Authoritarianism and The Family Today
Authoritarianism and The Family Today
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THE FAMILY: ITS FUNCTION AND DESTINY
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~. Chapter XVIII
MAX HORKHEIMER
2The economic changes indicated above are the reasons whythis right can be in-
creasingly curtailed and even made illusory by financial and political measures of gov-
ernments.
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tion by means of this image. In everyday life, however, the authority
of the nation has seemed to depend on the authority of the family. The
only'dictatorship in recent times, the Third Reich, which tried to dis-
pense systematically with any mediation between the individual and
the state and to push Jacobinism to the extreme, has failed.
The wish to strengthen the family is almost universal; yet it is neces-
sary to bring its basic difficulty to light. If ideas, cherished through the
centuries, are rigidly maintained against the course of history instead
of being preserved by being developed and transformed, they finally .
are deserted by truth and tum into empty ideologies-however strongly
they may be sustained. Because in dealing with our own traditions we
tend to overlookthis fateful dilemma, an example from another culture
may serve as an illustration. The Chinese family depended to a great
extent on the intensive cultivation of the earth. It possessed a small
piece of land and developed a great skill in working it. Experience
with regard to seasons, pests, and all kinds of dangers and their pos-
sible prevention under the conditions of the particular spot involved
was the more important since the social environment remained rela-
tively static throughout the centuries. Old and friendly relations with
the neighbors, acquaintance with local officials, and a knowledge
of ways and means of dealing with friendly or unfriendly invaders
were possessions invaluable to a farmer. Age was an advantage, and the
father therefore commanded a sincere respect. The role of ancestors
in the Chinese religion appears to be a logical consequence of this
state of affairs; respect for the father and grandfather was prolonged,
extrapolated,.and enhanced for the sake of those who were invisible.
Once this old structure of the family is destroyed by industrialization,
and particularly by mechanized agriculture, the superiority of the
father and the venerability of old age will tend. to lose their meaning.
That particular kindof wisdom will be irrelevant, and the negative
aspects of old age will stand out in bold relief. The cult of ancestors,
isolated from concrete experience, may then. still be propagated and
enforced by means of social or even political sanctions, but one day it
will appearthat this ideology has become hollow. Striking examples
of such developments,concerning the family directly aswell as religious
ideas derived from it, have been furnished in recent European history.
They have taught how treacherous the appearance of sound traditions
in the.family can prove to be.
The more the family as an essential economic unit loses ground in
Authoritarianism and the Family Today 363
Western civilization, the more society emphasizes its convention~'
forms. Since the physiological relationship of man and wife is the r~si
due of an the aspects of the family, this is the focus of conservative
concern. It exalts marriage to such an extent that marriage and family
tend to become synonyms. Women more than men depend directly
on this development. In view of the fundamental patriarchal aspects of
society, which have not really changed, women are still at a disadvan-
tage. Not only must they adapt themselves as breadwinners to forms of
life molded by and for men, but their historical heritage, their specific
education enforced by a masculine society through the centuries, the
irrational preference given to men in many careers, and the cultural
climate in general create additional problems for the working woman
and make her existence psychologically difficult. For these and other
reasons women take a tremendous interest in the inviolability of the
institution of marriage. In our highly organized society, they are allied
with the most efficient groups of mass culture in the defense and propa-
ganda of this aspect of the family. Legislation, churches, literature,
radio, and the movies join in fighting the dangers of immorality.
Unfortunately, propaganda for marriage cannot replace the awe-inspir-
ing power of the family when it was the most impressive reality in
social life. It cannot bring back that. naive and quasi-natural belief
in the grandeur of the family by which marriage once received its
meaning. Modem. rationality has permeated this whole sphere. The
unreserved co-operation of all branches of state and local governments,
the war against prostitution, the degradation· of free love as a vice, the
moralistic prescriptions for the synthetic daydreams on the screen. and
the air, the plugging of romance in the midst of a materialistic culture
and for practical reasons-all these factors cannot prevent marriage in
its tum from being transformed into a pragmatic affair. It becomes in-
creasingly an expedient relationship which the man must choose in
order to enjoy the benefits of cohabitation and in which the woman
seeks a certain amount of security. Children are raised not because the
tasks of one's own life can be fulfilled only through them but for more
or less extrinsic reasons. They never experience the warmth of that sec..
ond womb which; at times and in certain social strata, the family used
to be. At best they are brought up intelligently for the struggle of life.
