Communication in
Family
Conflict….
• Individuals may find themselves in negative emotions when faced
with conflict.
• When not managed correctly, the problem cannot be solved and the
conflict grows.
• However, resolving conflicts with constructive behavior and
cooperation creates positive results for the parties and becomes a
driving force for the development and change of the relationship.
• One of the most important areas where conflict occurs is the
relationship environment between family members.
• Communication within the family must be established and maintained
effectively and healthily. Because, a child growing up in a family
communicates with her friends when she goes to school, and with
people in the workplace when she becomes an adult. When a child
cannot learn to resolve conflict within the family, she may react
negatively when she experiences conflict with other people. Similarly,
children who grow up in an environment of violence and witnessing
destructive arguments experience serious psychological trauma.
• Conflict types are divided into two types:
constructive and destructive.
• In order to establish effective communication within the family, it is
first necessary to gain the ability to listen and empathize effectively.
Family members who do not listen to and understand each other
cannot establish healthy communication.
• As a result, various conflicts occur and the problems that arise cannot
be resolved.
• Mutual empathy helps family members to react less negatively to
each other. Thus, there are fewer arguments between both parent-
parent and parent-child.
• Negative situations experienced in family communication affect the child,
mother and father at different levels. Communication established in the family
affects the child's relationship with his peers and his attitude towards his future
spouse or child. People who learn to communicate correctly adapt to society
more easily and are more successful academically.
• An individual who has received the message that he is valuable in early
childhood and has developed in this way becomes self-confident and self-aware.
• On the contrary, children who are not loved and cared for in the family become
irritable, feel worthless and experience communication problems throughout
their lives as a result of neglect.
• For this reason, it is important for families to accept the child's existence,
understand his feelings, care for him and solve his/her problems.
There are two cultures that create the
consciousness of family relationships.
These cultures: the culture of fear and the
culture of value.
The characteristics of a culture of fear are listed as follows;
• The child's essence is bad and authority should shape this essence.
• The child's mind is not important. The child's ideas are not listened to.
• Rules protect the power of authority.
• The child cannot question authority. There are statements such as "you will marry this person" or "you will
choose this profession".
• The authority shows its love by making decisions on behalf of the child.
• When disciplining the child, it is important what the environment will say and how it will react.
• The characteristics of a value culture are listed as follows;
• The essence of the child is good and parents should allow the
development of this essence.
• It is important for the child to use his mind and mental development.
• Rules are set to ensure the development of the child and to create a
suitable environment.
• It is a priority for the child to feel happy and strong.
• The child must learn his/her own limits and responsibilities.
• The child is the owner and director of his/her own life.
• The child's conscience is important. What the environment thinks is
unimportant for individuals.
• It is important to listen to the child and talk after listening.
