Morals & Motivation: Living Right, Rising

Higher
By Eddie Ng’andu
Matero Mission District – Matero West SDA Church
Adventist Youth Ministries

FORE SUMMARY

1. What Are Morals?

Morals are the values and principles that help you know what is right and
wrong.

 Examples:

 Telling the truth

 Respecting others

 Being kind

 Keeping your promises

Bible Text:

“The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed
by their duplicity.” — Proverbs 11:3
2. What Is Motivation?

Motivation is the reason why you do something. It’s what keeps you going
when things get tough.

Types of Motivation:

Intrinsic – Comes from inside you (purpose, values, faith)

Extrinsic – Comes from outside (rewards, praise, competition)

Bible Text:

“Whatever you do, do it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not
for men.” — Colossians 3:23

3. How Are Morals and Motivation Connected?

Right morals keep you from falling.

Strong motivation pushes you to achieve good things.

Together, they help you become a faithful, focused, and fearless youth.
Bible Text:

“Let no one despise your youth, but be an example… in word, in conduct,

in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity.” — 1 Timothy 4:12

4. Say No to Drugs

Drugs destroy your brain, body, and future. They damage your motivation,
lead to immoral behavior, and break your relationship with God.

Bible Warning:

“Do not get drunk with wine, which leads to reckless living, but be filled
with the Spirit.” — Ephesians 5:18

Effects of Drugs:

 Poor decisions

 Addiction and mental health problems

 Broken relationships

 Crime and death

5. Flee Sexual Immorality

Sexual sin includes premarital sex, pornography, and inappropriate
touching. It damages your spiritual life, relationships, and self-worth.

Bible Texts:

“Flee from sexual immorality… your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit.”
— 1 Corinthians 6:18-20

“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.” — Matthew 5:8

Consequences of Sexual Sin:

 Emotional pain

 Unwanted pregnancy

 Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)

 Guilt and shame

 Distance from God

6. Staying Morally Strong and Spiritually Motivated

Tips for Youth:

  Choose friends who build you up

 Spend time with God daily (Prayer, Bible study)

 Focus on your goals and dreams

 Get a mentor or youth leader to guide you

 Say “NO” with confidence

7. Motivational Bible Promises

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” — Philippians

4:13

“For I know the plans I have for you... plans to give you hope and a
future.” — Jeremiah 29:11

“Let us not grow weary in doing good…” — Galatians 6:9

8. Reflection Activity

Write down:
  Three moral values you believe in

 Two things that motivate you in life

 One Bible text that gives you courage

 One dangerous thing you will say “NO” to from now on

9. Commitment Prayer

Lord Jesus, help me to live a moral life, avoid evil, and stay motivated to
do what is right. Give me strength to say NO to sin and YES to Your will.
Amen.

Remember:

Live right. Stay motivated. Be the light in your world!

CONTENTS
1. Foreword
Youth leader
2. Preface
My personal note: why I wrote this book, my experiences with youth, and my prayer for
the reader.
3. CHAPTER 1: Understanding Morals
What are morals?
Why do they matter?
The biblical foundation of moral living
Youth scenarios: cheating, lying, gossiping
Bible Focus: Proverbs 11:3, Psalm 119:9
4. CHAPTER 2: Motivation that Lasts
What fuels your energy, vision, and goals?
Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic motivation
Setting spiritual and academic goals
Bible Focus: Colossians 3:23, Philippians 4:13
5. CHAPTER 3: Facing Temptation: Staying Strong in a Challenging World
6. CHAPTER 4: Dangerous Detours — Drugs & Alcohol
Effects on your body, mind, future
Real-life stories/testimonies
Why drugs destroy motivation
How to say NO with strength
Bible Focus: Ephesians 5:18, Proverbs 20:1
7. CHAPTER 5: Living a Drug-Free Life – Your Body is a Temple
8. CHAPTER 6: Sexual Purity – Guarding Your Heart and Body
What is sexual immorality for a youth?
Pornography, sexting, relationships without boundaries
The purity promise
How to protect your body and mind
Bible Focus: 1 Corinthians 6:18–20, Matthew 5:8
9. CHAPTER 7: Friendship and Relationships – Choosing the Right People
Choosing the right circle
Bad company vs. godly influence
Friendship goals and accountability partners
Bible Focus: Proverbs 13:20, 1 Corinthians
10. CHAPTER 8: Motivation for School and Life – Discovering Your Purpose
11. CHAPTER 9: Digital Morals in a Digital Age
Social media temptations
Being a light online
Setting tech boundaries
Bible Focus: Philippians 4:8, Romans 12:2
12. CHAPTER 10: Staying Spiritually Motivated
 Spiritual disciplines (prayer, fasting, service)
Creating a personal motivation plan
Youth testimonies
Bible Focus: Jeremiah 29:11, Galatians 6:9
13. CHAPTER 11: Overcoming Temptations and Making Wise Choices
14. CHAPTER 12: Christian Leadership and Responsibility as a Young Person
15. CHAPTER 13: Leading by Example
Youth leaders, peer mentors, club captains
Your life as a sermon
Making a difference at school, church, and home
Bible Focus: 1 Timothy 4:12
16. CHAPTER 14: Choosing Purpose Over Popularity
17. CHAPTER 15: Morals & Motivation in Career and Life
Choosing a path that honors God
Building good work habits
Motivation in the workplace and school
Bible Focus: Proverbs 3:5–6
18. CHAPTER 16: Building Godly Friendships and Relationships
19. CHAPTER 17: Finding Your Identity in Christ
20. CHAPTER 18: Leading with Integrity and Influence
21. CHAPTER 19: Living with Purpose and Vision
22. CHAPTER 20: My Commitment to God
Reflection questions
Your purity & purpose pledge
Commitment prayer
Space for journaling or signing name
Bible Focus: Psalm 119:11, Joshua 24:15
23. APPENDICES
Youth Purity Pledge
Recommended Bible Reading Plan
Scriptures to Memorize
Quotes by Ellen G. White on Youth
Activity Worksheets
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PPREFACE
Matero Mission District | Matero West SDA Church | Adventist Youth Ministries

Dear Reader,
From the moment I stepped into youth ministry, I realized one great truth: the hearts of young
people are hungry — not just for fun or success, but for meaning, direction, and real strength to
stand. Over the years, I have seen teenagers and young adults caught between two worlds — the
truth of God’s Word and the loud temptations of the modern world. Many are full of potential
but lack mentorship, moral grounding, and godly motivation.

This book, Morals & Motivation, was born out of that burden.

It comes from my journey — not as someone perfect, but as someone who has walked with
youth through victories, falls, questions, and growth. I’ve sat across from young people crying
after moral failures. I’ve cheered them on as they committed their lives to Christ. I’ve heard the
secret prayers of youth leaders who want to raise a generation that will not bow to the pressure
of the world.

As a leader serving in the Matero Mission District and at Matero West SDA Church, I have
learned that ministry is not just about programs — it’s about people. Every Sabbath School
class, every AYM meeting, every Pathfinders or Ambassadors gathering is a battlefield for the
heart and mind. We are not just teaching — we are shaping destinies.

My prayer is that this book will do more than inform. I pray it will ignite.
May it challenge the complacent, comfort the struggling, and strengthen the determined.
Whether you are 10 or 21, this is your time to rise with purpose, walk in purity, and live with
unshakable motivation rooted in Christ.
“Let no one despise your youth, but be an example…” — 1 Timothy 4:12
So here is my invitation to you:
Read every chapter with honesty. Reflect. Write. Pray. Share. Commit.
Let this be more than a book — let it be a moment that turns your heart fully toward God.

With deep love and great hope,

Eddie Ng’andu
Children/Youth Leader, Servant, Brother in Christ
Matero Mission District | Matero West SDA Church
Adventist Youth Ministrie
June 2025
Introduction
Morals & Motivation: Living Right, Rising Higher
Matero Mission District | Matero West SDA Church | Adventist Youth Ministries

We live in a time when being young and faithful is one of the hardest, yet most powerful, things
a person can do. Between the distractions of technology, peer pressure, and modern ideas about
"freedom," it’s easy to lose sight of what really matters. But I believe deep inside every young
person is a desire to live right — to stand tall, walk with purpose, and rise higher.

This book is not just about rules or restrictions. It’s about reclaiming your value, understanding
your purpose, and discovering your identity in Christ. It’s about learning how moral choices
today shape the future you’re walking into — and how motivation from the Word of God can fuel
your success, peace, and impact.

As a youth leader, I’ve had the privilege of walking with young people in different stages of life
— those struggling with temptation, those climbing the mountains of leadership, and those
standing at the crossroads of big life decisions. I wrote this book to guide, encourage, and
inspire youth between the ages of 10 to 21. Whether you’re in school, at home, in a club, or
already in the workplace, these pages are for you.

