Missing my Mum

Losing a parent
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It’s been 6 weeks since I lost my wonderful Mum and I feel like the grief is getting worse and worse. It’s harder to cope now that all arrangements and paperwork (such a horrible thing to have to do) have eased off and I have more time on my own to think. The house is so lonely and lost without her, and all the love has gone now there’s just me.

I had an assessment with a mental health nurse and they advised joining my local bereavement support group, which meets once a month. I’ll go, but I don’t know if it will help but I need to try something to help me cope. I’m on the verge of panic attacks a lot of the time, and that frightens me, but I can usually manage to pull myself back from the brink, so to speak.

I just wondered if anyone else anywhere is finding the same thing happening to them, and what you did about it? Any advice is welcome.

Love to all in our difficult situation and try to keep strong.

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I’m sure someone will be along to share their thoughts, but I just wanted to say well done for reaching out to the mental health nurse, and I really hope the bereavement group is helpful :blue_heart:

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Hi Sheena,

I lost my mum 4 months ago, I miss her so much, I’m so sorry this has happened to you. I understand how you feel.

Sending lots of love

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I try to keep busy and not to think about it, otherwise would go mad

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I’m so sorry the same thing happened to you. It’s so hard to deal with and Mums are such important people in our lives. I miss mine so much and I didn’t know it would hurt this much either. Keeping busy does seem to help, so does just getting out for a walk.

Thank you for your post and I’m sending love and hugs back to you too. Take care.

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Losing my mum 32 years ago when I was 23 and pregnant is still hard to this day some weeks I cannot cope :cry:.

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Hi

I am so sorry for your loss, its still very early days for you so its not surprising you are struggling so much.

My mum died 18 months ago, it was sudden and unexpected and we found her. Its was horrific, traumatic and devastating. I too had anxiety throughout. I also had to deal with all the paperwork, which I think did help somewhat as it helped take my mind off things for a while. I did have bereavement counselling selling which really helped me.

Just be kind to yourself, its completely normal to feel how you are feeling, and I know its a clichè but time really does help.

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Hi it’s not new it’s 32 years ago but feels like yesterday I don’t think I grieved properly at the time couldn’t had a baby and four year old hope it gets easier for you my life never been the same :cry:

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Just be kind to yourself my husband doesn’t really understand :cry:

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Sorry I was replying to the original post who said they lost their mum 6 weeks ago

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Ok sorry I didn’t realise :growing_heart: