MODULE 1: SELF- ● Lack of alignment or

DEVELOPMENT INCONGRUENCE will cause

mental distress.
SELF-CONCEPT ○ The greater the level of
incongruence, the
● SELF-CONCEPT – refers to greater level of resulting
your awareness of yourself distress.

● IDEAL SELF
○ self that you aspire to be
PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
○ how we want to be
○ idealized image
● PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
– using all the personal
● ACTUAL SELF
resources (skills, talent, energy,
○ the one that you actually
time) to achieve life goals.
see
○ PERSONAL
○ built on SELF-
EFFECTIVENESS
KNOWLEDGE
depends on our INNATE
○ who we actually are
CHARACTERISTICS.
○ can be seen by others
but we have no way of
● EXPERIENCE – includes
truly knowing how others
knowledge and skills that we
view us so ACTUAL
acquire in the process of
SELF is our SELF-
cognitive and practical activities.
IMAGE

SKILLS THAT GREATLY INCREASE

● SELF-KNOWLEDGE
EFFICIENCY OF A PERSON
○ derived from social
interactions that provide
1. DETERMINATION – allows you
insight into how others
to focus only on achieving a
react to you
specific goal without being
distracted.
● There is NEGOTIATION
between the actual self and the
2. SELF-CONFIDENCE – appears
ideal self.
in the process of development;
○ exemplified in social
result of getting aware of
roles
yourself.
○ ALIGNMENT is
important
3. PERSISTENCE – makes you
○ The way I am is aligned
keep moving forward,
with the way I want
regardless of emerging
obstacles (problems, laziness)
 4. MANAGING STRESS – helps ● Realizes they control a
combat stress that arises in big part of their life
daily life ● Enjoy some level of
control
5. PROBLEM-SOLVING SKILLS ● They wish the movie will
– help cope with problems end but realize they have
encountered with a lack of no say in such things.
experience; adopt new ways to
achieve goals. 3. SCRIPTWRITER
● They actually CREATE
6. CREATIVITY – find the entire movie from her
extraordinary ways to carry out mind
a specific action that no one has ● They determine all of
tried to use. their actions throughout
the movie and how it will
7. GENERATING IDEAS – helps end
achieve goals using new, ● Has enormous control
original, unconventional ideas. over her life
a. IDEAS – a mental image ● Sees to it that the movie
of an object formed by of her life will turn out
the human mind beautiful
b. can use mind maps

POWER OF JOURNAL WRITING

THREE KINDS OF PEOPLE IN THIS
WORLD: ● PURPOSE: to help you
become the SCRIPTWRITER of
1. MOVIEGOER your life
● Person watches the
movie of their life, ● 4 REASONS TO MAINTAIN A
admires some parts, and JOURNAL:
criticizes others
● They do nothing else 1. Cost-efficient &
● Feels like they have no available
control over their lives 2. Preventive & pro-active
● Most pathetic, miserable 3. Creative & Productive
people in the world 4. Personal & Private

2. ACTOR
● Does not only watch, but
realizes they are the
actor
MODULE 2: DEVELOPING THE GOOD – joy, peace, love, hope,
WHOLE PERSON serenity, humility, kindness,
benevolence, empathy, generosity,
ASPECTS OF THE SELF truth, compassion, faith

● Individuals are composed of 3

basic aspects of self:
MODULE 3: DEVELOPMENTAL
STAGES IN MIDDLE & LATE
1. BODY - physical/tangible
ADOLESCENCE
aspects
2. MIND - intellectual/conscious
DEVELOPMENTAL STAGES
aspects
3. SPIRIT - emotional & intuitive
● HUMAN DEVELOPMENT -
aspects
Focuses on human growth and
changes across the lifespan
● 8 ASPECTS OF
DEVELOPMENT
● Human being is either in a state
of growth or decline, but either
1. PHYSICAL SELF
condition imparts CHANGE
2. INTELLECTUAL
3. EMOTIONAL
DEVELOPMENTAL STAGES
4. SENSUAL
5. INTERACTIONAL
1. Pre-natal (conception to birth)
6. NUTRITIONAL
● Hereditary endowments and
7. CONTEXTUAL
sex are fixed
8. SPIRITUAL/LIFE FORCE
● All body features developed

2. Infancy (birth to 2 yrs)

STORY OF TWO WOLVES ● Foundation age, basic behavior
is organized
● Old Cherokee Indian story ● Ontogenetic mutation skills are
developed
● Two wolves are fighting inside
of us – evil and good 3. Early Childhood (2-6 yrs)
● Pre-gang age, exploratory,
● Which wolf will prevail depends questioning
on which you feed ● Language and elementary
reasoning is acquired
EVIL – anger, envy, sorrow, regret, ● Initial socialization
greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt,
resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, 4. Late Childhood (6-12 yrs)
superiority, and ego ● Gang and creativity age
 5. Adolescence (puberty to 18) ○ individual moves from
● Transition age from childhood to one stage by means of
adulthood successful resolution of
● Sex maturation & rapid physical problems encountered
development
● Individual is an active learner
6. Early adulthood (18 to 40)
● Age of adjustment to new T.H.I.N.K – guidelines for mindful
patterns (spouse, parent, speech
breadwinner, etc.)
Is what I want to say True?
7. Middle Age (40 to retirement) Is what I want to say Helpful?
● Transition age Am I the best one to say it?
● Physical and mental decline Is necessary to say it Now?
Is it Kind to this person and others?
8. Old Age (retirement to death)
● Rapid physical and mental
decline

