MODULE 3

Working Towards Building Personality

Session 13
Body Language
Body Language

“He who doesn't understand a look will not

understand a long explanation either.”
Body Language
Please play this video:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/18QGvdbY_LMOk4XVPqouunZJ8SFanwWmW/view?usp
=drivesdk
What Is Body Language?

✔ Body language is the language transmitted by posture, clothes,

gestures and facial expressions

✔ It is the unspoken communication that goes on in every Face-to-Face

encounter with another human being

✔ It tells you their true feelings towards you and how well your
words are being received
Factors That Affect Body Language

Posture & Clothes: 23%

Gesture: 57%

Facial Expression: 20%

Importance Of Body Language

✔ Our physical gestures are subconsciously

interpreted by others

✔ Provides information about an

individual’s character, emotions, and
reactions

✔ Body language presents to audience what

we feel & think about the particular
matter
Features Of Body Language

Nervousness
Clearing throat Clearing throat, "whew" sound,
whistling, smoking, pinching flesh, covering
mouth, jiggling money or keys, tugging ears,
wringing hands.

Frustration

Short breaths, "tsk" sound, tightly clenched hands, wringing hands, fist like
gestures, pointing index finger, rubbing hand through hair
Features Of Body Language
Openness

Open hands, unbuttoned coat.

Insecurity

Pinching flesh, chewing pens,

bitting fingernails.

Defensiveness

Arms crossed, sideways glance, touching and rubbing nose, rubbing eyes.
Features Of Body Language
Cooperation

Upper body in sprinter's position, open hands, sitting on edge of chair, hand

to face gestures, unbuttoning coat.

Confidence

Steepled hands, hands behind back, back stiffened

hands in coat pocket with thumbs out, hands on

lapels of coat.
Features Of Body Language
Tapping foot or holding something in hand and fiddling with it or
having a key chain in finger and moving it aroun finger. All this
indicates restlessness, disinterest and a desire to end the session.
Remember….
Anyone who gives you a handshake with two hands, when first meeting you, is likely to be
insincere and overwhelming, or even deceitful.

Tip: Elderly people are exceptions.

Confusing Body Language
She may feel comfortable, she may look cool.

Careful, you have a very negative signal, even if she is smiling.

Confusing Body Language
The lowered steepling of the hands indicates listening, and can also be a negative
confidence gesture.
Confusing Body Language

The scratch to the back of the neck indicates uncertainty.

Confusing Body Language

It can mean nervousness or deceit.

It can mean a desire to shut out the words they are hearing, or the words aren't
'going in'.
They've heard enough.
Confusing Body Language

Hot under the collar!

People touch their face 10 times more
than normal when they feel
uncomfortable. When you lie, you feel a
tingling sensation around your face and
neck, and feel you need to touch or
relieve the area.
Class Exercise

Can you identify the body language from

each of the following images displayed?
 2. Attentive 4. Anxious

3. Angry
1. Affectionate
7.Confident
5. Ashamed

8. Confused
6. Bored
 Session 14
Positive Body Language
Ways To Develop Positive Body Language

• Be energetic

• Display variety in your gestures

• Display Purpose

• No pacing, rocking, swaying

• Exercise and stay fit

• No body odour

• Respect personal space

Body Language While Giving A Presentation
● Eye contact
○ If you think you’re exempt from eye contact just because you’re on a stage, then
you’re in for a reality check. No matter how small or big your audience is, you
will need to make eye contact. No, you don’t need to look at every single person,
of course, but you can scan the audience and try to make eye contact with
someone, anyone, in the crowd.
● Facial expressions
○ Having a very expressive face can both be positive and negative. It’s positive if
you make it work for you, if you use it to help get your message across.
However, it’s a negative if you can’t control what your face says. Your face says
so much about you. In fact, your face literally says it all.
Body Language While Giving A Presentation
● Head movements
○ The way you move your head during your presentation can be interpreted any
number of ways. For instance, when you tilt your head to the side, it can mean
you’re interested or listening intently. When you lower your head, it can mean
you’re exhausted, or you’re just waiting for the right opportunity to say
something.
● Hand Gestures
○ The correct hand gestures basically complement or reinforce the verbal message,
so it’s like you’re getting two explanations instead of just one. Let’s say you’re
outlining a few points in your presentation. For each point, you’ll say something
like, “So, on to the first point” or “The second point I want to make is…” When
you say “first point,” you hold up one finger. When you get to your second point,
you hold up two fingers, and so on.
Body Language While Giving A Presentation
● Body posture
○ You may have mastered your poker face, and your facial expressions reveal
nothing about your true emotions. But if you don’t pay attention to your posture,
then you could still be sending out negative vibes to your audience.
○ If your shoulders are slouching or your back is all rigid and tense, then your
posture isn’t exactly reassuring to your audience. It speaks volumes about your
fear of presenting, and maybe even your insecurities. If you think you’re not
good enough, then your posture will tell that story. When your audience gets
clued in, then you could very well lose your credibility.
Proper Posture
Erect posture- eager to do task (Could also be
hostile) A person with a straight head,erect
shoulders, fast steps and straight posture
gives an impression of a confident person