Each chapter offers biblical truth, practical guidance, real-life wisdom, and powerful
encouragement. We will talk openly about tough issues: drugs, sex, social media, peer influence,
career choices, and identity. But we will also celebrate the strength God gives to rise above — to
live with integrity and to motivate others by example.
This book is your companion on the journey to becoming not just a good youth — but a godly
one. One who stands firm. One who shines.
So open your heart. Open your Bible. And let’s walk together.
Welcome to Morals & Motivation — your roadmap to living right and rising higher.
CHAPTER 1: Understanding Morals
“The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity.”
— Proverbs 11:3

What Are Morals?

Morals are the principles that help us know the difference between right and wrong. They are
the spiritual and ethical values that guide our decisions, actions, and behaviors.
As young people growing in a world full of challenges, peer pressure, and digital confusion, it’s
easy to be misled by what’s popular instead of what’s right. But as followers of Christ, we are
called to stand firm in our values — even when it’s unpopular.

Why Are Morals Important?

They protect your future from harm and shame.
They earn you respect from parents, teachers, and society.
They help you honor God with your choices.
They keep your conscience clean and heart at peace.

Bible Examples of Moral Strength

Joseph in Egypt refused to sin with Potiphar’s wife (Genesis 39). He chose to suffer rather than
sin.
Daniel refused to eat unclean food in Babylon and remained pure in a pagan land (Daniel 1).
Jesus stood against temptation in the wilderness with Scripture (Matthew 4).
These youth models show us that even in strange or hard situations, we can choose what is
right.

Common Moral Struggles in Youth

Lying to cover up mistakes

Cheating in exams
Gossip and bullying
Disrespecting parents or church leaders
Peer pressure to join bad behavior

How Can I Develop Good Morals?

Study God’s Word: The Bible is your moral compass. (Psalm 119:105)
Pray Daily: Ask for wisdom and courage.
Surround Yourself with Good People: “Bad company ruins good morals” (1 Corinthians 15:33).
Confess and Repent: If you fall, get back up — God forgives.
Think Before You Act: Always ask, “Would Jesus be happy with this?”

Youth Reflection
Think about a time you had to choose between right and wrong. What did you do? How did it
make you feel?
Who are your moral role models? Why do you look up to them?

Memory Verse:
Psalm 119:9
"How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to Your word."

Youth Challenge:
This week, choose one moral habit you want to grow in:
Honesty
Kindness
Respect
Responsibility
Sexual purity
Write it down. Pray over it every day. Practice it at home, school, and church.
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Motivation That Lasts – Where do we find strength when life gets tough?
CHAPTER 2: Motivation That Lasts
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
— Philippians 4:13

What Is Motivation?
Motivation is the inner drive that pushes you to do something — to keep going, even when it’s
hard. It’s the “why” behind your actions.
For youth, motivation is essential because you face many challenges: school, friendships, family
expectations, and personal dreams. Without motivation, it’s easy to give up or lose focus.

Types of Motivation
External Motivation: This comes from outside, like rewards, praise, or fear of punishment.
Internal Motivation: This comes from within, like your dreams, values, or faith.
Both are important, but lasting motivation comes from within, especially when rooted in God.

How Does the Bible Help Us Stay Motivated?

Jesus taught perseverance: Even though He faced rejection and suffering, He kept going to fulfill
God’s plan (Hebrews 12:1-3).
Paul encouraged believers: He reminded them that hardships produce strength and hope
(Romans 5:3-5).
God’s promises motivate us: We know God is always with us and will give us strength (Isaiah
40:31).
Overcoming Challenges to Motivation
Fear of failure: Remember, God’s grace is bigger than any mistake.
Lack of support: Find mentors, friends, or church leaders who encourage you.
Feeling tired or discouraged: Pray and ask God for renewed energy and hope.

How to Build Lasting Motivation?

Set clear goals: Know what you want and why.
Break goals into small steps: Celebrate little wins.
Keep a journal: Track your progress and prayers.
Surround yourself with positive influences: Avoid negative peer pressure.
Remember your purpose in Christ: Your motivation should honor God.

Youth Reflection
What motivates you to get up every day?
When do you feel the most discouraged? How do you overcome it?
 Memory Verse:
Isaiah 40:31
"But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint."

Youth Challenge:
This week, write down one goal you want to achieve and list three reasons why it matters to
you. Share it with a friend or mentor and pray together for motivation and strength.
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Facing Temptation: Staying Strong in a Challenging World
CHAPTER 3: Facing Temptation: Staying Strong in a Challenging World
“No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he
will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also
provide a way out so that you can endure it.”
— 1 Corinthians 10:13

What Is Temptation?
Temptation is the desire to do something that you know is wrong or harmful. It’s a test of your
values and self-control. Everyone faces temptation, but how you respond shapes your character
and your future.
For young people especially, temptations can come from many places: friends, media, loneliness,
or even your own thoughts.

Why Is It Hard to Resist Temptation?

Temptation often looks fun or harmless at first.
It can promise quick pleasure or relief from stress.
Sometimes peer pressure makes it feel like the “normal” choice.
Temptation can feel stronger when you’re tired, stressed, or lonely.

Common Temptations Youth Face Today

Drugs and alcohol: Often introduced as “just for fun,” but they harm your body, mind, and soul.
Sexual temptation: Pressure to engage in sexual activity before marriage can lead to emotional
and physical pain.

Lying and cheating: Tempting shortcuts that damage trust and integrity.
Gossip and bullying: Hurts others and breaks community.
Negative peer pressure: Feeling forced to join in bad behavior to fit in.

How Does the Bible Help Us Fight Temptation?

Jesus’ example: When tempted in the wilderness, Jesus used Scripture to resist (Matthew 4:1-
11). You can do the same!
God’s promise: You are never alone in your struggle; God will give you strength (Psalm 34:17).
Prayer: Asking God for help can give you power and peace (James 1:5).
Accountability: Being honest with trusted friends or leaders helps you stay strong.
 Practical Steps to Stay Strong
Know your triggers: Identify situations or friends that tempt you.
Make a plan: Decide in advance how you will say “No.” Practice it.
Stay busy: Engage in hobbies, church activities, sports, or study.
Avoid risky situations: If a place or group makes temptation stronger, avoid it.
Memorize Scripture: Keep verses about strength and purity in your heart.
Ask for help: Don’t be ashamed to talk to a trusted adult or pastor.

The Power of Saying “No”

Saying “No” to temptation is a sign of strength, not weakness. It shows you respect yourself and
God’s plan for your life. Every time you resist, you build character and confidence.

Youth Reflection
Write about a time you faced temptation. How did you respond?
Who can you talk to when you feel tempted?
Memory Verse:
James 4:7
"Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you."

Youth Challenge:
T, memorize 1 Corinthians 10:13. When tempted, remind yourself of God’s promise. Practice
saying “No” firmly in role-plays with a friend or youth leader.

The Reward of Staying Strong

Resisting temptation brings freedom, peace, and respect from others. It helps you grow into a
leader with integrity, ready to inspire others by your example.

Remember, you are not alone. God is with you every step.
CHAPTER 4: Dangerous Detours — Drugs & Alcohol
By Eddie Ng'andu
Matero Mission District | Matero West SDA Church | Adventist Youth Ministries

1. Effects on Your Body, Mind, and Future

God created you with a body that is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). But drugs
and alcohol aim to corrupt that masterpiece.

Body Effects:
Drugs damage key systems in the body. Alcohol weakens the liver, hardens arteries, and leads to
long-term diseases. Smoking harms your lungs and reduces oxygen levels in the blood. Injecting
drugs puts people at risk for HIV and hepatitis. These substances do not help the body — they
destroy it slowly.

Mind Effects:
The brain, still developing especially until age 25, is highly affected by drugs. Drugs change how
the brain thinks, reacts, and feels. They reduce memory, destroy concentration, and cause
confusion and even mental illness. Many users develop depression and paranoia. Some become
violent or suicidal.

Future Impact:
Dreams are delayed or even destroyed. A young person who once wanted to become a doctor,
engineer, or leader may lose their vision, drop out of school, and become dependent on
substances. Addiction leads to financial problems, broken relationships, job loss, and sometimes
prison or death.

God has a plan for your life — and that plan includes health, wisdom, and a clear future. Don’t
give the enemy a way to steal it.

2. Real-Life Stories & Testimonies

Story 1: The Class Genius Who Fell
Moses was once the smartest boy in his class in Lusaka. But one term, he started mixing with
boys who smoked marijuana. His performance dropped. He stopped coming to school regularly.
By the time he wrote his Grade 12 exams, he failed most subjects. Teachers were shocked. His
mother cried in pain. Moses tried to change, but addiction had taken over. His dreams faded. He
was arrested twice for theft to support his habit.

Story 2: She Survived and Became a Voice

Lindiwe started drinking at 14. It was "just fun," but soon turned into a lifestyle. She lost friends
and respect. Her body weakened, and she nearly overdosed at a party. But God rescued her. She
joined a Christian rehab center and turned her life around. Today, she speaks to young girls
about escaping addiction. “I was broken, but Jesus restored me,” she says.

What Can You Learn?

