CELG 2014, Vajta, Hungary
Developing Self-
leadership
competence
Session 1: What is it & Laying the
foundations
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What is Self-leadership
Introduction
An overview: What is self-leadership?
Critical Foundations
You – fully alive in Jesus
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Exercise:
Who is God calling you to
become in the next 10 years?
Who will you be & what will
you be doing?
• Think & write about this for 3 minutes.
• Turn to someone next to you and share for 1
minute each.
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What is Self-leadership
The process to influence yourself (to reach your goals so
that your fruit remains).
Paul writes: 1. Timothy 4:12
Let no one look down on your youthfulness (mental &
emotional, identity),
but rather in speech, conduct: behavior, physical
love, faith and purity: mental, emotional & spiritual
show yourself an example of those who believe. > this implies
that you first lead yourself!
"If you want to lead others well, you must first lead yourself
well - because you are the only person you can truly
change!"
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The Self-leadership Wheel
You -
fully alive in
Jesus
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Self-leadership in Context
Feedback
Learning
Leading
Others
Leading
Self Influence
You -
Ministries fully alive in Empower
Jesus Servant of all
Teams
Bases
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Self-leadership Categories
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How do I set motivating short & long term
goals?
How do I effectively stay focused on reaching
them?
How do I overcome obstacles and deal with
distractions?
Jesus only did his Father’s will and knew how to
fulfill it.
E.g. A daily, weekly, monthly routine where a
block of time is set aside to evaluate progress
towards goals and adjustments and
commitments are made, accomplishments are
celebrated.
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• I set clear goals for my personal life and ministry calling
• I set both short and long term goals that are motivating
• I prioritize, commit and follow through on clear actions
towards my goals
• I set goals for my personal and career development
• I listen to my intuition
• I overcome obstacles and stick to my intentions
• I deal with interruptions and distractions
• I can say ‘no’
• My mindset strengthens me to pursue my goals.
• I acknowledge that where I am, what I think and what I
feel is because I made a choice to be there.
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How do I recognize and use my emotions and
how they affect me?
How do I motivate myself when I face
challenges?
How do I resist impulses or temptations?
Jesus experienced joy and discouragement,
temptations - yet stayed focused on doing his
Father’s will.
E.g. Keeping a daily log for 1 week. Noting
every 2 hours the activity I am involved in
and describing the feeling I have while
doing that.
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• I know how to encourage myself (e.g. ‘David encouraged
himself in the Lord”.
• I learn from failure and mistakes, rather than letting
mistakes and failure discourage me.
• I visualize how to improve in specific areas of my life
• When facing new challenges, I benefit from having
overcome challenges in the past
• I know what tasks bring joy to me
• I pay attention to my emotional reactions and control them
appropriately
• I know how emotions influence my behavior
• I can deal with ‘negative’ emotions so they don’t hinder me
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How do I increase and maintain my
energy?
How do I rest best and get refreshed?
Jesus rested, walked, ate, etc.
E.g. Instead of taking the elevator, I take
the stairs. Or, I stand up every 20
minutes to stretch; a time reminds me. I
take a short nap of 10-15 minutes to get
reenergized during my day when I lack
mental or physical energy. I go outside
and stretch in the fresh air.
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• I know how to increase my energy for mentally
demanding activities
• I regularly exercise to stay fit
• I intentionally stop to relax during my day
• I know how to relax when I am under increased stress
• I consume stimulants (sugars, caffeine, alcohol, etc.)
moderately so they don’t impact my efficiency
• I get sufficient rest and sleep
• I plan days and periods of rest to completely disconnect
from work
• I can change unhealthy habits
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How do I change my habits?
How could I influence others through being an
example?
Who could I learn from?
Jesus said: I have given you an example that you
should do as I have done.
E.g. At the end of my day I take 5 minutes to
reflect on my reactions to my colleagues and
family. What thoughts or conversations did I
have when a relationship had tension or had
harmony? What did I say? Body language?
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• I learn from positive role models when changing or improving
work habits
• I am realistic about how long it takes to change my habits and
practice new ones
• I plan time in my schedule to prepare myself for significant
events
• I can redirect an old habit that creeps in
• I create a work environment that has a positive impact on me
and enhances my performance
• I lead by example when desiring a change in my colleagues’
behavior
• I offer something to others, not only expecting something from
others
• I am realistic with what I can and cannot change in my work
environment
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"It is the capacity to develop
and improve their skills that distinguishes leaders from
followers."
-Warren Bennis and Bert Nanus
But where do we start?
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Self-leadership Foundations
Reflection
+
Awareness
+
Action
= ReflAction!
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Developing Reflection
Reflect: Paying attention to yourself to gain awareness
• I regularly reflect: daily, weekly, monthly
• I take a personal retreat for reflection
• I reflect on and evaluate my progress towards my goals
• I journal on a regular basis
• I ask for feedback / 360
• I pay attention to my reactions, thoughts, feelings, inner monologue,
behavior, without judging prematurely
• How have I used my strengths? How could I use them more?
