Republic of the Philippines

CEBU ROOSEVELT MEMORIAL COLLEGES

Bogo City, Cebu

General Education
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LEARNING ACTIVITY SHEET # 10

Course Title : Understanding the Self

Lesson Title : The Best of Me – Directing my Destiny
Duration : 2 hours
Learning Outcomes : At the end of this module, you will be able to:
1. Identify the factors that contribute to becoming the best you can be;
2. Describe the characteristics of one who has reached his/her peak of
personal, social, emotional and spiritual development;
3. Apply the different ways towards achieving the peak of one’s
development;
4. Draw up plans and steps in your quest to be the best that you can be.

Reference/s : Understanding the Self – Dalisay G. Brawner and Analiza F. Arcega

HOW TO COMPLETE THE MODULE?

1. Study and make some researches to gain more understanding about the
topics listed under the concept guide.
2. Prepare topic-related questions prior to scheduled virtual class
4. Complete the Lesson Exercises
3. Submit Assignments
4. Comply what is being required
 A. Concept Guide

Module 9: Course Overview

Success – is defined as the state of accomplishment or achievement resulting from an endeavor.

King (2004) believed that success means not only being able to achieve or fulfill one’s goals but also having
positive feelings of happiness, joy, love, peace of mind, self-respect, greatness and freedom from worry,
anxiety, guilt or failure.

He stated that many people associated success with the acquisition or possession of tangible or material
things but the very root of success is the positive feeling that come with accomplishment and achievement.

King raises three important questions you can ask yourself to help you understand life itself:

1.) What is my life for?

- Look thoroughly within yourself, abilities, your characteristics, your interests and the like as well as your
weaknesses.

2.) What do I want to happen to my life?

- Requires you to have a clear picture of your goals both short-range and long-range.

3.) How can I achieve it?

- Requires you to know how to accomplish your goals. Do you have the resources and the support achieve
your goals?

A personal mission statement – present one’s own personal philosophy or belief that states his/her objection
in life and how he/she wants to accomplish them.
- It focuses on what one wants to be and to do and on the values or principles upon which they are based.
(Covey, 2004)

King adds that there are specific goals which when combined together make one big goal called “SUCCESS”

1. Mental/Emotional success – having a good grasp of your mind, feelings and emotions.
2. Spiritual success – balancing the needs of the body and spirit.
3. Personal success- Overcoming a weakness or disability.
4. Career success – Accomplishing work objectives.
5. Financial success – Earning enough for one’s needs or more.
6. Social success – getting well along with and being held in respect by others.
7. Physical success – Having a healthy and sound body.
8. Family success – Maintaining harmony and achieving fulfillment as a family.

Goal – Setting Theory

- is an essential tool for self-motivation both personal and professional level.
- Proposed by Dr. Edwin Locke and Dr. Garry Latham
- By setting goals we get a roadmap of where we are heading and what is the right way that would led us
there.
- it is a plan that holds us in perspective.

Three Types of Goal- setting

 Process goals – are specific actions or processes of performing
 Performance goals – are based on personal standards
 Outcome goals – are based on winning, very difficult to control because of other outside influences.

Locke and Latham proposed five goal-setting principles that help improve your chances of success:
1.) Clarity – clear and specific goals eliminate the confusion that occur when a goal is set in a more generic
manner.
2.) Challenges – helps stretch your mind and cause you to think bigger. Each success you achieve helps you
build a winning mindset.
3.) Commitment – if you don’t commit to your goal with everything you have, it is less likely you will achieve it.
4.) Feedback- helps you know what you are doing and how you are doing. Allows you to adjust your
expectation and your plan of action.
5.) Task Complexity – the final factor and is important to set goals that are aligned with the goal’s complexity.

Skills Required for Successful Goal-Setting

 Planning – integral to the goal achievement process.
- We can prioritize and maintain focus on the task at hand while avoiding extraneous distraction that
can draw us away from the end goal.
 Self- Motivation – encourages us to develop new techniques and skills in order to succeed.
- A powerful contributor to goal attainment.
 Time- Management – enables you to work smarter not harder so that you can get more things done in
less time even when the time is tight and pressures are high.
 Flexibility – your ability to adapt to barriers, the perseverance to sustain your effort and to carry on in
the face of adversity.
 Self- Regulation – the ability to regulate and manage their own emotions in order to promote one’s
personal and social goals.
- The ability to efficiently consider and describe motivational goals, aims and mission.
 Commitment and Focus – it is imperative that goals are important on a personal level.
- We know we are capable of attaining and making substantial progress towards a goal.

Different Areas Related to Goal Setting

 Performance and Mastery – encourage attempts to try and to improve.

 - Individuals are more likely to respond to failure by increasing future effort and seeking alternative
strategies that can improve the skills.
 Pro- sociality – Peer acceptance and respect significantly affects how we choose and express goals
(Covington, 2000)
- The pursuit of social goals can help organize, direct and empower individual to achieve more fully.

 Self-worth – reflects an attempt to establish and maintain a sense of worth and belonging in a society
that values competency and success.

Approach Vs. Avoidance Orientation

- When setting goals, individuals may aspire to attain competence or strive to avoid incompetence.
- We are driven either by a desire for success or a fear of failure (Lewin, Dembo, Festinger and Seus)

Three Helpful Categories for Setting healthy goals:

 Time goals – can be categorize into short-term and long-term goals
 Focus goals – are all about the big objectives, those potentially life-changing achievement you’re
aiming towards.
 Topic-based goals – those goals fit neatly into a specific area of your life. May relate to an aspect of
your personal life, your career or your finances.

Guidelines in Setting specific goals (King & Gracian)

 Know the timeframe of your goals
- some goals can take a lifetime to achieve, some are short-term. Break long- range goals into smaller
ones to make them more achievable.