Drugs don’t show their damage at the start.
You may think you’re in control — until you’re not.
Recovery is possible, but it’s a hard road. Prevention is better than cure.
Your story doesn’t have to be a tragedy — it can be a testimony.

3. Why Drugs Destroy Motivation

Drugs and alcohol attack your inner drive. That part of you that wakes up with a purpose,
attends church with passion, and wants to succeed — drugs silence it.

Motivation dies when:

Your focus shifts from purpose to pleasure.
You lose self-respect and spiritual awareness.
You lie, cheat, or steal to sustain a habit.
You stop believing in yourself or God’s plan.
The devil knows that once you’re trapped in drugs, your leadership potential is lost. He wants to
silence future preachers, teachers, and godly mothers.

But remember:
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” — Philippians 4:13
The more you keep your body pure and mind focused, the more motivated and powerful you
become for God’s mission.

4. How to Say NO with Strength

Saying “NO” is not weakness — it’s godly strength.
Here are practical tips:

Be direct:
“No thanks. I don’t do drugs or alcohol.” Say it confidently.

Avoid peer pressure zones:

Don’t hang around where you know trouble starts.

Pray before you go out:

Ask the Holy Spirit for wisdom and courage.
Use Scripture:
“My body is a temple of the Holy Spirit” (1 Corinthians 6:19).
Find positive friends:
True friends will respect your decision and even admire your courage.
Your “No” today is your “Yes” to a bright future.

5. Bible Focus
Ephesians 5:18 (NIV):
“Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit.”
This verse shows that being filled with God’s Spirit and being drunk cannot happen at the same
time. You must choose. One leads to disaster; the other leads to destiny.

Proverbs 20:1 (KJV):

“Wine is a mocker, strong drink is raging: and whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise.”
God is not against joy — but He warns against false joy from substances that deceive. Alcohol
promises happiness but delivers shame. True joy is found in the presence of God.

In Summary:
Drugs and alcohol are dangerous detours from your God-given path.
You have the power to say NO.
Let your story be a testimony, not a tragedy.
Be filled with the Holy Spirit, not with substance.
Choose purpose over pleasure.
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Living a Drug-Free Life: Your Body is a Temple
CHAPTER 5: Living a Drug-Free Life – Your Body is a Temple
“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you
have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God
with your bodies.”
— 1 Corinthians 6:19–20

What Are Drugs?

Drugs are substances that change how your body or mind works. Some are legal and helpful
when used properly (like medicine), but others are illegal or misused — leading to addiction,
harm, or death.

Common harmful substances include:

Alcohol
Marijuana
Cigarettes or tobacco
Prescription pills used without a doctor’s advice
Cocaine, heroin, ecstasy, and other street drugs

Why Do Young People Use Drugs?

Curiosity: “I just wanted to try it once.”
Peer pressure: Friends or social media influencers push them to “fit in.”
Stress and escape: Trying to forget pain, trauma, or loneliness.
Fun: The lie that drugs will make life more exciting or joyful.
But behind the temporary “fun” lies destruction: addiction, sickness, shame, even death.

What Does the Bible Say?

Your body is a temple of God. (1 Corinthians 6:19–20)
Be sober and alert. (1 Peter 5:8)
Do not conform to the world. (Romans 12:2)
Avoid harmful influences. (Proverbs 4:14–15)
God values your body, mind, and future. Drugs destroy what He created for His glory.

The Consequences of Drug Use

Physical effects: Lung damage, liver failure, brain damage, overdose
Mental effects: Depression, anxiety, loss of focus, poor memory
Spiritual effects: Guilt, loss of self-worth, separation from God
Social effects: Broken trust, loss of friends, school failure, arrests
Death: Yes, drugs kill — and often when it’s least expected.

How Can You Say NO to Drugs?

Know your worth: You are valuable, and your life has purpose.
Avoid risky places: Don’t go to parties or hang out where drugs are used.
Practice saying “NO”: Use strong, confident words:
“No thanks. I value my health.”
“I don’t need drugs to have fun.”
“I’m living for God — this isn’t for me.”
Have a support team: Surround yourself with people who love and protect you.
Pray for strength: God gives you power to stand firm.

Real Talk: Even Good Kids Fall

Sometimes, even Christian youth can fall into the trap. If that’s you:
Don’t hide in shame. Talk to a pastor, parent, or counselor.
Confess and ask for forgiveness (1 John 1:9).
Start again — God restores and renews.

Youth Reflection
Why do you think some youth use drugs even when they know the risks?
What would you say to a friend trying to pressure you into using drugs?

Memory Verse
1 Peter 5:8
"Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for
someone to devour."

Youth Challenge
Write down 3 reasons you want to live drug-free.
Example:
I want to stay healthy.
I want to serve God with a clear mind.
I want to be a good example to others.
Tape it somewhere you’ll see it every day — your mirror, Bible, or bedroom wall.

Final Encouragement
Living a drug-free life is not just about saying no to poison — it's saying yes to your future, yes
to God’s plan, and yes to a life of purpose.
You are stronger than temptation. You are more valuable than any substance. And you are never
alone — God is walking with you.

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Chapter 6: Sexual Purity – Guarding Your Heart and Body
CHAPTER 6: Sexual Purity – Guarding Your Heart and Body
“How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word.”
— Psalm 119:9

Understanding Sexual Purity

Sexual purity means keeping your thoughts, body, and relationships in line with God's design.
It’s about respecting yourself, others, and God by choosing not to engage in sexual activity
outside the boundaries of marriage. It also includes what we think, watch, and say — not just
what we do with our bodies.

What the Bible Says

“Flee from sexual immorality.” – 1 Corinthians 6:18
“Your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit.” – 1 Corinthians 6:19
“Blessed are the pure in heart.” – Matthew 5:8
“Let no one despise your youth; be an example.” – 1 Timothy 4:12

Why It Matters
Obedience to God – He calls us to holiness.
Emotional Protection – Sexual sin often leads to pain, regret, and confusion.
Physical Health – You avoid sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unplanned pregnancies.
Future Blessings – Saving yourself builds trust and honor in future relationships.
Spiritual Strength – Purity draws you closer to God and sharpens your purpose.

Temptations Young People Face

Media (TV, music, social media)
Peer pressure and unhealthy friendships
Curiosity and hormones
Loneliness and desire for acceptance
Being alone in compromising situations

How to Stay Pure

Know Your Worth – You are a child of God with great value.
Set Boundaries – Decide now what you won’t do before the temptation comes.
Guard Your Mind – Avoid watching, listening to, or reading things that arouse impure thoughts.
Pray for Strength – God gives power to overcome temptation.
Find Accountability – Talk to a trusted mentor, parent, or pastor.
Be Busy with Purpose – Focus on studies, talents, and service to stay strong and pure.

Healing from the Past

If you’ve made mistakes, don’t give up.
God still loves you.
You are not your past.
You can be forgiven and restored.
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us...” – 1 John 1:9

Youth Reflection
Why do you think purity is difficult in today’s world?
What steps can you take to protect your purity starting today?

Memory Verse
“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each
of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable.”
— 1 Thessalonians 4:3–4
Youth Challenge
Write a purity pledge like this:
“Today, I choose to honor God with my body. I will set boundaries, avoid temptation, and seek
His strength daily. I am worth waiting for, and I will trust God with my future.”
Put it in your Bible or mirror as a daily reminder.

Final Encouragement
Your body is precious. Your heart is valuable. Don’t trade them for a moment of pressure or
pleasure. God's plan is always better, and His strength is always available.
Stay pure. Stay strong. Stay close to God.
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Chapter 7 - Friendship and Relationships – Choosing the Right People
CHAPTER 7: Friendship and Relationships – Choosing the Right People
“Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character.”
— 1 Corinthians 15:33

The Power of Friends

Friends shape your thoughts, your habits, and even your destiny. As a young person, the people
you spend time with influence your values, dreams, and choices. Good friends help you grow —
bad friends can lead you away from God’s plan.

Show me your friends, and I will show you your future.

What the Bible Teaches

“Walk with the wise and become wise.” — Proverbs 13:20
“A friend loves at all times.” — Proverbs 17:17
“Do to others as you would have them do to you.” — Luke 6:31
“Two are better than one... if one falls, the other helps him up.” — Ecclesiastes 4:9–10

Signs of a Good Friend

Respects your values and beliefs.
Encourages your goals.
Tells you the truth — even when it’s hard.
Lifts you up spiritually.
Loyal and dependable.

Signs of a Toxic Friend

Pressures you to lie, cheat, or disobey.
Talks behind your back.
Discourages your dreams.
Introduces you to bad habits (drugs, sex, alcohol).
Makes you feel worthless or fearful.

Friendship and Jesus

Jesus Himself had friends — but He chose them wisely. He also set boundaries. He loved
everyone, but He didn’t let everyone into His inner circle.
You can be kind to all — but not everyone should have influence in your life.

Romantic Relationships: Wait or Date?

