IGNITION

THE SOCIAL MAN

WELCOME
Introduction: I’m Christian
The Goal: Ignite Your Path to “Pro Level”
In other words, subconsciously good
These are the big wins I want for everyone!
Something for everyone - beginners to pro
I could only have built this at this point in life
Unnecessary for TSM... but necessary for all
MY STORY
Lifelong Entrepreneur, Yet...
Terribly Insecure Until Early 30’s
College GF “ruined” me, alone for awhile
The Christine Story
The Quest: ebooks, pua, CYC, social
dynamics and UNB, sex and LUST... and
finally, literotica, GF’s!
The Fall... and The Ten Code
Social Mastery: Desire, Fearless and HVC
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN TODAY
Ignite your Awareness
Ignite your Journey
Ignite Your Responses
Ignite Your Conversations
Ignite Your Game
Ignite Your Night
Ignite Your Life
IGNITE YOUR
AWARENESS
WHAT IS ATTRACTION
value theory: we are attracted to... and
invest in... things we value.
the game: finding a girl who you value
enough to invest in, and being the value
she wants to invest in
dating: determining if there is a value fit
reality: subject + object + truth = value
caveat: different women want different things
individual value (like attracts like) vs. general
value (“hardwired”)
THREE FORMS OF VALUE
Primary Value: The Fire Inside You
drive, beliefs, confidence

Passive Value: The World You Create

connections, activities, lifestyle

Active Value: How You Make People Feel

charisma, personality, game
BECOMING A MAN OF VALUE
It starts here and now
It means always growing
It means facing challenges
In the Ten Code, I give you my blueprint
It’s an uphill battle for awhile... then life
becomes tremendous and amazing
It’s my real goal for every man who I teach
Ultimately, being value is being “awesome”
LEARNING MODELS
Instructions: The step-by-step process
Frameworks: The theory behind instructions
Insights: What the “pros” are thinking
Exposure: Watching “pros” at their craft
Coaching: Having a “pro” apply it to you
Action & Introspection: doing it!
And “doing it” is the most important... so
let’s see what the future holds for you!
IN SUMMARY
We are attracted to value
3 types of “Personal” Value
Becoming a Man of Value
Learning Models
IGNITE YOUR
JOURNEY
ABOUT THE JOURNEY
The journey is necessary to go pro
it shapes your brain, beliefs and personality
The journey is the adventure of your life
it puts you at risk and takes you places unknown
The journey is bittersweet
the high highs, and the low lows
The journey IS the reward
my reminiscences
So let me tell you about the journey...
COVERING THE BASICS
It starts when you decide to improve
Four biggest wins:
commit to it: make time, connect with others
personal style: get clothes that fit and look cool
diet: cut processed foods, sugar, caffeine
exercise: sixpack shortcuts, adonis index
I cannot overstate the importance of those
enough... not just for women, but for you.
It seems like an impossible climb from here
BREAKING FREE
“The Nice Guy” Description
Overcoming One-Itis
it’s great if you get her... but fine if you don’t
Start Leading Your Own Life & Doing Right
what’s the right thing? what adventures can I have?
Chill Out, Give Space, Cut “Overeagerness”
A sign that you’re not a ten. Fake it if you must.
Establish Boundaries
what behavior won’t I accept? what supports my
long-term goals and happiness?
ENTERING THE ARENA
The “Recovering Nice Guy” Description
Finding Mentors and “What Works For You”
It might be lots of people
Accepting Failure and Rejection in The Game
A Key To Success In Life
The Bombing Opener
Learning to Be Weird
Learn faster going too far, vs tiptoeing to the line
The Result: Gaining Social Calibration
You have a sense for what’s appropriate and cool
GETTING SOME WINS
The “PUA” Description
The Feedback Threshold
you energy comes from the inside-out
Self-Worth Greater Than Any 1 Event or Person
Strategies to have abundance and experience
Enjoying The Game
Like A Kid Who Discovers A Cookie Jar
Dealing with Dominance, Overgaming, Ego
Overgaming - stop hitting the same button!
“It’s always on” vs. social calibration
Need to prove something: the silent killer!
GETTING GOOD
Understanding Social Dynamics Intuitively
Virtuous Cycle of Self-Esteem
Getting Relationships With Men Handled
“Parity”, respect, nothing to prove
Overcoming Lingering Resentment
Your drive and engagement are “clean”
Becoming The Leader of Your Life
Truly doing what you want, and others follow
Personality Congruence with Skills &
Techniques
GOING PRO
Get Girls, Not Game
The Killer Instinct, Rapid Attraction and
Escalation
Go Fun or Go Home
Beauty Doesn’t Affect You
Leader of Others
Reflection on the Evolution
Nothing left to prove to yourself or others
Desire to take on new challenges
IN SUMMARY
A journey of...
self-awareness
social awareness
values
social skills
experiences
ups, downs and all arounds
It’s an amazing ride...
IGNITE YOUR
RESPONSES
WHAT WE’LL COVER HERE
New tools for common situations
Interaction “Big Wins”
These get the biggest results whether you’ve
been at it for days or years

Every “pro” gets this stuff... now you will

too
EYE CONTACT & EXPRESSION
It’s very simple, but oh so hard
look deeply into them, connect with them
the emotion: from awkwardness to awesomeness
practice: look at a person’s eye color
expression: natural confidence and comfort
creepy if you’re not doing it!
It starts by feeling good when you’re out!
screening expressions
eyes tight, tilt head, uncertain, “you said that”?
interest expressions
amused, disbelief, caring (happiness in her presence), lip
bite
TONALITY & SPEECH
A Key Indicator of Comfort
Dominant tone to be attractive
do you do yoga? awesome, I love girls who do
yoga, do you want to get married?
Projecting Your Voice... others shouldn’t be
saying “what”?
Slow down everything by 50% + add
baritone to be seductive
BODY "NGUAGE
You’re Probably Standing Too Far Away
Entry Language
Maintain the Angle
Break Space... then Exit
Attraction: Hips Don’t Lie
And TOUCH TOUCH TOUCH
Incidental Touch
Direct Touch on Shoulder
Dominant Touch on Back
SCREENING AND QUALIFYING
As a ten, you screen/challenge EVERYTHING
Screen: question/statement to affirm value or values
Passive:“I started taking my health very seriously”
Active: “What’s something adventurous you’ve done?” or “on
a scale of 1-10, how much trouble are you?”
Qualification: indication that someone has “passed” the
screen
Neutral: “what’s your fave club?” ok, interesting, I see...
Pull: “that’s cool, you’re very X, I like that” or “ok we can be
friends now”
Push: “you little liar, you’re just trying to impress me... just
admit it, you love the TGIFriday’s in times square”
so speaking of times square, your favoroit place in the whole
world, how do you feel about Dave and Busters?
CREATING THE CHASE DYNAMIC

Giving space
Use nonverbals and body language to give her
the gap to speak and put some effort in
If she doesn’t
Get Rapport, Take Leadership
Quickly with body language when it’s “short
burst” communications
Leading her around the venue once you have
more established rapport
BASIC SOCIAL DYNAMICS
Who’s Open, Who’s Closed?
go for the layups at first
What Are The “Social Spots”?
What Are The “Cool Spots”?
What Are The “Isolation Spots”?
IN SUMMARY
These are the “biggest wins”
Eye Contact & Expression
Tonality & Pace of Speech
Body Language
Screening & Qualifying
Basic Social Dynamics
You’ll see MUCH improved responses from
women and men when you start using them
 IGNITE YOUR
CONVERSATIONS
WHAT TO SAY TO WOMEN?
A Lifelong Struggle
Used to talk about politics and religion
Still talk about those things! But not much...
And not usually at the start of conversations...
Analyzed “good” conversations
Topical: talking about “stuff”
Personal: talking about you or her
Interpersonal: talking about you AND her
TOPICAL
A Great Place To Start
“We were just talking about Taskrabbit...”
“Have you ever been to...”
“How do you two know each other...”
“Mexico’s beaches are so white and fluffy”
“I’ve been surfing for three years”

“What it’s like”

Obviously, if you’re good with words, you can
make topical stuff interesting with storytelling
PERSONAL
Where You Build a Connection
“As a recovering nerd, I love this iPhone...”
“I like surfing better than snowboarding”
“I love what I do because...”
“I gave to this Charity because...”
Why? What Made You Do That?

