Understanding Attachment Theory Basics
Understanding Attachment Theory Basics
Course
R. Chris Fraley
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Learning Objectives
Explain the way the attachment system works and its evolutionary
significance.
Identify three commonly studied attachment patterns and what is
known about the development of those patterns.
Describe what is known about the consequences of secure
versus insecure attachment in adult relationships.
Introduction
Some of the most rewarding experiences in people’s lives involve the
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development and maintenance of close relationships. For example,
some of the greatest sources of joy involve falling in love, starting a
family, being reunited with distant loved ones, and sharing
experiences with close others. And, not surprisingly, some of the most
painful experiences in people’s lives involve the disruption of
important social bonds, such as separation from a spouse, losing a
parent, or being abandoned by a loved one.
Close relationships are the fabric of society, and are integral to the maintenance of our species. [Image:
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Attachment Theory: A Brief History and Core
Concepts
Attachment theory was originally developed in the 1940s by John
Bowlby, a British psychoanalyst who was attempting to understand
the intense distress experienced by infants who had been separated
from their parents. Bowlby (1969) observed that infants would go to
extraordinary lengths to prevent separation from their parents or to
reestablish proximity to a missing parent. For example, he noted that
children who had been separated from their parents would often cry,
call for their parents, refuse to eat or play, and stand at the door in
desperate anticipation of their parents’ return. At the time of Bowlby’s
initial writings, psychoanalytic writers held that these expressions
were manifestations of immature defense mechanisms that were
operating to repress emotional pain. However, Bowlby observed that
such expressions are common to a wide variety of mammalian species
and speculated that these responses to separation may serve an
evolutionary function (see Focus Topic 1).
Focus Topic 1:
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that there was something important about the responsiveness and
contact provided by mothers. Other theorists, in contrast, argued that
young infants feel emotionally connected to their mothers because
mothers satisfy more basic needs, such as the need for food. That is,
the child comes to feel emotionally connected to the mother because
she is associated with the reduction of primary drives, such as hunger,
rather than the reduction of drives that might be relational in nature.
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protection of “older and wiser” adults for survival. Bowlby argued that,
over the course of evolutionary history, infants who were able to
maintain proximity to an attachment figure would be more likely to
survive to a reproductive age.
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Although Bowlby believed that these basic dynamics captured the
way the attachment system works in most children, he recognized
that there are individual differences in the way children appraise the
accessibility of the attachment figure and how they regulate their
attachment behavior in response to threats. However, it was not until
his colleague, Mary Ainsworth, began to systematically study infant–
parent separations that a formal understanding of these individual
differences emerged. Ainsworth and her students developed a
technique called the strange situation—a laboratory task for studying
infant–parent attachment (Ainsworth, Blehar, Waters, & Wall, 1978). In
the strange situation, 12-month-old infants and their parents are
brought to the laboratory and, over a period of approximately 20
minutes, are systematically separated from and reunited with one
another. In the strange situation, most children (about 60%) behave in
the way implied by Bowlby’s normative theory. Specifically, they
become upset when the parent leaves the room, but, when he or she
returns, they actively seek the parent and are easily comforted by him
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or her. Children who exhibit this pattern of behavior are often called
secure. Other children (about 20% or less) are ill at ease initially and,
upon separation, become extremely distressed. Importantly, when
reunited with their parents, these children have a difficult time being
soothed and often exhibit conflicting behaviors that suggest they
want to be comforted, but that they also want to “punish” the parent
for leaving. These children are often called anxious-resistant. The
third pattern of attachment that Ainsworth and her colleagues
documented is often labeled avoidant. Avoidant children (about 20%)
do not consistently behave as if they are stressed by the separation
but, upon reunion, actively avoid seeking contact with their parent,
sometimes turning their attention to play objects on the laboratory
floor.
Ainsworth’s work was important for at least three reasons. First, she
provided one of the first empirical demonstrations of how attachment
behavior is organized in unfamiliar contexts. Second, she provided the
first empirical taxonomy of individual differences in infant attachment
patterns. According to her research, at least three types of children
exist: those who are secure in their relationship with their parents,
those who are anxious-resistant, and those who are anxious-avoidant.
Finally, she demonstrated that these individual differences were
correlated with infant–parent interactions in the home during the first
year of life. Children who appear secure in the strange situation, for
example, tend to have parents who are responsive to their needs.
Children who appear insecure in the strange situation (i.e., anxious-
resistant or avoidant) often have parents who are insensitive to their
needs, or inconsistent or rejecting in the care they provide.
