PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

MODULE 1
WHAT IS PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP?
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP- is a form of relationship closely linked to a person and which can
only be important to that person.
KINDS OF PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

 PRIVACY and INTIMACY- are two attributes describing personal relationships and level of
commitment to another person/s.
 IMPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP- commitment to an organization like a business entity, a
principle or purpose.
 ATTRACTION- it is a force that unites people and can grow into an attachment which eventually
leads to commitment.

Here are some of the attractions you need to remember:

1. PHYSICAL ATTRACTION IS BASED ON INSTINCT
2. PHYSICAL ATTRACTION DOES NOT NECESSARILY LEAD TO A GOOD RELATIONSHIP
3. PLATONIC ATTRACTION IS IMPORTANT
4. THE UNATTAINABLE IS ATTRACTIVE
Understanding the Acceptable and Unacceptable Means of Expressing Attractions Toward
The Opposite Sex
Filipino culture is bound to believe that a decent display of someone's feeling is also a must to be
accepted by society. It is a major disappointment that anyone who fails to follow this standard will
be classified as poorly educated by society or the community, or how one’s parents failed at
parenting.
Because of the Filipinos’ culture of decency, the Republic of the Philippines seriously believed that
the issues of people's means of expressing attractions to the opposite sex or gender can be legally
addressed. The Republic Act (RA) 11313, otherwise known as the Safe Space Act, intentionally
prohibits indecent and unlawful acts of expression. This RA broadens the scope of the RA 7877 or
the Anti-Harassment Act of 1995. This law recognizes that sexual harassment occurs in the
workplace, education, and training environments, and penalizes persons who have authority,
influence, and moral status in those institutions who commit prohibited acts of sexual harassment.
While the Safe Space Act addresses these gaps in our legal framework by recognizing that sexual
harassment can be committed between peers. A good example of this are: a subordinate to a
superior, a student to a teacher, or a trainee to a trainer.
What Makes a Healthy and Acceptable Expression of Attractions?
As you are happy to see and spend time with your partner, you know that you are in a stable
relationship. No partnership is ever perfect, and when basic conflicts arise, causing tension with
others, you will certainly feel that the relationship is unstable for a moment. There are many
factors that lead to the growth and maintenance of healthy and acceptable relationships, including:
1. Mutual respect.
2. Trust.
3. Honesty.
4. Support.
5. Fairness/Equality.
6. Separate identities.
[Link] Communication.

10 Things That Are Unacceptable in Any Relationship

Every relationship has its ups and downs, and we all have to compromise a little to make them
work. But if your partner consistently does the following, it might be time to think twice.
1. Cheating
2. Putting you down
3. Not supporting your dreams
4. Controlling
5. Lack of communication
6. Unnecessary sacrifices
7. Unreliability
8. Forgetting the memorable day
9. Self-destruction
10. Not caring about friends and family

Attraction
The Merriam-Webster dictionary, collegiately defined attraction as: the action or power of evoking
interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something; and a quality or feature that evokes interest,
liking, or desire.
Having this definition, it could be said that attraction is a positive connection between two or more
people that share something in common, like interests, likes/dislikes, or desires. Some qualities
may catch your attention and which could spark a certain kind of relationship.
When you have a positive attitude or evaluation regarding a particular person in relation to
different components, that is interpersonal attraction. For many, interpersonal attraction relates
only between two people having an intimate and romantic relationship. However, it is not only
limited to such since it may also transpire between friends, colleagues, family members, and
others.
There are a lot of key components of attraction that may be the reason for someone liking others.
Some of those are:
Physical Attractiveness
Attractive people draw out a more positive first impression. Initially, people tend to be influenced by
what they see. Even the younger ones prefer to look at faces that adults consider attractive rather
than at opposite ones (Langlois, [Link]. 1991). Our perception of beauty, though, differs from one
another since it can be influenced by culture, educational background, social status, etc. Everyone
has his/her idea of what or who is attractive based on physical appearance.
Similarity
Many researches support that similarity causes attraction. Oftentimes, people classify other people
based on information they already knew about them. That is social categorization, wherein, people
mentally group others on where they belong and that with the same characteristics with them, like
group age, religion, personality, attitude, social status, or education. Thus, this social
categorization has a negative effect.
Proximity
One of the important aspects of any relationship is distance. Proximity pertains to physical
distance with other people and it is related to functional distance (how often people interact or
communicate with each other). The more you encounter or interact with the person, the more you
allow yourself to get to know him/her better which leads to a better relationship like friendship or
intimate relationship.
Reciprocity
We tend to get along with people or with someone whom we have the same feelings toward. It is
called reciprocity. It is when feelings with someone are being reciprocated or returned in the same
way as you do. According to Brannan and Mohr, authors of one of the modules of in the book of
Together: The Science of Social Psychology, “Another way to think of it is that relationships are
built on a give and take; if one side is not reciprocating, then the relationship is doomed”. These
may happen in any relationship, with friends, classmates, family members, or romantic partners.