Your motivations and opinions... and hers

INTERPERSONAL
Get Attraction or Solidify a Connection
“we could never be together”
“too bad I’m not inviting you ;)”
“you can admit if you hate me a little bit”
next time I go, I’ll at least take pictures
“I think that’s awesome about you... that you came to the big
city”
“We need to run off together... I’ll be the captain, you be the
sexy skipper... just don’t get us lost, bc I’d hate to be stranded
on a deserted island with you.”
“You like Coldplay? I think you might be the one for me. I turn
the music up, I got my records on, I shut the world outside... I
look in your face... I see forever and ever”

Your feelings about the two of you together

TPI - IN ACTION
Demonstration of story about spontaneity
Topical:
described the scene
let her talk for awhile without cutting her off
Personal:
talk about spontaneity, how I became moreso
asked her more probing questions: what it was like
Interpersonal
screened: expression
screened and qualified: what’s something spontaneous?
complimented: you are someone with a love for life
future projected: duh
TPI - A SUMMARY
Begin with one “technique” per section
Be aware of what “zone” you’re in
It will eventually become secondhand
Don’t forget to leave space!
IGNITE YOUR
GAME
WHAT WE’LL COVER HERE
My favorite “techniques” and tactics
We’ve already touched on a few
These have become a part of my
personality
Some are simple, some take practice
In all cases, they’re fun and get great
responses!
LIVE IN THE MOMENT, FLIRT WITH THE FUTURE

Ingrained part of my personality

A future projection which may or may not come
through
Always enthusiastic
Take a moment to tease or qualify
The Artichoke example
The Vacation example
Movies, concerts, food, adventures
“the hobbit... I’ll go because you’re cute but...”
“I’m totally taking you to daniel if we ever fall in love”
Don’t hold onto it - just come back to fun
PERSONAL FLIRTING
Cooperative: You And Me
we are definitely the best looking couple in this room
we’d definitely have the coolest pictures out of all our
friends on facebook
Competitive: You Vs. Me
“I look a little better in it, but...”
“I’d make you look like a fish trying to walk”
look her right in the eye
Diminutive: she’s smaller than you
you’re cute
you’re pretty adorable
you’re a little bit awesome, I’m digging it
HEIGHTENING
Create a funny, ridic image in your mind
“You can just buy me a new microwave”
“You should skip work... or come in drunk...
or maybe just electrocute him.”
“Actually, can you clear out the restaurant?”
The “False Choice”
HIGH STATUS STORIES
Stories about your life
Lead with vision and values
Drop in the “high status” stuff but don’t
dwell on it
Success of company... I want to help men
Race cars... the connection to flow state
The Costa Rica trip... I need to get away, to be
inspired by the surf
TWO ESCA"TION TRICKS
Coming in and Out towards her face
conversation could be about disneyland
“Blame it on her” (vague, not specific!)
I’m helpless against your charms
stop being so damn sexy. it’s making me want
to do things I swore to the priest I wouldn’t do
till marriage.
use in bedroom, or when you’re unsure

When in doubt, just go for it!

IN SUMMARY
use these judiciously
have fun!
IGNITE YOUR
NIGHT
WHAT IT’S ABOUT
Four things to carry with you into your night
You WILL internalize these, sooner or later
Every pro thinks and believes these things
Do a little mantra when you’re out!
I AM VALUE, AND I INVITE OTHERS IN

