THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES TEST (FOR COUPLES)

Dr. Gary Chapman

Read each pair of statements and circle the one that best describes you.
18.
1. A. I like to receive notes of affirmation from
A. I like when you compliment my appearance.
you.
B. I feel loved when you take the time to
E. I like it when you hug me.
understand my feelings.
2. B. I like to spend one-on-one time with you.
19. E. I feel secure when you are touching me.
D. I feel loved when you give me practical help.
D. Your acts of service make me feel loved.
3. C. I like it when you give me gifts.
20. D. I appreciate the many things you do for me.
B. I like taking long walks with you.
C. I like receiving gifts that you make.
4. D. I feel loved when you do things to help me.
21. B. I really enjoy the feeling I get when you give
E. I feel loved when you hug or touch me.
me your undivided attention.
5. E. I feel loved when you hold me in your arms.
D. I really enjoy the feeling I get when you do
C. I feel loved when I receive a gift from you.
some act of service for me.
6. B. I like to go places with you.
22. C. I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday
E. I like to hold hands with you.
with a gift.
7. A. I feel loved when you acknowledge me.
A. I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday
C. Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very
with meaningful words (written or spoken.)
important to me.
23. D. I feel loved when you help me out with my
8. E. I like to sit close to you.
chores.
A. I like it when you tell me that I am
C. I know you are thinking of me when you give
attractive.
me a gift.
9. B. I like to sit close to you.
24. C. I appreciate it when you remember special
C. I like to receive little gifts from you.
days with a gift.
10. D. I know you love me when you help me.
B. I appreciate it when you listen patiently and
A. Your words of acceptance are important to
don’t interrupt me.
me.
25. B. I enjoy extended trips with you.
11. B. I like to be together when we do things.
D. I like to know that you are connected enough
A. I like the kind words you say to me.
to help me with my daily task.
12. E. I feel whole when we hug.
26. E. Kissing me unexpectedly makes me feel
D. What you do affects me more than what you
loved.
say.
C. Giving me a gift for no occasion makes me
13. A. I value your praise and try to avoid your
feel loved.
criticism.
27. A. I like to be told that you appreciate me.
C. Several inexpensive gifts mean more to me
B. I like for you to look at me when we are
than one large expensive gift.
talking.
14. E. I feel closer to you when you touch me.
28. C. Your gifts are always special to me.
B. I feel close when we are talking or doing
E. I feel loved when you kiss me.
something together.
29. A. I feel loved when you tell me how much you
15. A. I like you to compliment my achievements.
appreciate me.
D. I know you love me when you do things for
D. I feel loved when you enthusiastically do a
me that you don’t enjoy doing.
task I have requested.
16. E. I like for you to touch me when you walk by.
30. E. I need to be hugged by you every day.
B. I like when you listen to me sympathetically.
A. I need your words of affirmation daily.
17. C. I really enjoy receiving gifts from you.
D. I feel loved when you help me with my home
projects.

ADD TOTAL NUMBER OF ANSWERS HERE:

A. ___ Words of Affirmation B. ___ Quality Time C. ___Receiving Gifts D. ___ Acts of Service E. ___Physical Touch