Young people often feel pressure to date early. But is it the right time?
Questions to Ask:
Am I emotionally ready for a relationship?
Is this person helping me grow closer to God?
Are we building friendship or just chasing feelings?
Do my parents or mentors support this relationship?

Remember: Real love waits. It protects, it doesn’t pressure.

Infatuation fades — purpose stays.

Purity in Relationships
Set clear boundaries early.
Don’t be alone in tempting situations.

Talk openly with someone older and wiser.

Pray for wisdom before entering any romantic relationship.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” — Proverbs 4:23

Building Godly Friendships

Join youth groups and Bible study circles.
Serve others together (e.g., community service).
Choose friends who speak life, not gossip or hate.
Pray with and for your friends.

Youth Reflection
Who are your five closest friends? Are they helping you grow or pulling you down?
Are you the kind of friend others can trust?

Memory Verse
“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”
— Proverbs 27:17

Youth Challenge
List 3 traits of a friend you want to be.
Write a short prayer asking God to guide your friendships.

Example:
“Lord, help me choose my friends wisely. Give me courage to let go of toxic relationships and
strengthen the godly ones. Help me be a true friend like Jesus. Amen.”

Final Encouragement
Good friendships are a gift. They give you strength, joy, and purpose. Be the friend you want to
have — and let God lead you in building relationships that last and bring glory to Him.
Next Chapter Preview:
Chapter 7 – Motivation for School and Life – Discovering Your Purpose
CHAPTER 8: Motivation for School and Life – Discovering Your Purpose
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm
you, plans to give you a future and a hope.”
— Jeremiah 29:11

The Importance of Purpose

Every young person is born with potential. God did not create anyone by mistake. You were born
for a reason. Knowing your purpose gives you a reason to get up in the morning, study harder,
work better, and live with joy.

Purpose is the fuel for life. Without it, motivation dies.

School: A Step Toward Your Destiny

Some youth lose interest in school because they don’t see its value. But education is a tool God
uses to build your future. It trains your mind, shapes your habits, and opens doors of
opportunity.

Remember:
Education is not just about passing exams — it’s about preparing for your mission in life.

What the Bible Says About Diligence

“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart.” — Colossians 3:23

“Lazy hands make for poverty, but diligent hands bring wealth.” — Proverbs 10:4

“Commit your plans to the Lord, and they will succeed.” — Proverbs 16:3

“The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing.” — Proverbs 13:4

Staying Motivated in School

Set clear goals – Know what you want to achieve this term or year.
Stay organized – Keep a study schedule and avoid last-minute cramming.
Celebrate small wins – Even passing one test is progress!
Ask for help – From teachers, friends, or older students.
Study with prayer – God gives wisdom to those who ask (James 1:5).

Avoiding Distractions
Many young people are distracted by:
Social media
Gossip and drama
Romantic distractions
Laziness or procrastination
Drugs and alcohol
Peer pressure

Action Step: Remove what blocks your growth. Be wise about what you give your time to.

Discovering Your Life Purpose

Ask yourself:
What do I love doing?
What problems do I feel called to solve?
What talents has God given me?
What do people often come to me for help with?
Your passion + your ability + God's direction = your life purpose

Examples of Purpose in the Bible

David was young but anointed to be king.
Joseph was betrayed but rose to lead Egypt.
Daniel was taken as a captive, but became a wise government leader.
Esther used her position to save her people.
Lesson: No matter where you start, God can lead you to greatness.

Youth Reflection
What motivates you to succeed in school and in life?
What one thing is holding you back?
What dream has God placed in your heart?

Memory Verse
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways
submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.”
— Proverbs 3:5–6

Youth Challenge
Write down one short-term goal (3 months) and one long-term goal (2–5 years).
Share them with someone who can help keep you accountable.

Example:

Short-term: Improve my science grade this term.

Long-term: Become a teacher or nurse and serve my community.

Final Encouragement
God has a special plan for your life. Don’t let failure, fear, or other people’s opinions hold you
back. Stay in school, grow in wisdom, and keep your eyes on your mission.
You were born on purpose — for a purpose.
CHAPTER 9: Digital Morals in a Digital Age — written specifically for ages 10–21, including real-
world guidance, biblical truth.
CHAPTER 9: Digital Morals in a Digital Age
By Eddie Ng'andu
Matero Mission District | Matero West SDA Church | Adventist Youth Ministries

1. Social Media Temptations

Today’s youth are the first full digital generation — born with screens, apps, and Wi-Fi all
around them. But with this great opportunity comes a dangerous trap: digital temptation.

Here are some common temptations online:

Inappropriate content (nudity, violence, profanity)
Addiction to likes and comments
Cyberbullying
Fake lives & comparisons
Private chats with bad influence
Wasting hours scrolling meaningless content
The devil doesn’t need to come to your house. He just needs access to your screen.
The danger isn’t always what’s on the screen — it’s how it shapes your heart, mind, and morals.
You can love God but still fall if you don’t guard your eyes.
“I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes.” – Psalm 101:3

2. Being a Light Online

Jesus said,
“You are the light of the world… let your light shine before others.” – Matthew 5:14-16
Your online presence matters.
You can use your phone to:
Share a verse or testimony
Encourage a friend in crisis
Post good content — clean humor, wisdom, and truth
Correct lies by posting Scripture

Ask yourself before you post:

Would Jesus like this post? Would He comment “Amen” or walk away?

3. Setting Tech Boundaries

Technology is not evil — but without boundaries, it can control you.
Just like roads need guardrails to prevent cars from falling, your life needs digital boundaries to
stay safe, holy, and focused.
Here are wise tech boundaries every young Christian should apply:

1. Time Limits
Set a daily screen-time limit (e.g., 2 hours total).
Avoid using your phone before devotion or right before bed.
Use tools like app timers and “Focus Mode.”

2. Filter What You See

Use parental controls or accountability apps.
Avoid following people or pages that promote sinful behavior, nudity, or negative content.
If it would make Jesus sad, don’t click it.

3. Purpose Over Popularity

Don’t post just to be seen — post to inspire, witness, or encourage.
Avoid TikTok challenges or trends that compromise your values.
Don’t argue online. Use the internet to reflect Christ, not to fight or show off.

4. Talk About It
If you’re struggling with porn, sexting, or digital temptation, confess it to a mentor or godly
adult.
Darkness loses power when exposed to light.
Your phone should be a tool — not your master.
Let tech serve your purpose in God, not replace it.

4. Bible Focus
Philippians 4:8 (NIV)
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is
pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think
about such things.”

This is your ultimate digital filter.

Before you open that app, like that post, or comment on a photo — ask:
Is it true? Is it noble? Is it pure?
If not, skip it. Don’t give your mind garbage when God has given you [Link] 12:2
(KJV)
“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind…”

The internet tries to make you conform — dress like them, talk like them, think like them. But
you are set apart.
Through God’s Word, you can renew your mind and be transformed — not trapped.

Closing Challenge:
Don’t let your device disciple you. Let Jesus lead your digital life.
Shine your light even online.
Protect your mind with filters, truth, and time limits.
Use every click, post, and view to glorify the One who gave you life.
Next Chapter Preview: Chapter9 – Faith and Prayer – Staying Connected to God
CHAPTER 10: Staying Spiritually Motivated
Faith and Prayer – Staying Connected to God
“Without faith it is impossible to please God.”
— Hebrews 11:6

What Is Faith?
Faith is trusting God even when you can’t see the full picture. It’s believing that God loves you,
has a plan for you, and will walk with you through every season of life.

Faith says:
“I don’t know how, but I know Who is in control.”

Why Prayer Matters

Prayer is not just asking God for things. It’s a relationship. It’s talking to your Father in heaven.
It’s where your faith grows and where your heart finds peace.

Prayer gives direction.

Prayer gives strength.
Prayer builds your friendship with Jesus.
“Prayer is the breath of the soul.” — E.G. White

Biblical Examples of Faith and Prayer

Daniel prayed three times a day — even when it could cost him his life. (Daniel 6)
David cried to God in the Psalms and found strength. (Psalm 23, 51)
Jesus often withdrew to pray, especially before major decisions. (Luke 5:16)
Hannah prayed in tears, and God gave her a son. (1 Samuel 1)
These people show that faith plus prayer equals power.

How to Grow Your Faith

Read the Bible daily – Even one verse a day is a start.
Pray in your own words – God understands your language.
Surround yourself with people of faith – It builds your own.
Obey God’s voice – Faith grows through action.
Give thanks even in hard times – Faith sees beyond the storm.

How to Pray as a Young Person

Start with this simple model: A.C.T.S.
A – Adoration: Tell God how great He is.
C – Confession: Admit your sins and ask for forgiveness.
T – Thanksgiving: Thank Him for what He has done.
S – Supplication: Ask Him for help for yourself and others.

Prayer is not about perfect words — it's about a sincere heart.

Why Some Prayers Feel Unanswered

Sometimes God says:
YES – Because it’s best for you.
NO – Because He has something better.
WAIT – Because it’s not the right time yet.

Romans 8:28 reminds us:

“All things work together for good to those who love God.”