Whereas at an earlierperiod the·individualknew of himself only as
a part of quasi-organic entities, which gave meaning to his .life and
were constantly present in his acts and ideas, individuals today tend
364 The Family: Its Function and Destiny
indeed to become the social atoms into which the bourgeois revolu-
tions, according to their critics, have pulverized society. In this era of
mass societyman is alone. His name-which once linked him to a place,
a past, a destiny-has been turned into a mark of identification, a mere
label; his individuality into a set of qualifications. The neutrality of the
label correspondsto the fungibility of the labeled. Once he was through
and through a master or a servant, a knight or a bondsman: his human
substance was defined by the facets of social inequality. Today his
place in the social hierarchy does not appear any longer as a part of
his own nature; he knows how to differentiate between himselfand his
role in society. •
But this "sell," psychologically involved as the personality may be, is
the abstract subject of self-interest as proclaimed in nineteenth-century
economic and philosophical thought. The modern ego, in so far as it
distinguishes itself thus clearly from any debasing social categories,
corresponds more adequately to the idea of humanity than did the self-
conscience of man in any period of the past. It differs, on the other
hand, much more decisively from that idea by its abstractness and
inaccessibility. In the development of society this stage is necessary,
logical. Only after the ego has learned to conceive of itself as the ab-
stract subject of reason, in contrast to anything concrete, can it identify
itself intelligently with the positive forces in humanity and thus regain
a new and higher concreteness. For the organic enclaves in modem
society this means that form and content stand apart. The actorson the
scene of the family remain social atoms, though they play the roles
of husbands, wives, and children.
No other institution of our society reveals so clearly the problematic
nature of the modern family as the divorce. The French Revolution,
which anticipated all.the phases and aspects of the coming era, made
divorce soeasy that marriage was in fact replaced by a mere contractual
tie, the only type of relation which is in strict accordance with the
individualistic principle. In many social groups today marriage has
again been practically abolished by the institution of divorce. Individ-
uals are as exchangeable in marriage as they are in commercialrelation-
ships. One enters a new one if it promises to work out better. Each
person is identified completely with his or her function for a particular
purpose. Everyone remains an abstract center of interests and accom-
plishments.
The discrepancy between the parents' true character as determined
Authoritarianism ana the Family Today 365
by modem industrialism and their role in the family is quickly dis-
coveredby the children and is largely responsible for the stunted growth
of their emotional life, the hardening of their character, their prema-
ture transformation into adults. The interaction between the family
and general deculturalization becomes a vicious circle. When the chil-
dren grow up, the roles are played more consciously; to cultivate family
ties is the thing to do. But such an attitude cannot check the emaciation
ofthe family. Either the atomization of man will be conquered by more-"]
fundamental changes and transformations, or indeed it may prove fatal J
to this culture. The same economic changes which destroy the family
bring about the danger of totalitarianism. The family in crisisproduces
the attitudes which predispose men for blind submission.
As the family has largely ceased to exercise specific authority over
its members, it has become a training ground for authority as such.
The old dynamics of familial submission are still operative, but they
make for an all-pervasive spirit of adjustment and authoritarian aggres-
siveness rather than for a furtherance of the interests of the family and
its members. Whereas totalitarianism in its German version tried to
dispense with the family as an almost superfluous intermediary between
the total state and the social atoms, the modem family in fact produces
the ideal objects of totalitarian integration. Here is the typical develop-
ment:
Initially the infant has the same experience of love and hatred of and
from his parents as he had throughout the bourgeois age. He soon dis-
covers, however, that the father is by no means the powerful figure,
the impartial judge, the generous protector he is pictured to be. The
child takes a realistic view and dispenses with all the. demands and
hopes through which the family in its best periods and in the mostcul-
tured classes delayed the radical adjustment of the child to the external
world. The socially conditioned weakness of the father, which is not
disproved by his occasional outbreaks of masculinity, prevents the
child's real identification with him. In earlier times a loving imitation
of the self-reliant,pmdent man, . devoted to his duty, was the source
of moral autonomy in the individual. Today the growing child, who in-
stead of the image of a father has received only the abstract idea of
arbitrary power, looks for a stronger, more powerful father, for a super-
father, as it is furnished by fascist.imagery. Whereas authoritarian
submissiveness is still being inculcated in the child by the£amily, the
instinctual relation toward the parents is greatly injured. In pastpe.,.
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riods, when the father could not playa direct role in the child's upbring-
ing, his place in the child's emotional life was occupied by an uncle,
a tutor, a teacher, or some other individual person. Harsh and hard-
ened though he might be, he had at least some human traits, some
personal features and gestures that could be imitated, some ideas that
could be meditated and argued. Today the father tends to be directly
replaced by collective entities, the school class, the sports team, the
club, the state. The more family dependence is reduced to a mere
psychological function within the soul of the infant, the more abstract
and unspecific it becomes in the mind of the adolescent; gradually it
tends to lead to a general readiness to accept any authority provided
it is strong enough.
This development is being furthered by changes in the mother's
role. Not that she treats the child more brutally than in former times;
just the opposite. The modern model mother plans the education of
her child almostscientifically, from the well-balanced diet to the equally
well-balanced ratio between reprimand and friendliness, as recom-
mended by the popular psychological literature. Her whole attitude
toward the child becomes rational; even love is administered as an in-
gredient of pedagogical hygiene.s Our society, in the educated, urban
classes, promotesa "professional," highly practical attitude even in those
women who do not actually earn money but still fulfill their role in the
home. They undertake motherhood as a profession, and their attitude
toward children is matter of fact and pragmatic. The spontaneity of
the mother and her natural, unlimited protectiveness and warmth tend
to be dissolved. Therefore, the image of the mother in the. minds of
children sheds its mystical aura, and the mother cult of adults turns
from a mythologyin the strict sense of the word into a set of rigid con-
ventions.
Women have paid for their limited admission into the economic
world of the male by taking over the behavior patterns of a thoroughly
reified society. The consequences reach into the most tender relations
between mother and child. She ceases to be a mitigating intermediary
between him and cold reality and becomes just another mouthpiece of
the latter. Formerly she endowed the child with a feeling of security
8 Modern psychology and certainly the most progressive magazines are aware of the
danger and try tocheck rationality by more rationality. In motion pictures the enlight-
ened mother is defeated by the kind and understanding friend who introduces Santa
Claus at a higher level. Romanticism, however refined and delectable it may be, tends
to shift back the problem rather than to solve it.
Authoritarianism and the Family Today 367
which allowed him to develop a certain independence. He felt his love
for his mother reciprocated and somehow lived on this emotional fund
throughout his life. The mother, cut off from the community of the
males and despite an unjustified idealization being herself forced into
a dependent situation, represented a principle other than reality; she
could sincerely dream the dreams of utopia with the child, and she was
his natural ally whether she wished it or not. Thus there. was a force
in his life which allowed him to develop his own individuality con-
comitantly with his adjustment to the external world. Together with
the fact that decisive authority in the house was represented by the
father and therefore asserted itself, at least to a minimum, through an
intellectual interaction, the role of the mother prevented the adjust-
ment from happening too suddenly and totally and at the expense of
individuation. Today, since the child does not experience the mother's
unrestricted love, his own capacity for love remains undeveloped. He
represses the child in himself (which does.not keep him later on from
grotesque attempts to act as a child when he wants to have fun) and
behaves as a scheming little adult with no consistent independent ego
but with a tremendous amount of narcissism. His being hardboiled
and at the same time submissive in the face of real power predisposes
him for totalitarian forms of life.
The maudlin cult of the mother recently observed in the United
States and frequently mistaken for a matriarchal tendency does not
contradict her degradation. Rather, this cult is an ideological overcom-
pensation for the abolition of the mother's role. The seizure of the total-
ity of our life by organization, which has transformed the sphere of
privacy previously occupied by the family into socially controlled lei-
sure time, has endowed women with the rule over this sphere of organ-
ized culture-sarule which, despite the goodthey may do, also brings to
the fore the traditional backwardness of women. This is one of the
roots of the phenomenon of "momisms" as described by Philip Wylie.
The "mom" is the death mask of the mother. Where she reignssu-
preme, she often enhances by bigoted and ill-advised activities the same
spirit of authoritarian repression which a lack of love and of primary
contact with the child promotes unconsciously in the latter.
The roleplayed today by the shadow of the family, or rather by the
family as an ideologylosing its economic as well as its emotional basis,
has been shown in detail by empirical research One study, .Iocusedon
e.
5 Cf. the section on social psychology by Erich Fromm, "Studien iibet Autoritat un~
Familie," in Schriftendes Instituts fur Sozialforschung, herausgegeben von Max: Ho:dt-
helmer (Paris: Librairie Felix Alcan, 193 6) .