HAVIGHURST’S DEVELOPMENTAL
TASKS

● Robert J. Havighurst:
DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS
THEORY

● Proposed a bio psychosocial

model of development wherein
at each stage are influenced by:
○ Biology ( physiological
maturation & genetic
makeup)
○ Psychology (personal
values & goals
○ Sociology (specific
culture)

● MAIN ASSERTION:
○ development is
continuous throughout
the entire lifespan
○ occurs in stages
LIVING MINDFULLY Tool 9: Foster Leadership. Engage
fully in life and in community. Share
Tool 1: Breathe Mindfully. Use your your unique talents and generosity so
breath as an anchor to still your mind that others can also be inspired.
and bring your focus back to the
present moment. Tool 10: Be Peace. Cultivate your
own inner peace, becoming an agent
Tool 2: Listen Deeply. Listen with for
intention; let others fully express compassionate action and social good
themselves and focus on
understanding how they think and feel.

Tool 3: Cultivate Insight. See life as MODULE 4: CHALLENGES OF

it is, allowing each experience to be MIDDLE AND LATE ADOLESCENCE
an
opportunity for learning. Physical Development
● Most girls have completed the
Tool 4: Practice Compassion. physical changes related to
Consider the thoughts and feelings of puberty by age 15.
others and let tenderness, kindness ● Boys are still maturing and
and empathy be your guides. gaining strength, muscle mass,
and height and are completing
Tool 5: Limit Reactivity. Observe the development of sexual
rather than be controlled by your traits.
emotions. Pause, breathe, and choose
a skillful response based on thoughtful Emotional Development
speech and nonviolence under every ● May stress over school and test
condition. scores.
● Is self-involved (may have high
Tool 6: Express Gratitude. Practice expectations and low self-
gratitude daily and expand it outward, concept).
appreciating everyone and everything ● Seeks privacy and time alone.
you encounter. ● Is concerned about physical
and sexual attractiveness.
Tool 7: Nurture Mutual Respect. ● May complain that parents
Appreciate our common humanity and prevent him or her from doing
value different perspectives as well as things independently.
your own. ● Starts to want both physical and
emotional intimacy in
Tool 8: Build Integrity. Cultivate relationships.
constructive values and consistently ● The experience of intimate
act with respect, honesty, and partnerships
kindness.
 ○ Develops a person’s
Social Development psychological hardiness
● shifts in relationship with and social interest
parents from dependency and ○ conveys the idea that all
subordination to one that human beings are
reflects the adolescent’s worthwhile, simply
increasing maturity and because they exist
responsibilities in the family and ○ LIFEBLOOD OF A
the community, RELATIONSHIP
● Is more and more aware of
social behaviors of friends. SPIRITUAL CONNOTATION OF
● Seeks friends that share the ENCOURAGEMENT
same beliefs, values, and ● Hebrews 3:11 “Encourage
interests. one another daily
● Friends become more
important. PSYCHOLOGICAL IDEA
● Starts to have more intellectual ● Developed by psychologist
interests. ALFRED ADLER in the EARLY
● Explores romantic and sexual 20th CENTURY
behaviors with others. ● Continued to evolve with
● May be influenced by peers to RUDOLPH DREIKURS
try risky behaviors (alcohol,
tobacco, sex). 5 WAYS WE DISCOURAGE
● We set standards that are too
Mental Development high for others to meet because
● Becomes better able to set we are overly ambitious.
goals and think in terms of the ● We focus on mistakes as a
future. way to motivate change or
● Has a better understanding of improved behavior.
complex problems and issues. ● We make constant
● Starts to develop moral ideals comparisons (self to others,
and to select role models. siblings to one another).
● We automatically give a
negative spin to the actions of
others.
ENCOURAGEMENT 101: The ● We dominate others by being
Courage to Be Imperfect overly helpful, implying that they
are unable to do it as well.
● ENCOURAGEMENT
○ Key ingredient for SOCIAL INTEREST - tendency for
improving people to unite themselves with
relationships with other human beings and to
others accomplish their tasks in
cooperation with others
TO BE AN ENCOURAGING PERSON, and in so doing, make
ASK YOURSELF: Whatever I say or do, meaningful contribution in
will it bring me closer together or making this world a better place
farther apart from this person? to live in.

● DEVELOPMENTAL
POWER OF PERSONAL STAGES
DECLARATIONS
PERSONAL TIMELINE
● DECLARATIONS ● Portrays the INFLUENTIAL
○ Meant to encourage you EVENTS and happenings of a
to take control of the person’s life so that he can
influences in your life understand where he has gone
○ Suggestions as to what wrong and right in the past.
positive things you can ● IT HELPS TO PLAN THE
speak about your own life
FUTURE IN A
instead of accepting
CONSTRUCTIVE WAY
whatever has been said
about you in the past

ADDITIONAL (ACTIVITIES)

● ASPECTS OF THE SELF

A REAL WINNER is one who is able

to:
● win over his/her battles and
difficulties in life and turns them
into a learning and glorifying
experience;
● find meaning in pleasant and
unpleasant events in his life;
● live in peace with difficult people
and difficult situations;
● win the goodwill of others, their
respect and admiration;
● get what he wants using win-
win strategies; never at the
expense of others;
● discover and use opportunities
to his best advantage;
● develop and use his talents and
abilities to the best advantage