Relational Intelligence (2 books in 1): Relational Psychotherapy - How to Heal Trauma + From Relationship Trauma to Resilience and Balance

INTRODUCTION

The emerging Relational Tradition of Psychoanalytic and Psychodynamic Thinking become more difficult to catch briefly.

Relational Psychotherapy believes that our ideas about ourselves, people, and the world are formed in relationships, and that we know how to cope with our feelings in relationships.

While it is useful to explore these two concepts independently, both methods are strongly intertwined.

Our views about ourselves and the aspirations of others and the world are influenced by relationships. Most of these convictions, or prejudices, are formed in our early relationships. Some of these values have been freely offered to us (e.g. Never trust a salesman, son!) and many others have been learned by

observing the responses of others to themselves or circumstances (e.g. Mommy must be upset because I am too insecure when I want her attention). These grow into prejudices that affect how we see ourselves, others, and circumstances in which we find ourselves. Some of these beliefs were profoundly rooted and rarely consciously thought of, because they work out of our consciousness.

Some of these interactions have caused us to concentrate on what we see about ourselves as bad, or to reflect on excessively positive or negative characteristics of others (e.g. She's too clever, she must think I'm stupid) or on overly positive or negative facets of the world in general (e.g. going out is often stressful). If we only concentrate on and highlight certain facets of a situation or experience, we end up with a narrow and restricted viewpoint and lack the ability to see things from their multiple possibilities. As you can guess, these accents and prejudices can lead to traumatic emotional and mental interactions that we can't exactly identify. To seek to sum it up in a sentence: we are denied the realities that are on the verge of knowledge of ourselves, others, and the universe, and the more reality we are denied, the more we struggle for it.

We've been living in an emotional world since birth. Our key caregivers are showing us how to control our feelings, whether they know it or not. Ideally, they respond consistently to our

feelings, calming us when we're irritated, or responding with enthusiasm to our achievements.

However, where listening to children's feelings becomes too neglectful, too overbearing, too complicated, or too contradictory, one loses the sense of health, loyalty, and the opportunity to feel all right about what he or she feels. Such

unsafe or disorganized attachments often hinder the child's own self-development. The infant is instilled with the guilt of not possessing his desires, which is when his ego is attended to.

This results in a personality that evolves by adjusting to the standards of others. In the case of too overlooked situations, one continues to ignore and mistrust some, as well as to reduce the need for some. In the case of too stifling situations, one becomes suspicious of others while at the same time feeling dependent on them.

These are strongly similar, if not one-in - the-same, interactions.

If it's how we view the environment or how we learn to cope with our feelings, these exist mainly on non-verbal levels and inside relationships. What we expect from our perceptions of the universe, or how others react to our feelings, is mainly expressed, and thus occurs largely out of our consciousness (i.e.

we experience what we understand, but we can't really relate about what we know).

These theories represent an immersive psychology about what happens outside of you and what happens inside of you. Some types in psychotherapy and psychiatry overemphasize what's going on internally (i.e. neurotransmitters, emotional thinking), leading individuals to ignore how relationships, even also one's society, may lead to their misery. It adds to so many people thinking that the problem is with them alone.

Relational experience tries to align the inside with the outside.

As so much of this real thinking has led to our pain, Relational Therapy often views relationships as an outlet for recovery. The therapy partnership is a way to encourage such assumptions to emerge, to recognize them, and gradually to alleviate them so that they avoid reducing the possibilities that you might explore about the world and yourself. It is the mindset of inquiry in Relationship Therapy that removes objective judgement or the futile removal of the other side of events and opens you up to more reality.

CHAPTER ONE

WHAT IS RELATIONAL PSYCHOTHERAPY

Social psychotherapy is a powerful and effective therapeutic mechanism for people struggling and undergoing persistent mental, psychiatric and relational trauma.

The core theory of relational therapy is that attachment, interaction, and interdependence are innate in human experience and help clients recognize their own patterns of thinking, feeling, and perception, while also understanding the role and effect of important others in influencing their self-experience.

Relational therapy activates the right brain, influences the regulation of the left brain, conscious thought and contemplation.