Do you want a girl to save you... or are you

rocking things on your own?
“How to make a girl smile” - its starts with
your own genuine smile, and being the
leader of your own happiness
You’re not looking to “borrow” anyone else’s
value
Going out and bro circling
On the date: not attached to her plans or
future... just the moment at hand
I EXPECT HER TO CONTRIBUTE
Give her the space to be herself, to charm
you, to feel the excitement of uncertainty,
and yes, to be a bit of a temptress.
Just as important, you have high
expectations for everyone.
Even girls with “tough shells” will often
crack if they feel some attraction, and your
interest and will are strong enough
It’s in your body language, your pauses,
your screens, and the space you give her.
IT’S ALWAYS FUN
It’s always on vs. you’re always on - You can
be playful without needing an outcome
If pursuit of the game is getting in the way
of enjoying your life, you’re doing it wrong
The game is about enjoying your life
The words you say, the things you do...
they’re for your own enjoyment as much as
anyone’s.
You’ll learn to love to be playful
GIRLS LIKE ME
(This is where “plowing” comes from)
Girls Like Me. Seriously.
And if they don’t, they just don’t know me.
And if I don’t get along with one, it’s
probably her fault.
I’ve worked on my personality, I know who I am,
I LIVE the “ten code”
I like girls, too!
SUMMARY
Carry These Beliefs With You, Internalize
Them, Develop A History of Their Truth!
I am value, and I invite others in
I expect her to contribute
It’s always fun
Girls Like Me

Affirmations - not just for Stuart Smalley

IGNITE YOUR
LIFE
WHAT WE’LL DISCUSS
Some things I’ve learned along the way
If only I’d acted on this stuff sooner!
These can prevent heartbreak and pain
These can accelerate smiles and success
Commit to this path, and you WILL know
these things yourself...
...and know them deeply, intuitively, and
fully.
RELENTLESSLY SEEK THE TRUTH
it’s only in seeing it, that you can act upon it
no amount of wishful thinking will empower
you as much as a solid connection to reality
you MUST put your ego aside
it’s a prerequisite for being a good leader
truths about me:
ego prevented surrender to learning w/ women
irresponsible: thought I could party and play
liar: white lies to me were huge indiscretions
RELENTLESSLY CREATE VALUE
you shape your reality when you create value
this is where the dreamers and the world-
changers split paths
you must create more than you consume
pleasure comes from consumption, self-
esteem and happiness comes from production
value originates in your mission and drive
mission and drive originate in surrender to
doing something you like to do, or a problem
you want to solve, and striving to do it well
YOU GET WHAT YOU GIVE...
You Get What You Give
with your body, with your work, with success
And Like Attracts Like
With value, relationships, and women
The easiest way to have a real connection
with the woman you want is to be the ideal
guy for her
If you treat women like dogs, you’ll get dogs.
If you don’t like them, you won’t get them! If
you treat them well, you’ll get a great one.
LIFE IS LIVED...
Life is Lived in the Face of Challenges
nature gave us pain as a messaging device, that
we are nearing or at our limits
growth happens when we “push through” pain
and fear
the champion: lives through courage, not fear
The Game is played in the face of rejection
because of societal norms, there’s always risk
this is also THE opportunity to cultivate
boldness and confidence
HAPPINESS IS...
Getting older and becoming successful can
lead to unhappiness
Preferences narrow
Discernment from your own growth in value
life is hard work!
Happiness is rarely thrust upon us
Every goal, purchase or achievement is
worth little if you are not thankful for them
Happiness is thankfulness... and it’s available
to anyone
FUN HAPPENS IN THE NOW
Like happiness, fun isn’t always cast on us
But it’s a choice we can make
actions controlling emotions
In work, of course
But especially with women...
on the approach
on the date
Don’t let fear, anxiety or stress get in the
way of you actually having fun!
THIS LIFE IS YOURS TO DOMINATE

Champ or Chump? Jay-Z or Dashboard Conf?

The most important step: when you take sole
responsibility for your success and happiness...
...and when you have some small wins, and
those small wins become big wins...
... and when you start a positive feedback
cycle, and positive self-talk...
...and when you start surrounding yourself with
other awesome people...
... then this life becomes yours to dominate.
IN SUMMARY
This is just the start... but it’s also the finish
you’ll look back on this in years saying “oh right!”
A Pro’s life is a never-ending cycle of growth,
challenge, success and yes, fun.
I’m very thankful to be able to sharing these words,
and building the business I love.
We’ve built a big catalog and we offer coaching for
those who want to move faster, reach higher, win
bigger, and surround themselves with awesome
people.
My sincere hope: for you to become a ten of your
own, and to love every damn minute of your life.
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