Stooping shoulders gives an Stooping shoulders

gives an impression of an under-confident person
Eyes (As You See Them)

Eyes - upward to the right (their left) Eyes - upwards to the left (their right)
Creating visual images (we think in
Trying to recall memories
pictures)
What Your Eyes Say About
“Face is the index of the mind", and the eyes are 50% of it!

● Gazing towards blank while conversing is an indication of recollecting something.

● Shutting eyes frequently indicates disinterest or lack of keenness in the discussion and
the subject matter. It is a sort of escapist reaction.

Best is to practice looking above the eyes, near the forehead (above the nose) of the other
person while speaking.

TIP: Make eye contact for 3-4 seconds but don’t stare. Look long enough to identify the other
person’s eye colour.
Poor Handshake
‘WET FISH’ from a man this normally means a weak character, someone who is easily
persuaded.
Correct Handshake
● Handshake is an integral part of one's personality
● Correct handshake can greatly improve first impression
● Practice a strong, well gripped and vertical handshake
● A well gripped and strong handshake creates a positive impression
● No wet hands, no limp hands
● Shake from the elbow, not shoulder
● Shake hands with both women and men
Ways To Develop Positive Body Language
This is frequently used in superior/subordinate interaction.

It demonstrates confidence and a 'know-it-all' attitude.

There are 2 versions:

1) The raised steeple - when the person is talking, expressing their

opinion

2) The lowered steeple - when the person is listening

Ways To Develop Positive Body Language
This is a confidence/superiority position. The person has their
stomach, heart and throat regions exposed which is an unconscious act
of fearlessness.

TIP: If you are in stressful situation assuming this position can help
calm you down and take control of the situation.
Ways To Develop Positive Body Language
Two people talking, standing in the same pose

• This indicates that they are in agreement with each other or they
like each other

• If you want to establish a rapport with someone, mirror their poses

• This will have the effect of relaxing them

• Give them a non-verbal indication that you are both thinking along
the along the same lines
Avoid Negative Body Language
● Feet dragging - implies lethargy - unlikely to impress
● Head down - implies timidity, again not a positive impression
● Shoulders drooped - implies lethargy and weariness
● Weak handshake - implies meek and ineffectual personality
● Shifty eyes - implies ner o sness implies nervousness
● Arms crossed on chest - implies a defensive stance
● Fidgeting - implies nervousness
● Hands in pockets - implies you have something to hide

TIP: Respect personal space… don’t stand too close in meeting or elevators
How To Identify Liars
● Covering the mouth with the hand
● Scratching the nose quite frequently
● Moving the hand to scratch or rub the ear
● Scratching the side of the neck with fingers
Class Exercise

Can you identify the body language from

each of the following images displayed?
 Fed-Up Lazy

Jealous
Excited
Mean Worried

Tired
Satisfied
Conclusion
With the right information and a little practice, we can train ourselves to overcome most of
our negative body language habits.
Homework
Watch your favourite tv show or movie. Try to read every character’s body language and
think how you could have avoid negative body language of the characters, if any.
Session 15
Self Esteem
Self Esteem
Self-esteem is all about feeling worthy and having a high opinion of yourself. It influences
everything in your life.

FAST Acronym

F – Be Fair To Yourself And Others

A – No Unjustified Apologies

S – Stick to Values

T – Be Truthful
About Me Worksheet
This worksheet helps children learn to focus on and explore their positive traits and
accomplishments, as opposed to always focusing on the negative things.

Complete the following sentences:

● I was really happy when __________

● Something that my friends like about me is __________
● I am very proud of __________
● My family was very happy with me when I __________
● In school, I am very good at __________
● Something that makes me really unique is __________
An Assessment and Questionnaire
This self-esteem quiz is meant to gauge how someone feels about themselves.

Answer the following questions with “most of the time,” “some of the time” or “almost
never.”

● My feelings get easily hurt.