Below are some collected ideas on how to exercise expressing affections and developed into a
commitment for any kinds of relationship. These may serve as tips on how to keep healthy
relationships with others.
Stay happy.
Be empathic.
Keep open communication.
Always trust.
Show respect.
Be a helping hand.

Becoming Responsible in a Relationship

A sense of responsibility in taking care of your personal relationship can only be established when
you realize the boundaries and limitations of your role and influence in the relationships.

6 Major Elements of Becoming Responsible in a Relationship

1. Mutual Respect
Lack of respect absolutely brings people to an unpleasant environment and pushes people from
respecting one another and themselves, too.
2. Value Quality Time
Having time for fun will absolutely help you create more memories worth treasuring. Quality time
with your loved ones may mean learning to love them more. Contradictory to what we usually
think it is not the quantity of time you spend with your loved ones that matters but the quality you
spend with them. For example, having a minute of a heart-warming talk or making fond memories
with your kids that is more valuable than having a whole day of arguing with them.
3. Trust and Honesty
Every person deserves to be trusted by someone dear to them particularly by family, friends, and
significant other. It is through genuine trust that person feels a sense of belongingness and a
feeling of being loved.
4. Well-communicated Love
Love we felt may certainly start any form of relationship. However, it is not the thing that can keep
it. Love is just a feeling. What really keeps any relationship is the love that is well-communicated.
5. Reliability and Security
Each one of us dearly loves to have somebody whom we can depend on and who will guarantee
to protect us from any harm or trouble at any circumstance.
This virtue teaches everyone the value of recognizing someone’s imperfections that he/she is ready
to extend him/herself to the person. This act of kindness will definitely foster a sense of
connection, security, and relief.
6. Non-judgmental Listening and Presence
Who among us would like to be in a company of people who do not have the heart to listen and give
us a chance to explain our sides first? Most people would find this situation totally unfair.

MODULE 2
Leadership is a primary vehicle in fulfilling the goal of a team. It is a social influence relationship
between two or more persons. Becoming a good leader is not an overnight process or just
attending a one –day seminar workshop. It requires willingness to devote your time
wholeheartedly in managing, helping, and coaching your team without compromising your family
time. In short, leadership is a two-way process; leaders and constituents may work together to get
things done easily and smoothly.
A Role defines a set of norms, values, behaviors, and personality characteristics attached to a
status such as leader, follower, or club president. Every leader assumes role in a society. They are
expected to behave a pattern usually determined by individuals in the society.
To become a great leader, you must be a good follower. This will give high impact to a society. you
must have the important leadership qualities that can affect constituents and can be developed
by anyone:
Roles of an Efficient Leader that can influence people:
1. Set example
2. Assume and do responsibility
3. Show Initiative
4. Life-long learner
5. Show enthusiasm
6. Willing to serve
7. Active listener
8. Show empathy
9. Be sensitive to the need of others
10. Delegate work
11. Learn to appreciate
12. Be patient