Faith in Difficult Times

Even when you feel alone, God is near. Keep praying. Don’t give up.
Faith is holding God’s hand in the dark.

Youth Reflection
What do you usually pray about?
Have you ever seen God answer your prayers?
What area of your life do you need more faith in right now?

Memory Verse
“If you have faith as small as a mustard seed... nothing will be impossible for you.”
— Matthew 17:20

Youth Challenge
Keep a prayer journal for 7 days.
Each day, write one thing you prayed for and how you felt afterward.
At the end of the week, write down how your connection with God has grown.

Final Encouragement
Faith is your lifeline. Prayer is your power. You are never too young to have a strong relationship
with God. Keep talking to Him, trusting Him, and walking with Him daily.
Jesus is not just for adults — He is your best friend too.
Next Chapter Preview: Chapter 11 – Overcoming Temptations and Making Wise Choices
CHAPTER 11: Overcoming Temptations and Making Wise Choices
“No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; He
will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.”
— 1 Corinthians 10:13

1. What Is Temptation?
Temptation is the strong desire to do something wrong, especially when it feels good or seems
easy. Everyone faces it — even Jesus was tempted in the wilderness (Matthew 4:1–11).
Temptation itself is not sin — but giving in to it is.
Common Youth Temptations:
Lying or cheating (especially in school)
Sexual pressure (from friends, media, or dating)
Drugs and alcohol (peer influence)
Pornography (secret viewing)
Stealing (even small items)
Skipping church or growing spiritually cold
Pride, anger, jealousy, gossip
The devil knows your weaknesses and sets traps — but God gives you power to resist.

2. Jesus Was Tempted – And He Won

Jesus faced temptation in three major areas:
Physical desires – “Turn these stones to bread”
Pride – “Throw yourself down, angels will catch you”
Power and fame – “Worship me, and I’ll give you all the kingdoms”
Each time, Jesus answered with Scripture:
“It is written…” – Matthew 4
Lesson: You can fight temptation with the Word of God!

3. How to Say “No” When It’s Hard

1. Pray for strength – Before temptation comes
2. Know the Word – It’s your sword (Ephesians 6:17)
3. Flee from bad situations – Don’t hang around danger (2 Timothy 2:22)
4. Choose friends wisely – You become like those you spend time with (1 Corinthians 15:33)
5. Have a “No” ready – Practice saying it aloud. Example: “I’m not into that,” “That’s not who I
am,” “I respect myself.”

4. Biblical Heroes Who Faced Temptation

Joseph – Fled from Potiphar’s wife when she tried to seduce him (Genesis 39)
Daniel – Refused to eat the king’s food or stop praying to God (Daniel 1 & 6)
David – Gave in to temptation with Bathsheba, but later repented deeply (2 Samuel 11–12)
Jesus – Faced every temptation but sinned not (Hebrews 4:15)
Key Truth: You’re not alone. Others have walked the same path and overcome.
5. Peer Pressure and Standing Alone
Sometimes, you’ll be the only one saying “no.” That’s hard — but that’s leadership.
Stand for purity.
Choose sobriety over parties.
Say no to shortcuts (cheating, lying, theft).
Walk out of conversations that are toxic.
“Even if everyone else is doing it, I won’t.”
This is what makes you a champion of God.

6. God Always Provides a Way Out

“And God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are
tempted, He will also provide a way out.”
— 1 Corinthians 10:13

Look for your exit door in every temptation:

Change the subject
Leave the room
Call a spiritual friend
Say a quick silent prayer
Read a Bible verse

7. Making Wise Choices Daily

“Wise choices today prepare a great future tomorrow.”
Every choice counts — big or small. Make them with God in mind.

Ask yourself:
Will this please God?
Will this bring me closer to my purpose?
Will I regret this later?

If someone I respect was watching me, would I still do this?

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart… He will direct your paths.”
— Proverbs 3:5–6

Youth Reflection
What tempts you the most right now?
Who can you talk to when you feel weak?
What Bible verse strengthens you against temptation?

Memory Verses
“I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.” — Psalm 119:11
“Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” — James 4:7
“Be holy, for I am holy.” — 1 Peter 1:16

Youth Challenge
Memorize 3 verses this week that help you resist temptation.
Write a letter to your future self, explaining why you chose purity, truth, and wisdom.

Final Encouragement
Temptation is real, but so is victory. You’re not weak — you have the Holy Spirit. With prayer,
Scripture, and courage, you can overcome anything. Be bold. Be wise. Be different.
You were made to rise above the crowd — don’t bow down to pressure.
Next Chapter Preview: Chapter 12– Christian Leadership and Responsibility as a Young Person
CHAPTER 12: Christian Leadership and Responsibility as a Young Person
“Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love,
in spirit, in faith, in purity.”
— 1 Timothy 4:12

1. What Is Christian Leadership?

Christian leadership isn’t just about standing in front. It’s about serving with love, influencing
others through godly living, and reflecting Jesus in everything you do.

Christian Leadership Is:

Leading by example
Serving before commanding
Staying humble and prayerful
Being accountable to God and others
Jesus washed His disciples' feet — the greatest Leader was also the greatest Servant (John 13:1–
17).

2. You Don’t Have to Be Old to Lead

Many young people think leadership is for grown-ups. But in the Bible, God used youth to
change the world:
David – A teenage shepherd who killed Goliath and became king (1 Samuel 17)
Daniel – Taken as a young captive but became a wise leader in Babylon (Daniel 1)
Jeremiah – Called to be a prophet while he was still young (Jeremiah 1:6–7)
Mary – A humble young woman chosen to carry Jesus (Luke 1:26–38)
Age doesn’t stop God. He looks for willing hearts.

3. Leading at Church, School, and Home

You can be a leader right now — where you are:

At Home
Respect your parents
Help with chores without being asked
Encourage your younger siblings

At School
Refuse cheating and gossip
Befriend the lonely
Lead in classroom devotions or cleanups

At Church
Take part in Pathfinders, Ambassadors, AY, or Sabbath School
Volunteer to read Scripture, pray, or lead songs
Respect your elders and inspire younger kids
True leadership starts in small things. Be faithful where you are.

4. Taking Responsibility
Responsibility means being trustworthy, honest, and reliable. It's doing the right thing even
when no one is watching.
Responsible Youth:
Arrive on time
Keep promises
Apologize when wrong
Finish tasks with excellence
Avoid excuses
“Whoever can be trusted with little can also be trusted with much.”
— Luke 16:10

5. Being a Spiritual Leader

God wants you to lead others closer to Him. That means:
Praying with your friends
Sharing your testimony
Living a clean, holy life
Speaking up against wrong
You may be the only Bible some people ever read. Let your life shine for Christ!

“In everything set them an example by doing what is good.”

— Titus 2:7

Youth Reflection
What leadership roles have you had in church, school, or home?
What makes someone a leader even without a title?
How can you be a better example this week?

Memory Verse
“Let no one despise your youth, but be an example.”
— 1 Timothy 4:12

Youth Challenge
Choose one area this week where you will take more responsibility.
Start a “Leadership Journal” where you record acts of service, growth, and prayer.
Final Encouragement
You don’t need a microphone, badge, or title to be a leader. Your example, faith, kindness, and
courage speak louder than words. Start where you are. Lead with love. God will guide your
steps.
You are a leader in God’s army — stand tall, stay pure, and lead others to Jesus.
CHAPTER 13: Leading by Example
By Eddie Ng'andu
Matero Mission District | Matero West SDA Church | Adventist Youth Ministries

1. Youth Leaders, Peer Mentors, Club Captains

Leadership is not just about holding a title — it’s about carrying responsibility. Whether you're
an Adventurer captain, Pathfinder squad leader, youth choir conductor, or a prefect at school,
your position comes with influence.

Young people naturally watch those just a few steps ahead of them. If you are 14, someone aged
10 looks up to you. If you are 20, the teenagers behind you are copying what you do.
Leadership starts with example, not with age.
Peer leadership includes:
Being the one who stands for right even when others don’t.
Helping fellow youth who are struggling — not judging them.
Promoting unity and purpose in the team, not gossip and division.
Learning from mentors, and becoming a mentor to others.
In the church, God uses young Davids, Josiahs, and Esthers — youth who say “Yes, Lord” even
when it’s uncomfortable.

2. Your Life as a Sermon

You may not stand behind a pulpit, but your actions preach every day.
“Preach the gospel at all times; use words if necessary.” – Attributed to St. Francis of Assisi
Every time you:
Help someone who’s hurt
Dress modestly
Avoid dirty jokes or disrespectful language
Defend someone from bullying

Open your Bible in public

Refuse to compromise your values
You are preaching a powerful sermon.
The best sermon your friends will ever hear is how you live, not what you say.
Let your Instagram page, your WhatsApp status, your school behavior, your classroom conduct,
and your AYM uniform preach Christ.
“Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father
in heaven.” – Matthew 5:16

3. Making a Difference at School, Church, and Home

Wherever you are placed — that’s your mission field.
At School:
Don’t just aim to pass exams. Be kind, respectful, and a light to others.
Refuse to cheat, bully, or gossip. Encourage your classmates.
Respect teachers — even the strict ones. You are showing God’s character.

