4.10.

Working on your Ego – Continuing the SHAMELESS Self-Assessment

•  The Loss of an Alpha Male – “I’m not going into the cab with you” OR “No way I’m entering
there” OR “Oh common!. . . ”

–  You answer “OK, goodbye” OR “OK, I’m going to grab my jacket”.

–  Make her feel that losing you will be so bad for her.

•  Enter your Place

– Pump some music as quick as possible! It makes it easier for her.

–  If you’re eating something, make sure it’s something quick, so that she doesn’t have time
to rationalize.

4.10 Working on your Ego – Continuing the SHAMELESS Self-

Assessment
• Every night you go out, the bar is always at Zero. Always.

•  Don’t fall into the Validation trap.

•   Don’t brag to your friends.

–  Willpower yourself not to do that.

–  Keep hammering your Ego.

•   Don’t judge other people.  It brings negative energy to you.

•  STOP COUNTING “YOUR LAYS”.

–  If you don’t want to forget them, then write about them.

•  Stop labelling if you’re a newbie, intermediate or advanced.

•  The enemy of Mastery is “good enough”.

–  Never stop working hard when you start getting laid.

•  You can always learn from everybody.

•  Every seduction, every interaction starts from Zero.

•   PHYSICAL ABUNDANCE COMES AND GOES. MENTAL ABUNDANCE IS

WHAT COUNTS.

•  Game should always be a humble experience.

•   CALL TO ACTION:   Be shameless, write down what you still need to work on and what
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Mastering Natural Game

5.1 How to Pull to NOT your Place

•  When you have no logistics.

•  Screen the girl properly.

–  Not every girl will feel comfortable to have you at her place.

–  She needs to be/feel adventurous and spontaneous.

•  Pull to your Friend’s place.

–  You have to find an excuse (“My friend is out of town. I’m living at his apartment.”)

•   You can also book an Hotel, but be careful!  Hotels can make the girl feel slutty, as you
are paying for a place just to have sex with her.  Make her feel as comfortable as possible!

•  Pull to her place.

– Where does she live?  – “In which area do you live, by the way?”

– How far is it?  – “That’s 10 min away from here, right?” (even though you have no clue
where)

– Is she alone?  – “I bet your roommates hate you because you are so messy.” OR “I bet
you still live with your parents.” OR “You do seem like a girl who lives alone.”

– How down is she to bring you?  – “Do you have drinks at home?” OR “Can you cook?”
OR “I bet your place is super messy.”

•  Pull to the car.

– “I’m gonna show you my car.”

–  You can also bring her home and BOOM!

•  Be careful with getting sexual at public places! You need to baby step and screen
her properly.

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5.2 How to Pull from Daygame

•   Statement of Empathy

– “Listen, I know this is weird, but I just couldn’t resist.”

–  It takes the pressure of her and makes you high value.

•  Daygame Logistics

– “What are you up to now, by the way?”

–  Make sure you get the logistics handled.

– By simply saying “by the way” makes it look not creepy!

•   Your main priority should always be to pull (if logistics allow it)

•  Your Mindset: IT’S POSSIBLE!

•  THE BEST BABY STEP: INSTANT DATE

5.3 Introducing The No Game – Passive Attraction

•  The Natural’s Motto

1. “I trust that I’m good enough, because why not?” :D

2. “I’m confident that I will be okay, no matter what.”

3. “I’ve been through a lot, nothing can throw me off, I’m happy that I’m on my Journey.”

4. The Fuck Faith Frame.

•  Slow down and let Passive Attraction work for you.

•  Shift from DOING to BEING.

•   Time – Your best Wingman

– Stay. In. Set.

•  Good Game is when you and the girl are having a good time.

•  The Natural waits for a sign of dis-interest. And it barely ever happens. Remember to
laugh at this, because it is not logical.

•  Know the difference between Token Resistance (Fake) and Real Resistance .

•  There extroverted girls (they give you some signs) and introverted girls (they don’t
give you anything).

•  The Power of the Re-Approach

– “Wow, he trusts himself so much he came back to approach me. He must be so cool.”

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•   Every girl just wants to be loved.

•   Phantom Escalation

–  Do it specially with Hot Girls.

–  Go for the kiss, and step back just before kissing her. It makes the girl in her head.

–  She will think “Why didn’t he kiss me? Do I have bad breath?”

5.4 Passive Attraction through Others

•   Your 2 best Wingmen: Time & The Venue.