• I recognize patterns and potential areas for change.
• Taking 5 minutes at the end of the day to reflect.
• Taking 1 hour on Fridays to review the week and plan more details
for next week’s priorities
• Before starting my work day, taking 5 minutes to write down
today’s priorities.
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Developing Awareness
Re-Think: Using Awareness in the moment:
•In daily situations, I use what I am aware of to make appropriate
changes
•I recognize how my reactions, thoughts, feelings etc. hinder me
towards reaching my goals and make adjustments
•I have a realistic view of who I am (not inflated, nor depreciating
who I am)
•I am who God made me to be: not more, not less.
•I am confident in who God made me to be
•Writing down a list of my personality strengths and reviewing
them weekly. How did I use them during the week? Where/when
could I have used them more this week?
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Knowing & Doing
Re(k)new: Influencing yourself to intentional action:
•I set realistic and motivating goals for my personal growth &
development
•I take responsible and realistic steps towards my goals
•I take responsibility for the results/outcomes: I don’t blame others or
take a victim mentality
•I influence my thinking, feeling, behavior intentionally
•My priorities and daily tasks are aligned with my short and long term
goals
•I live more fully, being renewed in my mind by the truth/word of God.
•I abide in God.
•I focus on 1 area of change, set a clear goal and commit to some
action/s that move me towards the change.
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Exercise:
How could you build in reflection time
(daily, or weekly, or monthly)?
• Think & write about this for 3 minutes.
• What difference would the reflection make in
my life and work?
• What is my next first step in that direction? (e.g.
write it in my calendar!)
• Turn to someone next to you and share for 1
minute each.
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Self-leadership Resources
Leading from the inside out – a booklet on self leadership: understanding my
relationships, my work and my priorities.
By Stephen Mayers – Euros 4.- plus postage/shipping.
Contact: [email protected]
www.leader-development.org/resources
Take the on-line self-leadership competence assessment and receive an 18 page
personalized report with explanations and exercises to set goals for growth.
Conference discount: $10.- instead of $15.- Mention in your email CELG2014
Contact:
[email protected] CELG 2014, Vajta, Hungary
Developing Self-
leadership
competence
Session 2: Realistic Self-Perception
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The Self-leadership Wheel
You -
fully alive in
Jesus
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What happens when you as a leader
don’t pay attention to who you are or
who you are to become?
Exercise:
Reflect for 1 minute, then share in
threes for 3 minutes (1 min each).
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You -
fully alive in
Jesus
Be who you are called to become!
“Mature ministry flows out of mature character.” – Robert Clinton
John Calvin: “There is no deep knowing of God without a deep knowing
of self and no deep knowing of self without a deep knowing of God.”
Augustine: “Grant, Lord, that I may know myself that I may know
Thee.”
It’s easier to focus on what we are doing and make external changes,
than focusing on who we are to become. Both are important! Inner
change most often precedes outward change.
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You -
fully alive in
Jesus
Be who you are called to become!
King Saul… lessons about leadership and success
- Some despised him…
- Not everyone will like you!
- Watch over your heart!
- When I saw the people scattering…
- Fear of man: relying on your own resources and what people think
rather than trusting God and what he says.
- Success/validation:
- In sacrifice, the external, strength, numbers
- Success/validation = simply obey God, listening to him
- Inferiority: though you were little in your own eyes 1. Sam 15:17
- When someone succeeds: can you celebrate, rejoice and give credit to
another?
- When things go wrong: blaming others, rather than taking responsibility
- Timing: now by my power or waiting and trusting God’s time
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You -
fully alive in
Jesus
Be who you are called to become!
- Gal 4:19 until Christ is
formed in you.
- Courage, Vulnerability
- Value in God
- Humility
- Being fully human/spiritual
- Confidence in God
- I see myself as part of the
whole
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You -
fully alive in
Jesus
Be who you are called to become!
“What you see and hear depends a good deal on where you are standing;
it also depends on what sort of person you are.” C.S. Lewis
-It takes courage to tell who we are (we all have areas we need to grow
in). Being honest about it, frees us to grow.
-It takes courage to give and receive feedback, to have honest
conversations!
-Being vulnerable: I don’t have it all together, but I’m not going to hide
or pretend. I am going to risk to contribute.
-Your relationship with God & your relationships with others & your
relationship with yourself!
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You -
fully alive in
Jesus Therefore…
Giving and asking for feedback!
Being vulnerable, honest, humble! – no masks!
Committing to become all God intended!
I am significant! There is no one else like me: I better step up to
give what I have been given!
Taking responsibility (don’t blame, not being a victim)! I am
responsible for my development as well as for what I do! I develop
healthy relationships & accountability. If something is not clear, I
take initiative to communicate to find out!
Being confident: God is with me, what he started he will complete!
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You -
fully alive in
Jesus
Exercise:
Ask Jesus: what do you like about
me TODAY?
• Listen for 1 minute. Then write it down.
• What difference does this make now in how I see myself?
• What do I want to do about that?
• Share with 1 other person.
