A Biblical-Theological Framework For Human Sexuality - Application
A Biblical-Theological Framework For Human Sexuality - Application
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A Biblical-Theological Framework
for Human Sexuality:
Applications to Private Sexuality
— Trent A. Rogers and John K. Tarwater —
Trent Rogers is assistant professor of New Testament and Greek and dean
of the School of Biblical and Theological Studies at Cedarville University in
Cedarville, Ohio.
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Abstract: What are good sexual acts? It is not that surprising when cultural voices,
without reference to God, argue for the inherent goodness of all “unharmful” sexual
desires and acts. Regrettably, ethical pragmatism has influenced some Christian sexual
ethics, and this influence is particularly evident with the issue of masturbation. What
God defines as good sexual acts are those that fulfill his unitive and procreative purposes
for sex within marriage. Given God’s unitive and procreative purposes for sex within
the context of marriage, we argue that masturbation is a categorically impermissible act
because it fulfills neither of these purposes, and we counter Christian arguments for its
permissibility. God calls Christians to deal with sexual desires, including good sexual
desires, through either marital sexual expression or Spirit-enabled self-control.
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ith prevailing cultural narratives defining pleasure as the ultimate good, sexual activity as
essential to identity, and the self as the locus of authority, it is no surprise that we encounter
individuals in our local church ministries and Christian university campus who are con-
fused about what are good sexual desires and acts. In marital and premarital counseling contexts, ques-
tions about sexuality and the permissibility of various sexual acts recur. Perhaps the issue that causes
the greatest confusion for both singles and marrieds centers on the permissibility or impermissibility of
masturbation, by which we mean a personal sexual act for the purpose of self-pleasure, or what is some-
times referred to as self-stimulation. While this article focuses on the topic of masturbation, our intent
is broader because the biblical ethics of masturbation provides a window into biblical sexual ethics in
general. This biblical-ethical framework begins with the Triune God who, in his goodness, creates the
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good physical world. Humans, by God’s good, created design, are sexual beings who are commissioned
to use their sexuality for the glory of God. But humans are not merely sexual beings, and their identity
is not centered on their sexual expression. Moreover, their sexual desires this side of Genesis 3 are not
inherently rightly-ordered. So the new-creation Christian joyfully lives in the freedom of Christ, led
by the Spirit, pursuing the goodness of God’s design. This freedom and being led by the Spirit entails
passionate pursuit of God’s good physical gifts and joy-preserving restraint from deviations from his
created goodness.
Christians experience constant pressure from prevailing cultural narratives arguing that all
sexual expression, so long as it does not harm another, is inherently good and that sexual expression
is the foundation of one’s personhood.1 Christians, thinking through the ethics of sexual acts such as
masturbation, are sometimes confused when cultural narratives collide with biblical ethics. In fact, there
is a good deal of ambiguity and misinformation coming from sources claiming to offer a Christian ethic.
For example, James Dobson of Focus on the Family states, “Christian people have different opinions
about how God views this act. Unfortunately, I can’t speak directly for God on this subject, since His Holy
Word, the Bible, is silent on this point.”2 In another instance, he exclaims, “This is an area where we have
to be careful about laying down hard and fast rules—or making definitive statements about the mind
of God (though Scripture does clearly address behaviors that are often related to this activity). There’s
little to be gained by labeling the act of masturbation itself a sin. In fact, we think that misses the point.”3
Similarly, Wayne Grudem argues that belief in the sufficiency of Scripture coupled with Scripture’s
silence on the issue should lead us to conclude that masturbation is not always wrong, even though
he does offer cautions and prohibitions on associated behaviors.4 Implicit in Dobson’s and Grudem’s
1
For a compelling explanation of how Western culture, particularly in the United States, has adopted these
sexual ethics, see Carl R. Trueman, The Rise and Triumph of the Modern Self: Cultural Amnesia, Expressive Indi-
vidualism, and the Road to Sexual Revolution (Wheaton, IL: Crossway, 2020).
2
James Dobson, Preparing for Adolescence: How to Survive the Coming Years of Change (Ventura, CA: Gospel
Light, 2006), 69; cf. “Questions and Concerns About Masturbation,” Focus on the Family, 17 June 2021, https://
www.focusonthefamily.com/family-qa/empathy-and-advice-for-chronic-masturbator; Stan Jones and Brenna
Jones, Facing the Facts: The Truth about Sex and You (Colorado Springs: NavPress, 2007), 111–13.
3
“Questions and Concerns About Masturbation,” Focus on the Family, 17 June 2021, https://www.focuson-
thefamily.com/family-qa/empathy-and-advice-for-chronic-masturbator/.