•  The We Frame.

–  A true Natural feels so good in his own skin.

– And he wants to share it with others!

•  Letting the Venue work for you.

– Upon entering and exiting: chat up the bouncers.

–  With or without girls.

– A HOT BARTENDER? DON’T GAME HER, MAKE HER YOUR FRIEND!

– Remember people’s names.

•  CUT OUT TROLLING! SERIOUSLY, DON’T DO IT!

•   The Hub

–  Pick a place at the club to meet with your wingman.

–  Go around and pick, at least, 2 girls and come back to that spot.

–  Introduce your girls to your wingman’s ones.

– You passively display you’re not a weird guy.

–  You can also pull guys, but focus on the girls!

•  Girl Bouncing

–  Go first to the easy openable girls.

–  Bounce up to the hot girls, step by step.

•   CALL TO ACTION: Go out, handshake the bouncers, chat up the crew and create a hub.

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5.5 The Social Chameleon – Perfect Calibration

•   3 Stages of Natural Calibration

1.  Me (Congruence)
–  No more mask!
–  REMEMBER: The girl doesn’t want the perfect guy. She wants the guy who’s perfectly
fine with himself.

2.   The Girl
–  Verbal Game
–   Vibing
–  Physicality

3.   The Environment – her Friends, the Bouncer, the atmosphere

– Understand the dynamics of your interaction and what is happening in your surround-
ings.
– Don’t make yourself look like a fucking idiot. Girls will never help you. Their social
status is the most important thing for them.

•  Fast Approaching vs. Slow Approaching

–  When you are in the zone, slow down your approach and interactions. You will make it
easier for the girl.

•   CALL TO ACTION:   Go out, expand your awareness about your environment. Take your
time to approaching.

5.6 Finding her Blueprint +  Letting her chase YOU

•   Give the girl space to invest.

•  The girl will tell how to sleep with her. Be a Vigilante of her reactions.

•  Compliance Testing the Girl

–  If she’s OK to walk from A to B.

–  Is she OK to touch you.

–  Is she OK to hold your hand.

•   The Vacuum

–  You give her extra space to invest.

–  Put yourself in the position of advantage, have amazing body language.

– When it gets silent, smile and stare. By doing this, you a positive pressure on
her.

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–  When she invests enough, make out with her.

•  I would do anything for love but I won’t do you.

•  The Anna Frame

–  This won’t work with every girl.

–  You get so much validation from a girl, and then suddenly you lose it.

–  Make the same to a girl who’s really into you.

– Give her shit  – “That’s all you’re going to get for tonight.” OR “It was good to meet
you.”

•   CALL TO ACTION: Go out and use the Vacuum.

5.7 Learning from a Newbie

•  Keep padding yourself on the shoulder, dude.

•  Get back to the “Anything Goes” Mentality

–  Go crazy with your pick up vision.

–  Pick up p olice officers, secretaries, waitresses. . .

•  Be open to learn from newbies.

– The enemy of “really good” is “good enough”!

•   CALL TO ACTION: Go out today with a newbie.

5.8 The Power of What you DON’T Say

•  Game is subtle.

•  The Power of Words

– “By the way”

∗ The underlying communication is ”it is not important” (although it still is for you!).

– “How spontaneous/adventurous are you?”

∗  It makes you see how far the girl can go (she can have a boyfriend and still go with
you!).

– “Actually”
∗  It’s like you’re sharing something secret from you to her.

– “Can I be honest with you?”

∗  Whatever comes after that, the girl will feel it is real. It amplifies everything!

– “Oh. . . I see. . . ”

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∗  You hit on her Ego and make her in her head.

– “Another one. . . ”
∗  The girl is not special.

•  The Power of your Face

– When she is explaining something to you, make your face look like you’re
confused or creeped out. It makes her feel weird.

–  Still, be careful with that, if she’s high self-esteem.

– You can also look away!

•  Silent Opening

1. Establish eye contact.

2. Hold eye contact.

3. Smile.

4. Tell her to come.

•   CALL TO ACTION: Go out and use the Power of your Face.

5.9 Silent Pulling

•  My Life is already awesome. This night is already epic. But I wanna see where this
can go.

•  Don’t give the girl any time to slut shame herself for going home with you.

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Sex

6.1 Full Closing and Sex – Becoming the Intimate Lover of the Fan-
tasy
•  Never forget the Humor when Escalating.

•  Take the pressure of yourself, because you can never do it when you pressure yourself.