Relational psychotherapy, a technique that can help individuals realize the role that relationships play in influencing daily experiences, seeks to help people understand trends that occur in their thoughts and feelings about themselves.

Based on the idea that healthy and satisfying relationships with other persons may help people sustain emotional well-being, this paradigm may be beneficial to people seeking therapy for a variety of reasons, but in particular to resolve long-term emotional distress, particularly when there is depression as a result of relationship issues.

Relational Psychotherapy is a branch of contemporary psychoanalytic psychotherapy that I find is most beneficial to the clients I see. It is a powerful and effective approach for dealing with people suffering from chronic mental, psychiatric and/or social trauma. This is based on the following concepts Emotional well-being relies on maintaining a good relationship with others.

Emotional distress is often embedded in cycles of social experience, past and present, which have the ability to demean and destroy the self. The relational therapist seeks to understand the particular self-experience of the individual in its social / relational context and to respond with empathy and sincere presence. Together, the client and therapist create a new, in-depth partnership that embraces, reinforces and encourages the client. Within this secure relationship, the person can comfortably re-experience and then find freedom from the powerful effects of past and present harmful relationships.

Empowerment and development through interpersonal communication are both the mechanism and the aim of relational psychotherapy.

Relational therapists help clients to consider, on the one hand, their own habits of thinking and feeling about themselves and, on the other hand, the influence of important relationships, past and present, to form this self-experience. Through the indirect phase of social engagement, behavioral therapy reinforces and changes a client's sense of self, which in effect increases his or her faith and well-being in the community. In this approach to mediation and marriages, the relationship therapist takes seriously the inter-personal effect of power differentials and social problems such as race, age, religion, ethnicity, and sexual disparity. The concepts of relational psychotherapy are drawn from self-psychology, inter-subjectivity theory, behavioral psychoanalysis, psychodynamic cognitive theory, trauma theory, and feminist philosophies of psychotherapy, dealing with such problems as they occur in the client's life and clinical relationship.

HISTORY AND DEVELOPMENT

An integrative method of counseling, cognitive psychotherapy, was developed out of a synthesis of many psychological ideas and procedures. Which comprise self-psychology, cognitive psychoanalysis, and feminist psychotherapy theories. The work of Jean Baker Miller has led to the development of this method a variety of valuable ideas. Many notable people who have partnered together to establish this method include Janet

Surrey, Judy Jordan and Irene Stiver, who have collaborated with the Jean Baker Miller Teaching Center at Wellesley College.

In the 1980s, there was a shift in the philosophy of counseling, moving away from merely analyzing inward interactions (intrasubjective) and towards a deeper view of the effect of relationships on human (intersubjective) interactions. Since then, relational psychotherapy has grown to become a commonly accepted clinical framework for many other types of counseling that focus on a person's interactions and the effect they can have on emotional and mental well-being.

CORE PRINCIPLES OF RELATIONAL

PSYCHOTHERAPY

Relational psychotherapy is based on the concept that relationships with others are an essential part of mental wellbeing. Individuals who find it difficult to sustain stable and safe relationships may suffer a sense of disconnection in addition to a feeling of decreased self-esteem and general depression, which may have a negative effect on their sense of emotional wellbeing.

The philosophy of relational psychotherapy follows the following principles:• It is necessary for a person to have a rewarding and meaningful relationship with others around him in order to maintain mental wellbeing.

• Tension and emotional instability are often the result of past relationship interactions, and these issues that impede the full expression of the present self.

• The practitioner who administers behavioral psychotherapy offers an environment of empathic and attentiveness in order to ensure full disclosure of the interactions and incidents surrounding the person seeking care, as well as the impact they have had on both the relationship and the community.

• The therapist and the client in treatment work together to build a healthy, constructive and supportive friendship that can serve as a model for the future relationship that the individual wants to develop. Many interactions can be evaluated against this positive one to assess whether they are constructive or damaging.

HOW DOES RELATIONAL PSYCHOTHERAPY WORK

Relationship psychotherapy sessions usually stress the creation of social understanding. To order to do this, the psychiatrist and the client to treatment typically need to develop an awareness of the individual's disconnection techniques. Or the human contact forms that are used to drive people further. When established, the psychiatrist and the client will discuss the possible explanations for the use of these techniques.