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Antecedents of Attachment Patterns
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example, Grossmann, Grossmann, Spangler, Suess, and Unzner
(1985) studied parent–child interactions in the homes of 54 families,
up to three times during the first year of the child’s life. At 12 months
of age, infants and their mothers participated in the strange situation.
Grossmann and her colleagues found that children who were
classified as secure in the strange situation at 12 months of age were
more likely than children classified as insecure to have mothers who
provided responsive care to their children in the home environment.
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friendships (Weinfield, Sroufe, Egeland, & Carlson, 2008).
Attachment in Adulthood
Although Bowlby was primarily focused on understanding the nature
of the infant–caregiver relationship, he believed that attachment
characterized human experience across the life course. It was not until
the mid-1980s, however, that researchers began to take seriously the
possibility that attachment processes may be relevant to adulthood.
Hazan and Shaver (1987) were two of the first researchers to explore
Bowlby’s ideas in the context of romantic relationships. According to
Hazan and Shaver, the emotional bond that develops between adult
romantic partners is partly a function of the same motivational system
—the attachment behavioral system—that gives rise to the emotional
bond between infants and their caregivers. Hazan and Shaver noted
that in both kinds of relationship, people (a) feel safe and secure when
the other person is present; (b) turn to the other person during times
of sickness, distress, or fear; (c) use the other person as a “secure
base” from which to explore the world; and (d) speak to one another in
a unique language, often called “motherese” or “baby talk.” (See
Focus Topic 2)
Focus Topic 2:
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Facebook, for example, to keep in touch with family and friends, to
update their loved ones regarding things going on in their lives, and to
meet people who share similar interests. Moreover, modern cellular
technology allows people to get in touch with their loved ones much
easier than was possible a mere 20 years ago.
On the basis of these parallels, Hazan and Shaver (1987) argued that
adult romantic relationships, such as infant–caregiver relationships,
are attachments. According to Hazan and Shaver, individuals gradually
transfer attachment-related functions from parents to peers as they
develop. Thus, although young children tend to use their parents as
their primary attachment figures, as they reach adolescence and
young adulthood, they come to rely more upon close friends and/or
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romantic partners for basic attachment-related functions. Thus,
although a young child may turn to his or her mother for comfort,
support, and guidance when distressed, scared, or ill, young adults
may be more likely to turn to their romantic partners for these
purposes under similar situations.
Hazan and Shaver (1987) asked a diverse sample of adults to read the
three paragraphs below and indicate which paragraph best
characterized the way they think, feel, and behave in close
relationships:
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that observed in infancy. In other words, about 60% of adults
classified themselves as secure (paragraph B), about 20% described
themselves as avoidant (paragraph A), and about 20% described
themselves as anxious-resistant (paragraph C). Moreover, they found
that people who described themselves as secure, for example, were
more likely to report having had warm and trusting relationships with
their parents when they were growing up. In addition, they were more
likely to have positive views of romantic relationships. Based on these
findings, Hazan and Shaver (1987) concluded that the same kinds of
individual differences that exist in infant attachment also exist in
adulthood.
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When people are asked what kinds of psychological or behavioral
qualities they are seeking in a romantic partner, a large majority of
people indicate that they are seeking someone who is kind, caring,
trustworthy, and understanding—the kinds of attributes that
characterize a “secure” caregiver (Chappell & Davis, 1998). But we
know that people do not always end up with others who meet their
ideals. Are secure people more likely to end up with secure partners—
and, vice versa, are insecure people more likely to end up with
insecure partners? The majority of the research that has been
conducted to date suggests that the answer is “yes.” Frazier, Byer,
Fischer, Wright, and DeBord (1996), for example, studied the
attachment patterns of more than 83 heterosexual couples and found
that, if the man was relatively secure, the woman was also likely to be
secure.
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time, or (c) some combination of these possibilities. Existing empirical
research strongly supports the first alternative. For example, when
people have the opportunity to interact with individuals who vary in
security in a speed-dating context, they express a greater interest in
those who are higher in security than those who are more insecure
(McClure, Lydon, Baccus, & Baldwin, 2010). However, there is also
some evidence that people’s attachment styles mutually shape one
another in close relationships. For example, in a longitudinal study,
Hudson, Fraley, Vicary, and Brumbaugh (2012) found that, if one
person in a relationship experienced a change in security, his or her
partner was likely to experience a change in the same direction.