•   LMR – Last Minute Resistance

–  They have it when you take things too fast.

–  Or when they think they may come across as sluts.

•   The DTF-O-Meter

– Measure of How much she is in for Sex.

–  When a girl is alone somewhere, she is there to get fucked.

–  If you ask her “What are you doing later?” and she answers “I don’t know, the night is
young”, that is a good indicator.

•  Letting her chase

–  You’re cool, but. . .

– . . . only if you promise to be cool/I am on my period/you’re too old.

–  The girl feels that she must chase you in order to deserve you.

•  “We’re not gonna have sex tonight”

–  Just to give you shit, too see how you react.

– “It’s OK, I don’t care, just make yourself feel comfortable.”

– “No problem, there’s the door. There’s HD porn nowadays, I just jerk off after you leave.”

– That hits on her ego and makes her chase you, because you are free from
outcome.

•  FULL ABUNDANCE THINKING

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•  THE FREEZE OUT

–  She keeps giving you resistance, but doesn’t want to remove her clothes or touch your dick.

– From 0 to 100, you jump off her, you turn the light on, silence the music, and do something
else.

– NEVER EVER BE BUTT-HURT, ALWAYS BE IN A GOOD MOOD!

–  Give her an excuse why you did that. (ex.: forgot to call a friend)

•  LAST RESORT: Talk to her

– “Are you OK? How are you feeling?”

–  Listen to her.

•   THE GENTLEMAN ESCALATOR

–  I hope it is OK we’re doing it so fast.

–  I hope that’s OK.

–  Show her that you love female energy.

•  THE FRAME FOR SEX

–  Sex is natural. Every girl has the Madonna and Whore frame

–  It is mutual.

– Non-judgemental Vibe →  Super Key!

– The Speech:  “You know, sex is natural, everyone does it; even the Pope jerks off; but I
totally understand if you had bad experiences in the past or don’t want to do it; but when
2 people feel connected, their emotions will overcome everything and they will cuddle and
have sex, and it will be wonderful; when you want to have sex, just know that I will have
massive respect for you.”

•   MAKING HER CUM

– Take the pressure of yourself. The moment you chill, she chills.

–  If you wanna lick her ass, just do it!

– First, focus on your pleasure, as arrogant as that may seem.

–  Keep the fun up! (especially when taking her pants or her bra)

– Give her compliments – “Oh my god girl, you drive me fucking crazy.” OR “You’re so
hot.”)

– Find her Sex Blueprint  – know if she likes it slow or faster.

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•  WHEN YOU CAN’T GET HARD

–  An erection is a state.

–  The moment you force a state, it doesn’t happen.

–  It comes from you pressuring yourself.

1. Chill, Relax, Breathe slowly.
2. Turn the girl around. Don’t even touch your dick!
3. Don’t apologize, ever! Laugh about it – “fucking condoms, fuck my life haha.”

•   HOW TO MAKE HER SQUIRT?

– Just make her feel good with it – “It’s OK baby, just let it go.”

– Before making her squirt, just let her know that “It is super-hot baby!”
1. She needs to be very aroused first.
2. Massage her clitoris.
3. Make sure she is hydrated enough.
4. Use your 2 fingers, penetrate her in a come here movement.

•   GETTING FEEDBACK

–  After the sex, ask her “What did you like the best?”

•   HOW TO LAST LONGER

–  First time, cum on her or on her mouth. (if she likes)

– Be ready for round 2, 3, 4. . .

–  Interrupt the PC muscle when pissing.

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Relationship Management

7.1 Beyond the One Night Stand – Managing your Relationships

•   The Free Stallion Frame

–  You wanna be known as the Player guy, but you also wanna be accepted for that.

–  Have a non-judgemental attitude.

– Be respectful, and don’t make it a big deal.

–  Always be fun and have a good time with her. The meeting should always be based on fun!

– Never be apologetic or brag to her about your sexual encounters.

– FUCK HER WELL :)

– DON’T BE FUCKING NEEDY AFTER HAVING SEX WITH HER!

•  EVERY RELATIONSHIP IS AN ONGOING AND MUTUAL SEDUCTION PRO-

CESS

–  You need to keep gaming your girls, before and after having sex with them!

– AGAIN: NEVER STOP GAMING THEM!

•   Let her text you back.

•  Managing Expectations

–  Don’t label her as a fuck buddy.