At Church:
Arrive early, serve willingly, and participate with a joyful spirit.
Support your youth leaders. Don't just criticize — contribute.
Help younger children. Be a big brother or sister to Adventurers and Juniors.

At Home:
Obey your parents with a good attitude.
Help with chores without waiting to be reminded.
Create peace, not arguments.
Pray for your family. Let your room be a sanctuary, not a battlefield.
True leadership begins in your private life before it shows in public.

4. Bible Focus: 1 Timothy 4:12 (KJV)

“Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in
conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.”
This verse is a leadership blueprint for every young person:
In word: Speak with honesty and wisdom.
In conversation: Keep your communication respectful and uplifting.
In charity: Let your love be seen through your actions.
In spirit: Stay positive, hopeful, and Christlike even in challenges.
In faith: Trust in God’s promises and don’t be ashamed to share your faith.
In purity: Protect your body, your mind, and your heart from sin.
God is raising a generation of young leaders who lead by example.
He’s not waiting for you to grow older — He’s waiting for you to say “Here I am, Lord, send me.”

Closing Thought:
You may be the only Bible someone will ever read.
Let your life shine so brightly that others find Jesus through your footsteps.
Next Chapter Preview: Chapter 14 – Choosing Purpose Over Popularity
CHAPTER 14: Choosing Purpose Over Popularity
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
— Romans 12:2

1. The Pressure to Be Liked

Being young means facing pressure to fit in. Social media, schoolmates, even church friends can
make you feel like you have to:
Wear certain clothes
Speak or act a certain way
Join trends, parties, or gossip
Compromise morals to “belong”
Pretend to be someone you’re not

The world teaches:

"Be popular, be cool, get likes."

But God says:

"Be different, be holy, follow Me."
The choice is yours: Purpose or Popularity.

2. Purpose: God’s Reason for Your Life

Purpose is your God-given reason for living. It’s not about fame — it’s about faithfulness.
“Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you…”
— Jeremiah 1:5

God made you with:

A mission
A message
A ministry
A unique identity
Don’t trade your identity to please people who don’t understand your assignment.
You were created to make an impact, not just impressions.

3. Biblical Examples: Purpose Over Popularity

Moses – Chose to suffer with God’s people rather than enjoy palace comfort (Hebrews 11:24–
26)
Shadrach, Meshach, Abednego – Refused to bow to the idol, even if it meant death (Daniel 3)
Esther – Risked her life to save her people, knowing her purpose was “for such a time as this”
(Esther 4:14)
Jesus – Rejected by many, but never left His purpose: saving us (John 6:66–68)
They didn’t seek applause — they sought obedience. And God honored them.
4. The Trap of Popularity
Wanting to be liked isn’t bad — but craving popularity can make you:
Lie or exaggerate
Copy ungodly behavior
Compromise values
Become proud or fake
Lose focus on your destiny
Popularity is like perfume — nice to smell, dangerous to swallow.

Instead of chasing attention, build your character. God promotes those who stay humble and
true.

5. How to Live on Purpose

1. Spend time with God daily – He will reveal your purpose (Psalm 119:105)
2. Discover your gifts – Music? Teaching? Serving? Writing? Start small.
3. Say “no” to distractions – Not every fun thing is a good thing (1 Corinthians 10:23)
4. Choose godly friends – Your circle shapes your future
5. Keep your eyes on Jesus – Not on the crowd
“Seek first the kingdom of God…” — Matthew 6:33

6. When Purpose Makes You Unpopular

Standing for your purpose may cost you:
Friends
Fame
Followers
Fitting in
But it gives you:
Peace
Power
Fulfillment
Eternal reward
Don’t lose your purpose trying to please the crowd.
Remember: Jesus was rejected by many, but He never lost focus.

7. Youth Reflection
Have I ever changed who I am to fit in?
What makes me unique in God’s plan?
Am I choosing purpose or popularity today?

Memory Verses
“Am I now trying to win the approval of people, or of God?” — Galatians 1:10
“Whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” — 1 Corinthians 10:31
“Trust in the Lord… and He will direct your paths.” — Proverbs 3:5–6

Youth Challenge
Write a mission statement: "I was born to…"
Unfollow or delete one influence (social media, show, or friend) pulling you away from
purpose.
Take one action toward your purpose this week (join a ministry, write a blog, start a devotion
group, etc.)

Final Encouragement
You are not average. You were not born to blend in. You are called, chosen, and sent to shine.
Choose purpose. It lasts longer than popularity.
Next Chapter Preview: CHAPTER 15: Morals & Motivation in Career and Life, written for youth
and young adults ages 10–21. It explores how values and godly motivation impact future
careers, school success, and lifelong purpose — all anchored in Proverbs 3:5–6.
CHAPTER 15: Morals & Motivation in Career and Life
Eddie Ng'andu
Matero Mission District | Matero West SDA Church | Adventist Youth Ministries

1. Choosing a Path That Honors God

One of the biggest decisions you will ever make is what to become in life — a teacher, nurse,
engineer, farmer, pastor, lawyer, or entrepreneur. But before you choose a career, ask this:
Will this path honor God? Will it allow me to serve others and grow in faith?
God has already placed a purpose in your heart. The talents you enjoy — singing, fixing things,
caring for others, solving problems — are clues to your calling.

Steps to Choose a God-Honoring Path:

Pray for direction. Ask God to show you His will.
Know your gifts. What do you do naturally well?
Talk to mentors. Ask your youth leader, teacher, or pastor for guidance.
Avoid shortcuts. Careers that involve lying, bribery, selling alcohol or promoting sin will never
bring lasting peace — even if they bring quick money.
“In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.” – Proverbs 3:6
A career that honors God brings peace, purpose, and joy — even during tough times.

2. Building Good Work Habits

Success is not magic — it comes from daily discipline and godly character.
Whether you're in school, doing chores at home, or starting a small business — your attitude
and behavior matter more than your title.
Habits of a Morally Strong and Motivated Youth:
 Start your day with prayer and planning.
 Be on time. Time is a gift — don’t waste it.
 Do your best always. Even when no one is watching, God sees.
 Avoid laziness and excuses.
 Take responsibility for your mistakes. Own them, learn, and grow.
“Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might.” – Ecclesiastes 9:10
A lazy youth today becomes a disappointed adult tomorrow. But a disciplined and focused youth
becomes a responsible leader.

3. Motivation in the Workplace and School

Motivation is like fuel — without it, you stop moving. But not all fuel is good. Some people are
only motivated by money or fame. As a Christian, your motivation should be to glorify God and
make a difference.

How to Stay Motivated:

 Set goals (academic, spiritual, personal)
 Celebrate progress, not just perfection
 Surround yourself with positive friends
  Stay connected to God's Word and prayer
 Serve others — true motivation grows when you help someone else succeed

In school, study as if your education is a gift from God (because it is!). At work, do your job as if
Jesus Himself is your supervisor (Colossians 3:23). In business, be honest — let people trust
your name.
Your reputation is your silent CV — it speaks even when you are not in the room.

4. Bible Focus: Proverbs 3:5–6 (KJV)

“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.”
This verse reminds us of three powerful truths:
 God knows better than you.
 You must invite Him into every decision — not just pray after things go wrong.
 When you follow His direction, He will never lead you to regret.
Let your career journey, school life, and future dreams be guided by faith, not fear. With morals
and motivation grounded in Christ, your life will be a powerful light — wherever God sends you.

Closing Challenge:
 You were not born to be average. You were born for purpose.
 Let your life reflect God’s glory — in class, at work, and beyond.
Next Chapter Preview: Chapter 16 – God’s Plan for Your Relationships and Courtship
CHAPTER 16: Building Godly Friendships and Relationships
God’s Plan for Your Relationships and Courtship
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways
acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”
— Proverbs 3:5–6

1. Understanding Relationships in God's Eyes

Relationships are not just emotional — they are spiritual. Every connection you build, whether
friendship or romantic, should help you walk closer to Christ.

God created relationships for:

 Support (Ecclesiastes 4:9–10)
 Growth (Proverbs 27:17)
 Purpose (Genesis 2:18)
 Wrong relationships can destroy your calling. Right relationships can help you fulfill it.
 Not every friendship deserves access to your heart. Guard it wisely.

2. Friendship Before Romance

Before jumping into dating, learn to build godly friendships.

Healthy friendships teach you:

 Communication
 Boundaries
 Trust
 Respect
 Accountability
If someone can’t respect you as a friend, they won’t love you rightly as a partner.
“A friend loves at all times.” — Proverbs 17:17
Key Tip: Not every close friend of the opposite sex is meant to become a boyfriend/girlfriend.