Relationship Functioning
Research has consistently demonstrated that individuals who are
relatively secure are more likely than insecure individuals to have high
functioning relationships—relationships that are more satisfying, more
enduring, and less characterized by conflict. For example, Feeney and
Noller (1992) found that insecure individuals were more likely than
secure individuals to experience a breakup of their relationship. In
addition, secure individuals are more likely to report satisfying
relationships (e.g., Collins & Read, 1990) and are more likely to
provide support to their partners when their partners were feeling
distressed (Simpson, Rholes, & Nelligan, 1992).
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The majority of research on this issue is retrospective—that is, it relies
on adults’ reports of what they recall about their childhood
experiences. This kind of work suggests that secure adults are more
likely to describe their early childhood experiences with their parents
as being supportive, loving, and kind (Hazan & Shaver, 1987). A
number of longitudinal studies are emerging that demonstrate
prospective associations between early attachment experiences and
adult attachment styles and/or interpersonal functioning in adulthood.
For example, Fraley, Roisman, Booth-LaForce, Owen, and Holland
(2013) found in a sample of more than 700 individuals studied from
infancy to adulthood that maternal sensitivity across development
prospectively predicted security at age 18. Simpson, Collins, Tran, and
Haydon (2007) found that attachment security, assessed in infancy in
the strange situation, predicted peer competence in grades 1 to 3,
which, in turn, predicted the quality of friendship relationships at age
16, which, in turn, predicted the expression of positive and negative
emotions in their adult romantic relationships at ages 20 to 23.
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It is easy to come away from such findings with the mistaken
assumption that early experiences “determine” later outcomes. To be
clear: Attachment theorists assume that the relationship between
early experiences and subsequent outcomes is probabilistic, not
deterministic. Having supportive and responsive experiences with
caregivers early in life is assumed to set the stage for positive social
development. But that does not mean that attachment patterns are
set in stone. In short, even if an individual has far from optimal
experiences in early life, attachment theory suggests that it is possible
for that individual to develop well-functioning adult relationships
through a number of corrective experiences—including relationships
with siblings, other family members, teachers, and close friends.
Security is best viewed as a culmination of a person’s attachment
history rather than a reflection of his or her early experiences alone.
Those early experiences are considered important not because they
determine a person’s fate, but because they provide the foundation
for subsequent experiences.
Outside Resources
Hazan, C., & Shaver, P. (1987). Romantic love conceptualized as an
attachment process. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 52,
511-524. Retrieved from:
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Hofer, M. A. (2006). Psychobiological roots of early attachment.
Current Directions in Psychological Science, 15, 84-88.
doi:10.1111/j.0963-7214.2006.00412.x
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Strange Situation Video
Survey: Learn more about your attachment patterns via this online
survey
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Video on Harry Harlow’s Research with Rhesus Monkeys
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Harlow's Studies on Dependency in Monkeys
Discussion Questions
1. What kind of relationship did you have with your parents or
primary caregivers when you were young? Do you think that had
any bearing on the way you related to others (e.g., friends,
relationship partners) as you grew older?
2. There is variation across cultures in the extent to which people
value independence. Do you think this might have implications for
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the development of attachment patterns?
3. As parents age, it is not uncommon for them to have to depend
on their adult children. Do you think that people’s history of
experiences in their relationships with their parents might shape
people’s willingness to provide care for their aging parents? In
other words, are secure adults more likely to provide responsive
care to their aging parents?
4. Some people, despite reporting insecure relationships with their
parents, report secure, well-functioning relationships with their
spouses. What kinds of experiences do you think might enable
someone to develop a secure relationship with their partners
despite having an insecure relationship with other central figures
in their lives?
5. Most attachment research on adults focuses on attachment to
peers (e.g., romantic partners). What other kinds of things may
serve as attachment figures? Do you think siblings, pets, or gods
can serve as attachment figures?
Vocabulary
Attachment behavioral system
A motivational system selected over the course of evolution to
maintain proximity between a young child and his or her primary
attachment figure.
Attachment behaviors
Behaviors and signals that attract the attention of a primary
attachment figure and function to prevent separation from that
individual or to reestablish proximity to that individual (e.g.,
crying, clinging).
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Attachment figure
Someone who functions as the primary safe haven and secure
base for an individual. In childhood, an individual’s attachment
figure is often a parent. In adulthood, an individual’s attachment
figure is often a romantic partner.
Attachment patterns
(also called “attachment styles” or “attachment orientations”)
Individual differences in how securely (vs. insecurely) people
think, feel, and behave in attachment relationships.
Strange situation
A laboratory task that involves briefly separating and reuniting
infants and their primary caregivers as a way of studying
individual differences in attachment behavior.
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Authors
R. Chris Fraley
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