 Set expressive goals

- Be precise and make positive statements. For example; “I’ll do well in my report…. I can do this!!!”

 Prioritize your goals

- When you have many goals, give them a priority number, prioritizing your goals will help you attain
them more neatly and easily.

 Base your goals on performance, not the outcome

- set goals which you have the power and the ability to achieve it.

 Make your goals realistic

- set goals that are based on your expectations not those of others.

 Think beyond your goals

- think or visualize other things you want to achieve upon accomplishing one goal.

 Record your achievement

- documenting an achieving makes you feel empowered. It is a reminder to achieve more.

 Work on your goal step by step, day by day

 - spend time and energy in achieving goals into reality. Goals cannot be achieved in an instant.

 Review and Evaluate

- set aside time to review your accomplishments and achievements by doing this, you can also avoid
and anticipate failure.

Developing a Positive Mindset

 Positive Thinking
- is a mental and emotional attitude that focuses on the bright side of life and expects positive results.
- Does not necessarily avoiding or ignoring the bad things instead making the most of the potentially
bad situations.
- Trying to see the best in other people and viewing yourself and your abilities in positive light.

Broaden and Build Theory

- Proposed by Barbara Fredrickson
- Explores the functions of positive emotions in building resiliency
- Positive emotions can have the effects of broadening awareness and response to events as well as building
resiliency and coping skills.

Categories in Developing a positive Mindset ( King, 2004)

 Always be Teachable
- Keep your mind open because a closed mind slows down the learning process.

 Self-Development Not Self-Fulfillment

- self-development is the process of trying to raise yourself to a much higher level.
Self-fulfillment is trying to please yourself continuously and being happy and content with what you
have achieved.

 Be a consistent learner
- Make each experience a learning experience.
- Surround yourself with learning moments, people and anything or anybody you could gain insights
from.

 Develop a plan for growth

- It is a schedule of the constructive things you can do that can expand your mental ability.

Dealing with Failure

Failure – is the inability to achieve one’ goals. It is a demoralizing and upsetting experiences.
Categories of Failure

 Success – Oriented Person

- Love learning for the sake of learning. They say failure as a way to improve, rather than a slight on
their values as human being.

 Over-Strivers
- Also called as “closet-achievers”
- they are so afraid of failing that they avoid it at all costs, even if it means exerting themselves beyond
what is reasonably expected.

 Failure- Avoiding Person

- Don’t expect to succeed. They just want to avoid failing. In order to do so, they frequently make
excuses, procrastinate or simply don’t participate.

 Failure – Accepting Person

- Have given up trying to succeed altogether. Unsurprisingly, these are the most difficult people to
motivate because they have internalized failure.

Factors Influencing Failure

 Patterns from Childhood

- Trauma experienced in childhood leads to distress in later life. Trauma faced can be emotional,
physical or sexual.

 Procrastination
- To keep delaying something that must be done often because it is unpleasant or boring. Perfectionists
are often procrastinators; they never complete their task on time so they automatically develop the
feeling of failure.

 Experienced a Traumatic event

- when someone experiences a traumatic event in life, they get disoriented from what they are doing in
life out of the shock of what they have gone through in their life which is very heartbreaking. They do
not feel like themselves.

 Low self-esteem or self-confidence

- they feel low in whatever they do. They believe that they are not good enough or cannot achieve a
certain benchmark. They have a constant feeling of inferiority. They take life so critically that rather
than thinking of how to overcome a failure, they keep dwelling on the circumstances and break
themselves up.

 Perfectionism
 - a person tries to focus on ideal circumstances to reach his expectations but forgets to prepare for the
inevitable failures which makes it difficult for the person to accept the failures. It is true that this one
life we want the best for ourselves but it is important that we see both the sides of coin.

Failure is….
Is seen as an opportunity to learn and grow. An opportunity to be embraced, analyzed and picked apart,
rather than something to run away from. (Psychologist, Crystal Lee)

Ways to Cope with Failure

1.) Examine the Truth

- this burns and isn’t fun; yet healing and recovery, generally start when the truth is exposed. Lies
keep you in the dark however you try to spin your situation, the bottom line is that the truth matter.

2.) Become Transparent with yourself

- when mistake occur, there is emphasis on forgiving others including yourself. However, you can’t
forgive yourself for that which you are not transparent with. And you can’t fully forgive yourself as long as you
minimize the error. This doesn’t mean that you are overly critical of yourself but it means being honest.

3.) Give yourself permission to feel the pain

- After a failure occurs, the immediate mode for many is moving onward because very few desire to
be present with pain. However, learning to be present with the pain is critical in healing. This is not a sign of
weakness.

4.) Commit to being open to the bigger lessons

- This is when being willing to be a student of life is so important. When you think you are certain of
everything and that life has nothing to teach you, then you will repeat your mistakes. Learning a new way to
see situations can be the very key to your next success.

5.) Be willing to change

- We can’t impact true change in our lives and the lives of others until we change ourselves.

Failure is a humbling experience. You become aware of all that you didn’t know. When you see the deficits in
your knowledge, use this as an opportunity to grow and change.
 C. Lesson Exercises
Closure Activity: Self- Exploration

Instruction: In the column below write down three major setbacks in your life that made a huge impact. In
each column, find the common factors why it happened. How these factors helped you in understanding
yourself better?

Rubrics:

Features Construction of Content and Neatness and Total (5pts.)

words (2pts.) Relevance Legibility (1pt.)
(2pts.)
Communicates Develops Easy to read,
and original ideas neat and with
demonstrates a and establishes proper letter
creative and a clear focus of formation.
orderly flow of the topic.
ideas.
D. Assignments