– Don’t let her see as someone she can talk too when she’s sad. She has her
friends for that.

• At some point, girls ask you “What are we?” You have to be fully honest with her.

–  Hug her.

–  “Oh, you’re so great Lisa, you are an amazing girl, but listen. You are searching for a
relationship, and I cannot give you that right now. I’m sorry, I just can’t. I really like my
freedom. I just don’t feel that I don’t want to settle down, at this point of my life, with a
girl.”

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– “But I fucking love hanging out with you, do you know that? You are this, you’re that, you
are so hot, you are so gorgeous. When I hang out with you, there’s only you and nobody
else. I’m not thinking about any other girl. But if you can’t take that, if you don’t wanna
hang out and have fun, I totally respect that. We can stay friends, here’s the door, you can
leave.”

•  Girls will always test you.

•  When girls call you out  (saying you’re sleeping with other girls)

1. Don’t be apologetic (tell her you’re fucking other girls).

2. Make it relatable (tell her you have a lot of fun with her).

•   When friends call you out

–  Smile, enjoy it and don’t be apologetic.

7.2 Finding “The One” Special Girlfriend

•  There’s no monogamy. There’s not.

•  It’s not finding the one, it’s choosing the one.

–  From all of the girls you’ve pulled, you choose the next best one from all of them.

–  Not necessarily the hottest one.

– Ideally, a girl with whom you get along with the best and HSE + HSD girl.

•  The more freedom you give a woman to walk away, the more she wants to stay with
you.

•   If you want an exclusive relationship, make sure she’s very very awesome ;) (and
that fucks you super super well)

•   Love <3 <3 <3

–  Are you really in love with her or are you in love with the longing for love?

– Love should not be painful – ABUNDANCE.

– Love should be wonderful and beautiful.

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Wingmanship

•  How to get a Wingman

–  Be the kind of person you want in your Life.

–  Post in your inner circle or local groups.

•   Your friends

– Lead by example, don’t try to convince them.

– Don’t be too good to hang out with everyone.

•  Wingman Rules

1. The guy who first opens the set is the guy who chooses what to do with that set.
2. Be willing to sacrifice your game to help your wingman.
3. Never make fun of him. Motivate him!

•  How to Game in Set (with your Wingman)

– Get to know each other well first.

–  You should always approach alone, and then your wingman comes in. It is less creepy for
the girl(s).
– Don’t put your arm or touch your wingman. It makes you coming across as a
try hard.
–  Screen for your wingman’s girls availability.

•  ‘Cross Gaming’

–  Communicate with your wingman’s girl and your wingman talks with your girl.
–  Make sure they get to know about both of you, so that they can stay relaxed.

•   Upon Pulling

–  Text each other!

– Still, have a plan before!
– Give an open suggestion – “Hey guys, lets grab something to eat!”

•   CALL TO ACTION: Go find a wingman.

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Lifestyle

9.1 The Man in His Prime Lifestyle

• We always go through two phases: Expansion (hustling hard, penetrating the world with Love
and Passion) and Contraction (chill and settle down).

•  It is our responsibility, as men, to leverage the Expansion phase.

•  99 % of people are in the contraction phase, coping instead of thriving.

•   Get out there and create the best expansion phase that you’ve ever seen in your
goddamn-fucken life!

•   Set clear goals

1. Dream big, make it ridiculous.

2. What does it take to get there? What is the Mindset of a person who is there? What is
the first step that I can do right now to get me there?

3. Be bought in, believe for 100 %

• Fuck that “I’m not ready yet”. The moment you go do it, that’s when you are ready.

•   Start letting go.

–  Let go friends that drag you down. Stop hanging out with them.

–  Hang out with people who are hustling hard as you.

– Drop down any addictions that drag you down (alcohol, cigarettes, porn, mas-
turbation, unhealthy food).

•  Ask yourself this question everyday of your Life: “Is this bringing me further in my
Life?”

–  Drop anything that is not.

•   Rybrym: Respect your Body, Respect your Mind

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– Respect your Body

∗  Healthy Eating – pre-cook your own meals, avoid sugar and fast food. Throw away
anything that is unhealthy.
∗   Work Out.