Role of an Effective Follower that Leaders Need

1. Courage to do responsibility
2. Courage to challenge
3. Courage to participate in transformation
4. A can-do attitude
5. A collaborative approach
6. Courage to serve and subservient
7. The passion to drive personal growth

MODULE 3
As you mature, personal and social relationships broaden your perception about yourself and
others. This perception helps in the psychological process of knowing, interpreting, and learning
information that influence your behavior. The way you perceive and how others perceived you are
driven by beliefs, values, and norms learned and shared among family members, friends,
neighbors, and other individuals in the society. When the people you interact with around you
start to affect your behavior, the process is already known as social influence.
Social influence is characterized by a change in your behavior caused by the people that empower
you to adjust to a particular situation. Whether someone agrees or disagrees with you, it
influences your behavior that may help or hinder your social roles. Social influence also happens
when you change your behavior to adapt to social demands. Social influence is categorized by
conformity, compliance, and obedience.
Conformity is changing your behavior to be the same with the others in the group.
Compliance is granting a request or demand asked by another individual in exchange of either a
reward or a punishment.
Obedience means changing your behavior to follow the demand given by an authority or an adult
you have high regards with.
Filipino’s perspective in building family relationship is focused on establishing close ties. Filipinos
are very hospitable and friendly people. They always smile no matter how they feel. Meeting
someone for the first time, Filipinos do not hesitate to give a smile before starting a conversation.
Filipinos have close family ties and always wanted to talk about their extended family. Filipinos
are very family-oriented.
School
According to M. Johnson 2015, Home-School Partnerships stated that Children's learning is
increasingly moving toward a broader vision of the 21st century learning. As children's
educations increasingly occur across a range of settings, parents are uniquely positioned to help
ensure that these settings best support their children's specific learning needs.
Parental involvement is observed in the school setting in the Philippines. The amount of
participation a parent has when it comes to the schooling of his/her children fosters healthy
outcome thus, parental involvement is needed in children's education.
Community
Many of today's leaders in education, business and community development are coming to realize
that schools alone cannot prepare our youth for a productive adulthood. It is evident that schools
and communities should work closely with each other to meet their mutual goals. Schools can
provide more support for students, families, and staff when they are an integral part of the
community. Appropriate and effective collaboration and teaming are seen as key factors to
community development, learning, and family self-sufficiency.

MODULE 4
Family came from the Latin word familia which means group of people living in the household.
Family could be related by blood, or birth or by other relationship.
Types of Family Structures
Family structures differ from one family to another, that’s why, we should not compare our family
with that of others. The following table lists the different family structures.

Table 1. Family Structures

Family Definition Example

Structure
Nuclear Family It is also known as “conjugal” or Mother, father, and
“traditional” family, consisting of children
married couples and their offspring.
Extended This type of family includes all A family living together
Family relatives in proximity, such as mother, father, children,
grandparents, aunts, uncles, and grandparents, aunts,
cousins. these relatives typically uncles, and other relatives
live together, and all share daily in one roof
household duties.
Single Parent This family type includes one Father with his children
Family parent and their children only. A or a mother with her
single parent family could be the children living in one
result of a divorce, the death of one household.
parent, or even a single parent
adoption.
Step Family A family where the parents have Mother, children,
divorced and remarried, bringing stepfather. and his kids
children from other unions together Father, children,
to form a new nuclear family. stepmother, and her kids
It is also known as “blended”
family, because two families were
combined.