3. What Is Courtship?
Courtship is intentional, prayerful, and focused on honoring God while preparing for marriage.

Courtship is different from worldly dating:

Worldly Dating Christian Courtship
-Focused on feelings - Focused on faith
-Casual and aimless -Purpose-driven
-Centered on self-satisfaction -Centered on God’s will
-Often includes sexual sin -Committed to purity
-Easily leads to heartbreak -Leads to godly partnership
Courtship says, “I’m not here to play with your heart — I’m praying for our future.”

4. God’s Standards for Love and Purity

Love is more than emotion — it’s a decision.
And true love always includes respect and self-control.

“Love is patient, love is kind… it is not proud… it keeps no record of wrongs.” — 1 Corinthians
13:4–7

God’s standard for relationships includes:

Purity (1 Thessalonians 4:3–5)
Respect (1 Peter 3:7)
Spiritual agreement (2 Corinthians 6:14)

Prayer together, not play together

Sex before marriage is a counterfeit of real love. It brings guilt, regret, confusion, and spiritual
distraction.

“Flee sexual immorality…” — 1 Corinthians 6:18

5. Red Flags in Relationships

They mock or ignore your faith
They pressure you for sex or physical intimacy
They isolate you from family or church
They are quick to anger, lie, or manipulate
They don’t know their purpose or God

If someone pulls you away from Jesus, they’re not sent by Him.
Let God’s Word be the standard for who you give your heart to.

6. Preparing Yourself First

Before you seek a relationship, work on becoming the right person:
Grow in spiritual maturity
Discover your life purpose
Learn emotional intelligence
Build financial wisdom
Heal from past wounds
Don’t look for someone to complete you — let God complete you first.
“Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” — Psalm 37:4
7. Boundaries and Accountability
You must set clear boundaries and invite accountability into your relationships.

Examples of boundaries:
Avoid being alone in private places
Don’t share intimate pictures or messages
Set limits on physical contact
Have mentors and parents involved
Commit to Bible study and prayer together
A relationship without godly boundaries is a temptation trap.

8. When You're Ready to Court

You’re ready to pursue godly courtship when:
You are emotionally, spiritually, and mentally stable
You are prepared to marry in God’s time
You know your identity and purpose
You have sought godly counsel and prayed consistently

Ask yourself:
Can I glorify God in this relationship?
Are we both pursuing holiness?
Are we committed to purity and accountability?
“Two are better than one… but a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” — Ecclesiastes 4:9–12

9. If You’ve Already Made Mistakes

God’s grace is still available. Repent, confess, and restart.
You are not disqualified from love or purpose because of past sin.
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive…” — 1 John 1:9

Find healing through:

Prayer
God’s Word
Trusted mentorship
Time with God alone
Jesus restores broken hearts and gives you a fresh start.

Youth Reflection
What does a godly relationship look like to me?
Have I allowed emotions to lead more than God?
 Am I ready for courtship, or do I need to grow first?

Memory Verses
“Do not awaken love until the time is right.” — Song of Songs 8:4
“Flee youthful lusts and pursue righteousness…” — 2 Timothy 2:22
“Above all else, guard your heart…” — Proverbs 4:23

Youth Challenge
Write a “Relationship Vision” — what do you want your future relationship to look like?
Pray daily for your future spouse, even if you haven’t met them yet
Set one boundary this week to protect your purity and focus on purpose

Final Encouragement
Your heart is precious. Your purpose is divine. Don’t give either away cheaply.
Wait on the Lord, walk in wisdom, and honor Him in every relationship.
Don’t follow feelings — follow faith. God’s plan is always worth the wait.
Next Chapter Preview: Chapter 17 – Finding Your Identity in Christ
CHAPTER 17: Finding Your Identity in Christ
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!”
— 2 Corinthians 5:17

1. Who Are You—Really?

The world tries to define you:
By how you look
By your popularity
By your talents
By your mistakes
By your social media
But God sees who you truly are—not what the world says, but what He created you to be.
You are not your past. You are not your failure. You are not your follower count.
You are God’s child.

2. You Are God’s Masterpiece

“For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works.” — Ephesians 2:10

Let this sink in:

You were hand-designed by God
You are not an accident
You are made for a purpose
Your identity is secure in Christ

God says you are:

Loved (Romans 5:8)
Chosen (1 Peter 2:9)
Forgiven (Colossians 1:13–14)
Worth dying for (John 3:16)
The One who created the stars also created you with intention. You matter!

3. Identity Crisis in Today’s World

Too many young people suffer from identity crises because:
They base their worth on others’ opinions
They compare themselves to others
They let sin or failure define them
They try to “fit in” instead of “stand out”
But you weren’t made to be a copy — you’re an original.
“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” —
Romans 12:2

4. Your True Identity in Christ

When you give your life to Jesus, you receive a new identity. Here’s who you are in Him:
A Child of God – John 1:12
A Soldier of Light – Ephesians 6:11
A New Creation – 2 Corinthians 5:17
An Heir with Christ – Romans 8:17
A World Changer – Matthew 5:14–16
When you know who you are, you won’t let others tell you who you’re not.
The devil attacks your identity because he’s afraid of your destiny.

5. Living From Your Identity, Not For It

The world says, “Work hard to be accepted.”
God says, “You’re already accepted in Christ.”

That means:
You don’t have to prove yourself
You don’t have to earn love
You don’t have to copy anyone else
Your job is not to become valuable — your job is to believe you already are.

“See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!” —
1 John 3:1

Youth Reflection
What do I believe about myself that doesn’t line up with what God says?
Do I see myself as God’s child or through the world’s filter?
How can I begin to live boldly in my true identity?

Memory Verses
“I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” — Psalm 139:14
“You are the light of the world.” — Matthew 5:14

“We are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.” — Romans 8:37

Youth Challenge
Write down 10 positive things God says about you and read them every morning.
Stop listening to one influence that damages your self-worth.
 Memorize one scripture a week about your identity in Christ.

Final Encouragement
You are not what happened to you.
You are not your feelings.
You are not society’s label.
You are God’s creation, redeemed by Christ, and called to greatness.
Know who you are, so the world can’t change you.
Next Chapter Preview: Chapter 18– Leading with Integrity and Influence
CHAPTER 18: Leading with Integrity and Influence
“Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love,
in spirit, in faith, in purity.”
— 1 Timothy 4:12

1. You Were Born to Lead

Leadership isn’t about a title or microphone.
Leadership is about influence — how your words, actions, and decisions shape others.

Whether you realize it or not:

 Someone is watching you.
 Someone is learning from you.
 Someone is following your example.
 If you follow Christ, others will follow you toward Christ.
 Youth can lead now! Don’t wait to be an adult to live as a leader.

2. What Is Integrity in Leadership?

Integrity means being whole, honest, and consistent in all areas of life — even when no one is
watching.

“The integrity of the upright guides them.” — Proverbs 11:3

A youth with integrity:

 Says the truth
 Does what is right even when it’s hard
 Keeps promises
 Refuses to cheat or steal
 Confesses and corrects mistakes

If your private life is not clean, your public leadership will eventually collapse.

3. Biblical Youth Leaders

 Joseph – Refused sexual temptation and rose to lead Egypt (Genesis 39)
 Daniel – Remained faithful in a corrupt system (Daniel 1:8)
 David – Killed Goliath when everyone else was afraid (1 Samuel 17)
 Mary – Obeyed God despite great risk (Luke 1:38)
 Timothy – A young pastor mentored by Paul (1 Timothy 4)
They led with courage, purity, and faith.
Age is not a barrier — character is what qualifies a leader.
4. How to Be a Godly Leader Today
Here are steps to grow your leadership:
 Start with serving – Jesus washed feet before He saved the world (John 13:14–15)
 Stay connected to the Word – Scripture will guide your decisions
 Listen more than you speak – Leaders learn before they lead
 Be dependable – Show up early, keep your word, and finish what you start
 Stay humble – Let others praise you; you don’t need to show off
 Leadership is not about being famous — it’s about being faithful.

5. Leading at School, Church, and Online

Wherever you are, you are a leader.
 At school: Don’t cheat, don’t gossip, help others
 At church: Participate in ministry, set a holy example
 Online: Post what uplifts, not what corrupts

Your example can either bring someone to Jesus — or push them away.
“You are the light of the world... let your light so shine before men.” — Matthew 5:14–16

Youth Reflection
Where am I already influencing others (home, school, online)?
Have I been consistent in private and public character?
What habits do I need to change to become a better leader?

Memory Verses
“The greatest among you shall be your servant.” — Matthew 23:11
“He who is faithful in little will be faithful in much.” — Luke 16:10
“Do everything without grumbling or arguing…” — Philippians 2:14–15

Youth Challenge
Volunteer in one area of church or school this month
Study a Bible character who led with integrity
Take initiative in your home — without being asked

Final Encouragement
Leadership isn’t about popularity, power, or performance — it’s about purpose.
Walk in integrity.
Lead with humility.
Live to glorify God.