– Respect your Mind

∗   Meditation   – sit down, straight spine, rest your hands on your legs or keep them
together, stay grounded (feet on the floor), close your eyes, feel aware of all the different
sensations in your body and emotions you’re going through. Accept those feelings.
Don’t forget to focus on breathing deeply and slowly. The basic premise of meditation
is full acceptance. Do it for 15 min. When you are in loud environments, plug in your
headphones and play white noise.
∗ Become aware of your thoughts: nurture positivity, cut out negativity.   Wel-
come positive people in your world.
∗   Read, listen to audiobooks, watch videos.  Keep your mind engaged with new
ideas. When you’re driving or cooking, blast an audiobook.

•  Resting (contraction phase)

– Listen to your body.  If you feel super exhausted, rest.

– Don’t hate yourself when you rest.  Your self-love must come from you, not from your
achievements.  You are doing this because you love yourself.

–  Sometimes resting can be more productive than hustling.

– When you rest, rest fully.

– In terms of pick up, pick the worst day of the week. That will be your off-day.
Spend that day just chillin’ with a girl or by your own, playing video games, going for a
walk or watching a movie.

– Have a cheat day (every month), and eat the nastiest fast food, don’t do anything on
that day and just chill.

•  Take cold showers (from the beginning until the end).

–  You will even shower kicker!

–  Don’t do it after you’ve eaten or when you’re sick.

•   The human mind is the most powerful force in the universe.

•  Make yourself a little bit uncomfortable every day.

•  Seek motivation and inspiration.

– Quotes, images, videos. . .

•   Read autobiographies.

–  It shows you those celebrities are nothing more nothing less, than flesh, bones, skin and a
hell of a dream.

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–  Just like you.

•   Continuous repetition of your goals: HOW = WHY!

•  Join a club to make yourself more social.

•  To FAP or not to FAP?

–  Don’t FAP!

–  If you want to get an orgasm, go out and don’t go through a masturbation maratone!

–  The amount of energy you get in return is massive.

•   CALL TO ACTION: Create an Excel Sheet with your every day goals.

•  There has to be continuity. History is made by people who finish the fucking thing
they’re doing!

9.2 Social Circle Game

•  You take the most benefit from the Game if you play it in the long term.

•  There will be no results in the first 3 months, but it will eventually happen.

•   Everything you do is Social!

•  If the girl sees you have a lot of friends, she will automatically feel so much attracted to you.

•  DO NOT TAKE A SHIT WHERE YOU EAT – do not pull girls from your workplace. It
can destroy your reputation. (or make you build another one)

•   Create your Social Circle. Don’t isolate girls from the group.  Let passive attraction
work for you, as you show yourself as a leader of the group, the one who makes things happen.

•  Don’t ignore the chodes!  They may suck with girls, but they are good at something else.
Expand the knowledge you don’t have (that they do) and make them feel more integrated in the
group every time you meet them.

•   ONLY FUCK THE GIRLS FROM THE OUTER CIRCLE (FRIENDS FROM
YOUR SOCIAL CIRCLE)!

•  10 Rules of the Social Pimp

1.  You have to be the Farmer, instead of the Hunter.  Make connections and let Time
(your best wingman) work for you.

2.   Be a connector – introduce/bring together other people to your social circle and provide
as much Value as possible.

3.  Be a Mentor  – offer advice for everybody that might need it.

4.   Be a Scholar  – be able to learn from other people. It makes you earn their respect.

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5.   Be the Leader  – always bring a good vibe to the group.

6.  Be a Helping Hand  – anticipate when your people might need help and do help them.

7.  Be an Entertainer  – people don’t really care what your problems are, they don’t give a
shit. If you’re in a bad mood, just stay at home (don’t tell them you’re in a bad mood).
Don’t go and ruin the vibe of the group.

8.  Be a Listener  – you know what I mean. . .

9.   Be Reliable   – if you promise someone something, keep your word. KEEP YOUR
WORD. It hurts your reputation if you don’t.

10.  Be a Defender  – help people from your group who feel shy or insecure and other people
are trying to mess up with them.

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5.   Be the Leader  – always bring a good vibe to the group.

6.  Be a Helping Hand  – anticipate when your people might need help and do help them.

7.  Be an Entertainer  – people don’t really care what your problems are, they don’t give a
shit. If you’re in a bad mood, just stay at home (don’t tell them you’re in a bad mood).
Don’t go and ruin the vibe of the group.

8.  Be a Listener  – you know what I mean. . .

9.   Be Reliable   – if you promise someone something, keep your word. KEEP YOUR
WORD. It hurts your reputation if you don’t.

10.  Be a Defender  – help people from your group who feel shy or insecure and other people
are trying to mess up with them.

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