370 The Family: Its Function and Destiny
cause of her sex is something weak and contemptible. He senses the
ambivalence in her official exaltation and looks upon her as a member
of an inferior race. The coldness and shallowness of the authoritarian
character can largely be expressed as the emotional consequences of
this rejection. Toughness, ruthlessness, and the forced display of mas-
culinity, all leading to politico-fascist ideologies, are genetically linked
with a disturbed relationship toward the mother or, perhaps even more,
with the lack of any genuine relationship with her. This, however, is
probably not even the most significant implication of the stunted rela-
tionship between mother and child. What seems to be most seriously
affected is the subjects' tolerance for the opposite sex. Anti-femininity
based on rejection of the mother sets the pattern for the subsequent
rejection of everything that is deemed "different." Out-groups rejected
by fascists, particularly the Jews, are often fancied as showing traits of
femininity, such as weakness, emotionalism, lack of self-discipline, and
sensuality. Contempt for the traits of the opposite sex in one's own sex
seems to be regularly connected with a highly generalized intolerance of
what is different. This result suggests a deep-rooted affinity between
homosexuality, authoritarianism, and the present decay of the family.
The strict dichotomy between masculinity and femininity and the taboo
of any psychological transitions from one to the other correspond to an
over-all tendency to think in dichotomies and stereotypes.
The list below contains many details whose connection with the
structure of the modem family cannot be discussed in this chapter,
but it may help to illustrate what we know from empirical studies about
the traits of the authoritarian personality. It goes without saYing that
this complicated phenomenon cannot adequately be expressed by any
kind of enumeration but demands a more dynamic conceptual frame-
work. No attempt is made here to define the individual traits in precise
terms; some of them overlap, others seem to be in conflict. The order
in which the traits are given is haphazard and does not represent any
ranking with regard to importance or frequency of occurrence. It should
be kept in mind that the empirical findings' do not show that any' in-
dividual who possesses one or several of these traits is necessarily a pro-
spective fascist or that a fascist must exhibit all of them. Yet, if we find
that these traits occur much more frequently in one group than in an-
other" the probability is that susceptibility to totalitarian propaganda
is greater in the first than in the second.
Authoritarianism and the Family Today 37 1
The authoritarian personality adheres rigidly to conventional values, at the
expense of any autonomous moral decision. (The Jews are "aggressive," which,
for him, is sufficient justification for the sternest measures.)
He thinks in terms of black and white. White is the in-group, black the out-
group. Anything different is violently rejected.
He hates whatever is weak, calling it a "burden" (unemployed) or a "misfit"
(Jews).
'He is violently opposed to self-examination, never questions his own motives,
but always blames others or external, physical, or "natural" circumstances for
any mishap.
He thinks in stereotypes: the Irish are quick-tempered and lazy, the Jews cun-
ning and cheating, and so on. The individual appears as a mere specimen of
its kind.
He emphasizes invariable characteristics (e.g., the "blood strain") as against
social determinants.
He thinks in hierarchical terms-"people at the top, at the bottom, and so
forth."
He is a pseudo-conservative; that is, he has surrendered to the maintenance
of the statusquo, free enterprise, and the like but is so vindictive against all politi-
cal opponents that it becomes clear that he has a strong affinity·to despotism:
"something must be done about it."
He believes in the "average," with which he identifies himself, as against the
"highbrow," the "snob," and so forth.
He regards success, popularity, and such criteria as the sole measuring-rod of
human value.
Whereas his own value system reveals his strong lust for power, he always
accuses the out-group of power aspirations, plotting, and the like. (This is just
an example of his over-all "projective" attitude.')
He considers religion important only from a pragmatic viewpoint-as a means
to keep others at bay. Essentially he is anti-religious and "naturalistic" in the
sense of unquestionably accepting natural selection as the only right principle.
He is thoroughly "authoritarian," accepting authority for its own sake and
demanding its rigid application. His repressed rebellion against authority is
directed exclusively against the weak.
With regard to sex, he overemphasizes the idea of Hnonnality." The man
values masculinity above anything else; the woman wants to represent the ideal
of femininity.
He tends to reject the subjective, the imaginative, the tender-minded indi-
vidual. He acknowledges no pity for the poor. His emotional life is essentially
cold and shallow.
His general tendency toward extemalization makes him susceptible to all
kinds of superstition unless his educational level is very high.
37 2 The Family: Its Function and Destin)1
He is contemptuous of men in general, believes in their inherently bad nature,
and often assumes a cynical philosophy contradictory to his conventional accept-
ance of "ideal values."
He always emphasizes the "positive" and rejects critical attitudes as "destruc-
tive," but in his spontaneous fantasy life he reveals strong destructive tendencies.
He thinks in terms of world catastrophes and sees "evil forces" at work every-
where.