Lead now — not later. Influence others toward heaven, not the world.
Next Chapter Preview: Chapter 19 – Living with Purpose and Vision
CHAPTER 19: Living with Purpose and Vision
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm
you, plans to give you a future and a hope.”
— Jeremiah 29:11

1. What Is Purpose?
Purpose is the reason why you exist — the unique assignment God has given you on earth.

Every young person has God-given potential.

Your purpose is not limited by your background, age, or mistakes.

Purpose is not just about what you do, but who you become.

You were made on purpose, with a purpose, for a purpose.

2. Why Vision Matters

“Where there is no vision, the people perish…” — Proverbs 29:18
Without a clear vision, life becomes:
 Confusing
 Distracted
 Hopeless
 Wasteful

A vision is a clear picture of your future, guided by God’s Word and Spirit.
 Purpose = why I exist
 Vision = where I am going
 Direction = how I’ll get there

3. Discovering Your Purpose in Christ

To live with purpose, start with the One who made you.

Ask yourself:
 What are my gifts and passions?
 What problems do I feel burdened to solve?
 What does God say about my future?

God’s Word says:

“You are chosen… that you may declare the praises of Him…” — 1 Peter 2:9
“We are created in Christ Jesus for good works…” — Ephesians 2:10
Your purpose is connected to service, not just success.
Your future starts with surrender.

4. Young People Who Lived with Vision

 Joseph – Even as a slave, he remembered God’s dream for him (Genesis 37)
 Esther – Knew she was born for “such a time as this” (Esther 4:14)
 Nehemiah – Rebuilt a broken city with determination and prayer
 Jesus – At age 12, He said: “I must be about My Father’s business” (Luke 2:49)

They lived with courage because they had clarity of vision.

5. Creating a Personal Vision Statement

Take time to pray and write a short statement about the kind of person you want to be, and
what you believe God wants you to do.

Sample Vision Statement:

“I am a servant of God called to lead, encourage, and teach youth to follow Christ with boldness,
love, and truth.”

Let your vision guide your:

 Choices
 Education
 Friendships
 Social media
 Ministry and service

Youth Reflection
 What makes me come alive?
 Where do I see myself in 5 years if I follow God’s plan?
 What distractions do I need to remove to live with focus?

Memory Verses
“Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans.” — Proverbs 16:3
“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” — Psalm 119:105
“I press toward the goal…” — Philippians 3:14

Youth Challenge
Write a 1-sentence personal mission or vision statement
Pray daily for God to reveal and refine your purpose
Take one small action this week toward your calling (e.g., help someone, share your testimony,
start a ministry idea)
Final Encouragement
You are not here by mistake.
You were created for a purpose bigger than yourself.
Let Jesus lead you, shape you, and send you.

Don’t just exist — live with purpose. Don’t just dream — build your vision.
Next Chapter Preview: Chapter 20: My Commitment to God, carefully structured in four
sections. This is the final and reflective chapter of your Morals & Motivation book, bringing the
youth reader to a point of decision and lifelong spiritual dedication.
CHAPTER 20: My Commitment to God
By Eddie Ng’andu
Matero Mission District | Matero West SDA Church | Adventist Youth Ministries

1. Reflection Questions (2 pages)

Before you commit, reflect. Take time to answer these honestly — alone, with your Bible, or
with a trusted mentor.
A. About Your Morals
 What are the three biggest temptations you struggle with?
 When you fall, do you feel more shame or more motivation to do better?
 What does “purity” mean to you — in speech, body, and thought?
 How can you live with more self-control and integrity?

B. About Your Motivation

 Why do you want to succeed in life — for God or for yourself?
 What motivates your studies, work, or leadership?
 What distractions are pulling you away from your calling?
 What makes you want to give up — and what keeps you going?

C. About Your Walk with God

 How often do you pray, and how honest are your prayers?
 Do you find joy in God’s Word — or is it just a habit?
 What do you believe God is calling you to do with your life?
 What change must happen in your heart today?
“Search me, O God, and know my heart… lead me in the way everlasting.” – Psalm 139:23–24
Use this chapter not just to read — but to respond. Reflecting leads to revival.

2. Your Purity & Purpose Pledge

Now that you've reflected, are you ready to make a holy vow to God?
Write your name and heart into this pledge.

MY PURITY & PURPOSE PLEDGE

I, [Your Full Name], choose today to live for Jesus.
I understand that my body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. I choose purity — in thought, speech,
dress, and relationships. I will not allow drugs, pornography, disrespect, or peer pressure to
control me.

I pledge to honor God with my time, talents, and future.

I will stay sexually pure until marriage, remain mentally strong in temptation, and stay faithful
in prayer and devotion.

Even when the crowd goes another way, I choose to stand firm.
With the help of God, I will serve with joy, lead with humility, love with compassion, and finish
my race with faith.

This is my commitment — not because I’m perfect, but because I’m surrendered.

Signed: _________________________
Date: ___________________________

“How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word.” – Psalm
119:9

3. Commitment Prayer (2 pages)

Take a quiet moment and pray this prayer out loud. If you can, kneel.

Prayer of Commitment
"Dear Father in Heaven,
Thank You for never giving up on me. Thank You for forgiving my sins and calling me to
something greater than myself. Today, I surrender.

I give You my body — keep it pure.

I give You my mind — fill it with truth.
I give You my heart — shape it to love what You love.

Teach me how to be strong in a world full of compromise.

I don’t just want to go to church — I want to be Your church.
I want my life to preach louder than my words.

Lord, I invite You into every area of my life — school, home, online, relationships, and future
plans. Lead me, guide me, and use me.

I make this vow before You and ask for Your strength to keep it.
In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen."
4. Space for Journaling or Signing
“But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” – Joshua 24:15

Use this section for your private thoughts, decisions, and commitments. You may write prayers,
draw symbols, list goals, or make pledges. You may also sign it together with a spiritual mentor,
youth leader, or parent as witness.

Journal Your Commitment

Today’s date: _____________________
My favorite Bible verse right now: _____________________________________________________________________
My biggest area of struggle: _____________________________________________________________________________
What I need God’s help with most: ______________________________________________________________________
My next spiritual step: ____________________________________________________________________________________

Signature Section
I choose to live for Jesus. I commit to a life of purity, purpose, and moral courage.

Signed: __________________________
Witness (Leader/Parent): ________________________________________________________________________________
Date: __________________________
 APPENDICES
Youth Purity Pledge (Print-Friendly)
A printable version of the pledge suitable for group use or events.

Recommended Bible Reading Plan

Week 1–4: Psalms & Proverbs
Week 5–8: Gospels (Matthew–John)
Week 9–12: Acts & Romans
Week 13–16: Timothy, Titus & Revelation

Scriptures to Memorize
Romans 12:2
1 Timothy 4:12
Matthew 5:8
1 Corinthians 6:18–20
Philippians 4:8

Quotes by Ellen G. White on Youth

“With such an army of workers as our youth, rightly trained… how soon the message of a
crucified, risen, and soon-coming Saviour might be carried to the whole world!” — Education, p.
271

“God wants the youth to be thinking Christians, with principles so firm that temptation will not
drag them from the right path.” — Messages to Young People

Activity Worksheets
Personal goal-setting sheet
Social media boundaries chart
Weekly moral challenge tracker
Purity check-in form for youth leaders
Group discussion questions for AYM study sessions
REFERENCES

Morals & Motivation: Living Right, Rising Higher. These include Bible references, Ellen G. White
writings, Christian youth development books, and relevant resources on morality, motivation,
and youth ministry:

Biblical References
 Proverbs 11:3 – “The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are
destroyed by their duplicity.”
 Psalm 119:9 – “How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according
to your word.”
 Philippians 4:13 – “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
 1 Corinthians 6:18–20 – On sexual purity and honoring God with our bodies.
 Proverbs 3:5–6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart…”
 Romans 12:2 – “Do not conform to the pattern of this world…”
 1 Timothy 4:12 – “Let no one despise your youth…”
 Ephesians 5:18 – “Do not get drunk with wine…”
 Philippians 4:8 – “Whatever is true, noble…think about such things.”
 Joshua 24:15 – “But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”

Ellen G. White Writings

 White, Ellen G. Messages to Young People. Review and Herald Publishing Association,
1930.
 White, Ellen G. Education. Pacific Press Publishing Association, 1903.
 White, Ellen G. Steps to Christ. Review and Herald Publishing Association, 1892.
 White, Ellen G. The Great Controversy. Pacific Press Publishing Association, 1888.

Books on Christian Morals and Youth Development

 Lewis, C.S. Mere Christianity. HarperOne, 1952.
 Stanley, Andy. The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating. Zondervan, 2015.
 Giglio, Louie. Don't Give the Enemy a Seat at Your Table. Thomas Nelson, 2021.
 Platt, David. Radical: Taking Back Your Faith from the American Dream. Multnomah,
2010.
 Lucado, Max. Grace: More Than We Deserve, Greater Than We Imagine. Thomas Nelson,
2012.
 McDowell, Josh. The Bare Facts: 39 Questions Your Parents Hope You Never Ask About
Sex. Shiloh Run Press, 2017.
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