Foster Family A family includes parent who serves Parents, children, foster
as a temporary guardian for one or child
more children to whom they may or
may not be biologically related.
Adopted/Adopt A family wherein parents Parents (mother and
ive Family may adopt a child to whom they father), adopted child
share no blood relationship, or one
parent may adopt the child of the
other parent.
Bi-racial or A family wherein parents are Filipina mother, American
multi-racial from different races father, children
Family
Trans-racial A family wherein parents adopted a American parents,
Adoptive child with a different race adopted Filipino
Family children
Conditionally A family wherein one of the family Family members are
separated members is conditionally separated together except for the
Family from the others. This separation father working abroad.
may be due to their job or Family are living together,
employment or could be due to except the eldest child
 hospitalization. who is serving on the
military
Childless Married couple without children Mother and father only
Family
Gay or Lesbian A family wherein one or both A lesbian mother and her
Family parents has a different sexual children with a gay father
orientation and is part of the LGBT
community
Migrant Family It is a family who settles together in A family who migrated
a different place; it could be from from a place because the
one place to another due to some father is a military
circumstances such as the father’s officer
job.
Immigrant A family wherein one or both A family whose mom is
Family parents are already an already an immigrant of
immigrant of other country. Canada. Their mother is
Their children may be or may not already a Canadian citizen
be an immigrant. but the rest of the family
members are not.

A strong emotional legacy:

• provides a safe environment in which deep emotional roots can grow
• fosters confidence through stability
• conveys a tone of trusting support
• nurtures a strong sense of positive identity
• creates a “resting place” for the soul
• demonstrates unconditional love

Which characteristics or emotional legacy did your parents pass on to you? Which
characteristics would you like to build into the legacy that you may pass to your future children?

The Social Legacy

To really succeed in life, children need to learn more than management strategies,
accounting, reading, writing, and geometry. They need to learn the art of relating to people-- the art
of socialization. If they learn how to relate well to others, they’ll have advantage in living life.
Children need to gain the insights and social skills necessary to cultivate healthy and
stable relationships. As children mature, they must learn to relate to family members, teachers,
peers, friends, and community. Eventually, they must learn to relate to coworkers and many other
types of people in their surroundings.
The Spiritual Legacy
The Spiritual Legacy is the least in priority, but that’s a mistake. As spiritual beings,
we adopt attitudes and beliefs about spiritual matters from one person or another. Parents need to
take the initiative and present faith to their children.
Parents who successfully pass along a spiritual legacy to their children model and
reinforce the unseen realities of the godly life. We must recognize that passing a spiritual legacy
means more than encouraging our children to attend church, as important as that is. The church
is there to support parents in raising their children but it cannot do the raising; only parents can.
Parents are primary in spiritual upbringing. Children, perceive God the way they perceive their
parents. If parents are loving, affirming, forgiving and yet strong in what they believe, children will
think of God that way.
Here are five things you do that predict whether your children will receive the spiritual legacy
a Christian parent desires. Do you:
• Acknowledge and reinforce spiritual realities? Do your children know, for example,
that Jesus loves everyone? That God is personal, loving and will forgive us?
• View God as a personal, caring being who is to be loved and respected?
• Make spiritual activities a routine part of life?
• Clarify timeless truth — what’s right and wrong?
• Incorporate spiritual principles into everyday living.
(SOURCE: Your Heritage, by J. Otis Ledbetter and Kurt Bruner.)

Genogram Defined
A genogram (pronounced: jen-uh-gram) is a graphic representation of a family tree that
displays detailed data on relationships among individuals. A genogram is a more complex family
tree because it describes not only the family physical and social relationships but also the
emotional connections and other family attributes are described.
Genogram Symbols
A genogram is a family tree or map or history that uses special symbols to describe
relationships of family members over multiple generations. Like any other graphic organizer,
genogram makes it easy for a person to present and comprehend certain information.
Figure 1. Basic Genogram Symbols
 Male symbol

Female symbol

Pregnancy

Gay symbol

Lesbian symbol

Married

Separated

Divorced

X
Death

Conflictual
relationship
Very close
relationship
Distant
relationship

Additional Genogram Symbols

?
Death

No Gender Pet

Adopted child Foster child Pregnancy Miscarriage Abortion

Figure 2. Emotional Relationships Genogram Symbols

Hearr Disease

Breast Cancer

Diabetes

Alzheimer’s Disease

Down Syndrome

Depression

Smoking

Substance Abuse