He is generally more interested in means than in ends. To him things are more
important than humans. He regards human beings mainly as tools or as obstacles
-as things.
He conceals his stereotyped inhuman attitude by personalization. When he
puts the blame on others he thinks not of an objective series of events but of
incompetent, dishonest, or corrupt men. Conversely, he expects everything good
from strong men, from "leaders."
While maintaining the stand of sexual purity, morality, or at least normality,
he is obsessed by sexual ideas and senses "vice" everywhere. When he speaks
of the evil forces, he likes to dwell upon orgies, sex perversions, and so on.
He idealizes his parents. This often merely conceals his hostility. No strong
emotional ties.
He thinks in terms of exchange, of equivalents, and often complains about
not having received as much as he gave.
He is more interested in "what he gets out of people" than in any true affec-
tion. He is "manipulative."
He is, at least superficially, "well adjusted"; he reveals psychotic rather than
neurotic symptoms. He believes in a number of ideas which, though generally
accepted by his type, in extreme cases approximate delusions (international
conspiracy).
He attributes an exaggerated importance to the ideas of purity, neatness,
cleanliness, and such characteristics.
He complains about the base, materialistic motivations of others but himself
thinks strongly in terms of money.
He professes official optimism; pessimism is decadent. Despite his general
contempt for his contemporaries, he denies conflicts not only in himself but also
in the family and. group. They are all wonderful people.
He is continuously concerned with social status, his own as well as that of
his family. .
Additional light has been thrown upon the complex relationship be-
tween the family and society by another research project for analyzing
authoritarian traits and predispositions in children." The :findings seem
II This project, also sponsored by the American Jewish Committee, was a joint under-
taking by the Institute of Social Research and the Institute of Child Welfare in Berke-
ley. The directors were T. W. Adorno, E. F. Brunswik, and H. Jones.
Authoritarianism and the Family Today 373
to reveal that the over-allpicture of the authoritarian personality is valid
even for the nine-to-fourteen-year age group. In one important respect,
however, the preliminary results of this research contradicted the hy-
potheses as they were derived from the study on adults reported above.
It had been anticipated that those children who submit most readily
to the discipline of the parents and the school would also be those
who revealed predominantly authoritarian character traits, whereas
} the more rebellious and refractory ones would be thoroughly anti-
authoritarian. This assumption was faulty. The "good" boys and girls-
those who are essentially non-aggressive-are actually the ones who
least evince the traits on our list. The difficult, unruly children, in con-
trast, are those who tum against the weak and exalt the strong. The
authoritarian character's conventionalism and his concern with cor-
rectness and the "things to be done" seem to be acquired during adoles-
cence, or even later, because then the effect of reality in endorsing con-
ventional values is overpowering. The prospective fascists, then, seem
to be those who in childhood were somehow crude and rough and
"uncivilized." Their lack of genuine family cathexis prepares them to
transfer to their le gang" the feeling for authority acquired earlier and
to accept the gang's code of prowess and violence without mustering
any moral resistance against it.
Casual observation of the behavior .of boy gangs corroborates this
assumption. It is likely that the aggressiveness of these children, which
is retained by them in later life but becomes more or less repressed and
rationalized, is due to the dwindling. of the positive, protective aspect
of the family. These children behave like little savages because they
have no psychological shelter and feel that they must continuously
"look after themselves." In a cold and inscrutable world,. they suspect
everybody of being theirenemy and leap at his throat. They revert to
the cynical principle of early bourgeois philosophy, homo homini
lupus. What they suffer from is probably not too strong and sound a
family but rather a lack of family. In this respect the conservativestate-
ments on the cause of juvenile delinquency touch upon certain basic
social factors frequently clouded by more differentiated and progressive
psychological theories. Whereas the family, as an ideology, works in
favor of repressive authoritarianism, it becomes manifest that the fam-
ily, as a reality,is also the most profound and effective counter-agency
against that relapse into barbarism by which each human •being is
menaced during his development.
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The National-Socialists who knew so shrewdly how to exploit the
social and psychological mechanisms indicated in this chapter recog-
nized at the same time the inherent antagonism between the family in
its genuine sense and the barbarian world for which they stood. Al-
though they exalted the family in ideology as indispensable to a society
based on the "blood" principle, in reality they suspected and attacked
the family as a shelter against mass society. They looked on it as a
virtual conspiracy against· the totalitarian state. Their attitude toward
the family was similar to their ambivalent policies toward religion, free
enterprise, and the constitutional state. The problem today is whether
the complicated interaction of these forces was especially German or is
indicative of a more universal historical trend.