing physical threat. $ttenti#e body language% &howing real interest. Bored body language% 'ust not being interested. (losed body language% any reasons are closed. )ecepti#e body language% &eeking to co#er up lying or other deception. )efensi#e body language% *rotecting self from attack. )ominant body language% )ominating others. +motional body language% Identifying feelings. +#aluating body language% 'udging and deciding about something. ,reeting body language% eeting rituals. -pen body language% any reasons for being open. *ower body language% )emonstrating one.s power. !eady body language% /anting to act and waiting for the trigger. !ela0ed body language% (omfortable and unstressed. !omantic body language% &howing attraction to others. &ubmissi#e body language% &howing you are prepared to gi#e in.
Parts-of-the-body language
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18 WAY !O "#P$O%E BODY LANGUAGE%
1. Dont cross your arms or legs 1ou ha#e probably already heard you shouldn<t cross your arms as it might make you seem defensi#e or guarded. 5his goes for your legs too. 7eep your arms and legs open. 2. Have eye contact, but dont stare = If there are se#eral people you are talking to, gi#e them all some eye contact to create a better connection and see if they are listening. 7eeping too much eye9contact might creep people out. ,i#ing no eye9contact might make you seem insecure. If you are not used to keeping eye9contact it might feel a little hard or scary in the beginning but keep working on it and you<ll get used to it. 3. Dont be afraid to take up some space = 5aking up space by for e0ample sitting or standing with your legs apart a bit signals self9confidence and that you are comfortable in your own skin. 4. ela! your s"oulders = /hen you feel tense it<s easily winds up as tension in your shoulders. 5hey might mo#e up and forward a bit. 5ry to rela0. 5ry to loosen up by shaking the shoulders a bit and mo#e them back slightly. #. $od %"en t"ey are talking = nod once in a while to signal that you are listening. But don<t o#erdo it and peck like /oody /oodpecker. &. Dont slouc", sit up straig"t = but in a rela0ed way, not in a too tense manner. '. (ean, but not too muc" If you want to show that you are interested in what someone is saying, lean toward the person talking. If you want to show that you<re confident in yourself and rela0ed lean back a bit. But don<t lean in too much or you might seem needy and desperate for some appro#al. -r lean back too much or you might seem arrogant and distant. ). *mile and laug" = lighten up, don<t take yourself too seriously. !ela0 a bit, smile and laugh when someone says something funny. *eople will be a lot more inclined to listen to you if you seem to be a positi#e person. But don<t be the first to laugh at your own >okes, it makes you seem ner#ous and needy. &mile when you are introduced to someone but don<t keep a smile plastered on your face, you<ll seem insincere. +. Dont touc" your face = it might make you seem ner#ous and can be distracting for the listeners or the people in the con#ersation. 1,. -eep you "ead up 9 )on<t keep your eyes on the ground, it might make you seem insecure and a bit lost. 7eep your head up straight and your eyes towards the hori"on.
11. *lo% do%n a bit = this goes for many things. /alking slower not only makes you seem more calm and confident, it will also make you feel less stressed. If someone addresses you, don<t snap you<re neck in their direction, turn it a bit more slowly instead. 12. Dont fidget = try to a#oid, phase out or transform fidgety mo#ement and ner#ous ticks such as shaking your leg or tapping your fingers against the table rapidly. 1ou<ll seem ner#ous and fidgeting can be a distracting when you try to get something across. )eclutter your mo#ements if you are all o#er the place. 5ry to rela0, slow down and focus your mo#ements. 13. .se your "ands more confidently = instead of fidgeting with your hands and scratching your face use them to communicate what you are trying to say. ?se your hands to describe something or to add weight to a point you are trying to make. But don<t use them to much or it might become distracting. $nd don<t let your hands flail around, use them with some control. 14. (o%er your drink = don<t hold your drink in front of your chest. In fact, don<t hold anything in front of your heart as it will make you seem guarded and distant. 4ower it and hold it beside your leg instead. 1#. ealise %"ere you spine ends = many people (including me until recently) might sit or stand with a straight back in a good posture. 2owe#er, they might think that the spine ends where the neck begins and therefore crane the neck forward in a ontgomery Burns9pose. 1our spine ends in the back of your head. 7eep you whole spine straight and aligned for better posture. 1&. Dont stand too close =one of the things we learned from &einfeld is that e#erybody gets weirded out by a close9talker. 4et people ha#e their personal space, don<t in#ade it. 1'. /irror 9 -ften when you get along with a person, when the two of you get a good connection, you will start to mirror each other unconsciously. 5hat means that you mirror the other person<s body language a bit. 5o make the connection better you can try a bit of proacti#e mirroring. If he leans forward, you might lean forward. If she holds her hands on her thighs, you might do the same. But don<t react instantly and don<t mirror e#ery change in body language. 5hen weirdness will ensue. 1). -eep a good attitude = last but not least, keep a positi#e, open and rela0ed attitude. 2ow you feel will come through in your body language and can make a ma>or difference. 3or information on how make yourself feel better read 80 ways to change how you feel and for rela0ation try $ #ery simple way to feel rela0ed for @A hours. 1ou can change your body language but as all new habits it takes a while. +specially things like keeping you head up might take time to correct if you ha#e spent thousands of days looking at your feet. $nd if you try and change to many things at once it might become confusing and feel o#erwhelming.