● I get upset if someone criticizes me, even if they mean well and offer constructive
criticism.
● I get angry at myself if I make a small mistake, even if it is an honest one.
An Assessment And Questionnaire
● I typically ask other people what they think I should do, instead of making my own
decisions.
● I typically go along with the group, even if I don’t necessarily agree.
● I am uncomfortable when accepting compliments.
● I don’t feel like I measure up or feel good enough.
● It’s common for me to self-criticize or say negative things about myself, like telling
myself I am stupid or fat or just no good.
● When I look in the mirror, I don’t like what I see, and I don’t feel attractive.
● I find myself apologizing for things all of the time, even for things that aren’t my
fault.
An Assessment And Questionnaire
If you answered “almost never” for most of the questions, you have a healthy
self-esteem. Everyone has times when they feel down, but as long as you don’t feel like
that every day you will be fine.

If you answered “most of the time” to many of the questions, you may need to take
some additional steps to boost your self-esteem. This doesn’t necessarily mean you are
depressed; it just means you may be a little too hard on yourself.

If you answered “some of the time” to many of the questions, you could still benefit
from practicing a little self-compassion and a little self-love.
Session 16
Self Confidence
Self Confidence
Please play this video:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1auXTsZDM6UqG2fI7fXme7Sv_zxi0ls1o/view?usp=drive
sdk
Building Self Confidence
Make a list of words and phrases that are put-downs of other people or of yourselves.
Phrases like “I’m a loser” or “you can’t do anything right” undermine confidence.

Go through this list with the group and discuss each point about what can we do to protect,
raise, or reinforce our confidence.

Decide as a group that you will not use these words. In fact, you might consider making
you and your friends put a nickel in a kitty every time they use one of these negative words
or phrases. Donate the funds to a charity or project that makes you feel good as a group.
Body Appreciation Mirror Time
This activity is perfect for the kids/teens those who are a victim of
body images and also teaches them to love their body.

Things To Do:

Stand in front of the mirror and come up with one beautiful thing in
yourself and write down a motivational quote which inspires you most
of the time.

Do this regularly.
 Homework
Watch the movie Forrest Gump
Get a feel for how Forrest Gump talks, what he says in different situations, his
philosophy on life and insight into people's characters.
Session 17
Working On Attitudes
End-Of-The-World Debate
Two players are in a debate. Both players represent the same person, only one is in the
midst of hard times and the other is debating from the future. When the first player says "I
failed in my exam, this is terrible." The character from the future can say "You studied
hard and easily passed the exam."

The purpose of the game is to find positive outcomes for situations that may seem
negative. Like the saying goes; as one door closes, another one opens.
Decisions, Decisions
In every situation, we have a decision to make. How will we react? In this game, players
split into two groups. The teacher will say something like "Your power bill is 60 days
late, I have to shut it off right now" or "Your car is totaled and you don't have enough
insurance to replace it."

Players have 60 seconds to think of a response. One team is directed to respond in a

negative way, while the other team is instructed to respond in a positive way.
Decisions, Decisions
Afterward, the entire group can discuss their responses together.

Have each player think of a time when responding positively has been easier or difficult,
or a time when a positive reaction would have changed the outcome for them. When will a
negative response help you get your way? Does a negative response ever lead to positive
results? How can a positive response lead to positive results? Are others more likely to
help you get what you want when you're positive?
Session 18
Time Management
Benefits Of Time Management
Efficient

Successful

Healthy
S.M.A.R.T. Goal Setting
S = Specific

M = Measurable

A = Attainable

R = Realistic

T = Timely
Activity
Write two SMART Goals each for short term and long term.

For example,

“I will eat a minimum of five servings of fruits and vegetables daily by May 31 by
mapping out my meals each week.”

“I will work out a minimum of 30 minutes per day, three days per week by end of this
month.”
Prioritize
● Do
● Delegate
● Delay
● Delete

1. Address the urgent

2. Accomplish what you can do early
3. Attach deadlines to things you can delay
Use Your Waiting Time
● On public transportation
● At the doctor's office
● Waiting for your plane/train
● On hold
● When you are early
How long is a minute?
● Instruct everyone to stand up and shut their eyes
● Tell them to open their eyes when they think 60 seconds have passed

What kids will learn:

Some kids will open their eyes before the 60 seconds are up and some will open them
after. This game will help you better estimate the time it takes you to finish projects and
tasks because you’ll understand how well you perceive time, to begin with.
Desert Island
● The task is to imagine being trapped on a desert island
● Set a time limit — for example, two minutes
● During this time, everyone should write down what they would bring to a desert island
● All items deemed as essential by the group will bring them points
● All tasks not deemed as essential by the group will bring the player no points

What you’ll learn: Every player will get a chance to learn how to quickly assess what their
priorities/essentials in work are. You’ll learn to be more careful about assigning your time
blocks to unessential tasks, just as you should be careful about what you’re bringing to a
desert island (if given the option to choose).
 Homework
Play the android/ios game Bruger Shop 2
Thank You!