4
Wayne Grudem, Christian Ethics: An Introduction to Biblical Moral Reasoning (Wheaton, IL: Crossway,
2018), 726–28. Grudem does provide space for Jason DeRouchie to offer a counterargument (725–26; see also
Jason DeRouchie, “If Your Right Hand Causes You to Sin: Ten Biblical Reflections on Masturbation,” Desiring God,
17 June 2021, https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/if-your-right-hand-causes-you-to-sin). Louis McBurney and
Melissa McBurney (Real Questions, Real Answers About Sex: The Complete Guide to Intimacy as God Intended It
[Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2005], 273) raise the question about the acceptability of masturbation. Their response
indicates a certain hermeneutic of Scripture: “There is no scriptural command against masturbation, although
there are cautions against its associated behaviors…. To our way of thinking, the Bible is silent on the rightness or
wrongness of individual masturbation.” For associated behaviors of which one should be cautious, they list lustful
fantasies, tendency toward compulsive activity, and the avoidance of marital sex. Later in their argumentation,
they seem to leave this to a matter of Christian conscience, “Some would say that a man who is deprived of sex
would have a nocturnal emission anyway to relieve the pelvic discomfort of seminal buildup. That’s one way of
looking at it. You must decide what God requires of you.” Similarly, Alex W. Kwee and David C. Hoover (“Theo-
logically-Informed Education about Masturbation: A Male Sexual Health Perspective,” Journal of Psychology and
Theology [2008]: 261) argue, “The Bible does not directly address masturbation, leaving Christians to articulate a
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arguments is the claim that since the Bible does not explicitly prohibit an act, it is permissible, but one
should be cautious in practice. Rarely does an author make a positive case for the Bible’s endorsement
of masturbation; rather, the argument for permissibility is made on the basis of the Bible’s silence, often
coupled with data about contemporary practice.5
There are few books written explicitly on the topic of masturbation from a Christian perspective,
so Steve Gerali’s The Struggle deserves special mention.6 It also provides a window into the types of
arguments made for the permissibility of masturbation. Gerali’s argument can be summarized with
following statements. The Bible does not explicitly address the issue of masturbation. Therefore, this is
not an issue of absolute moral imperative with a definite right or wrong in every situation—it’s a “gray
issue.” Thus, masturbation is an issue of Christian freedom and wisdom to be guided by the Holy Spirit.
After reading this book you may come to a similar personal conclusion—that
masturbation is a wisdom issue and that can be engaged in under certain guidelines of
Christian liberty…. Others will come to the conclusion that masturbation is a wisdom
issue in which, while all things are lawful, not all things are wise (see 1 Corinthians 6:12),
making it a personal sin issue…. It is my prayer that all will come into a new freedom,
having the ability to formulate a biblically and culturally informed personal view.7
Unfortunately, the view that emerges is more culturally than biblically informed. We take a
number of issues with his exegesis of particular texts. For example, he cites 1 Corinthians 6:12 as a
foundation for Christian liberty in “gray issues.” But the phrase “everything is permissible for me” is
widely recognized to be a slogan by Paul’s opponents, which Paul cites in order to refute.8 Most English
translations, including the NIV that he cites, even place quotation marks around the phrase to indicate
that it is a quotation of a Corinthian slogan.9 When Paul cites this Corinthian slogan, he does so to
moral stance from various scriptures that in our view cannot support a deontological prohibition of masturba-
tion.”
5
James R. Johnson (“Toward a Biblical Approach to Masturbation,” Journal of Psychology and Theology 10
[1982]: 143–44) attempts to make the case for the Bible’s endorsement of masturbation on the basis of purity
laws in Leviticus 15:16–18, “We are forced to admit that the Bible does specifically include masturbation within
its pages, but only in a morally neutral context. The only God-ordained consequence of masturbation in the Old
Testament was ceremonial uncleanness. And although the requirements of this law no longer govern behavior in
the New Testament era, the law itself is still profitable for our instruction in righteousness (2 Timothy 3:16–17).
This Leviticus passage implies that God tolerates masturbation when it does not conflict with the moral and ethi-
cal principles He has elsewhere revealed.”
6
Steve Gerali, The Struggle (Colorado Springs: NavPress, 2003). While we intend to refute the exegetical and
ethical argumentation in The Struggle, the book does have some helpful content. For example, much of Gerali’s
refutation of historical pseudo-scientific arguments about the dangers of masturbation is helpful (pp. 33–55).
7
Gerali, The Struggle, 30.
8
For a summary of Paul’s quotation and refutation of the Corinthians’ slogans, see Denny Burk, “Discerning
Corinthian Slogans through Paul’s Use of Diatribe in 1 Corinthians 6:12–20,” BBR 18 (2008): 99–121; Andrew Da-
vid Naselli, “Is Every Sin outside the Body except Immoral Sex? Weighing Whether 1 Corinthians 6:18b Is Paul’s
Statement or a Corinthian Slogan,” JBL 136 (2017): 969–87.
9
There, of course, are not quotation marks in the original Greek text. Translators are generally reluctant to
indicate an interpretive decision with English punctuation. Their comfortability with adding the quotation marks
indicates the firmness of their interpretation that this must be a quotation. Gerali seems to ignore this scholarly
consensus that Paul quotes and refutes his opponents in 1 Cor 6. Ironically, he cites 1 Cor 10:13, which describes
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prohibit activities, such as sex with a prostitute (1 Cor 6:15–16) that are categorically sinful. To assume
the Corinthian slogan as one’s own ethical reasoning is to endorse the very ethical framework that Paul
is refuting. Moreover, Gerali assumes that if something is not explicitly forbidden in the Bible then it
is morally ambiguous. The ethical reasoning put forward in this book is culturally and pragmatically
determined and subsequently undergirded by inadequate exegesis.
We argue that this issue of masturbation is part of a larger teaching about human sexuality and
self-control, about which the Bible has much to say. Merely asking if an act is explicitly prohibited is a
way to avoid asking deeper teleological questions that have explicit answers in Scripture. We should not
expect Scripture to prohibit every possible deviant sexual act—that category is nearly infinite and ever-
expanding. A better question is: “Does this sexual act fulfill God’s good purposes for sex?”10 With all the
writing about this topic, authors’ positions can be divided into three main camps: (1) masturbation is
a good expression of human sexuality, (2) masturbation in specific situations can be a good expression
of human sexuality, and (3) masturbation is never a God-honoring expression of human sexuality. An
urgent need remains for biblical and pastoral clarity on the issue of the permissibility or impermissibility
of masturbation. Our approach is three-fold: to outline a biblical framework for sex, to make an
argument for the categorical impermissibility of masturbation, and to counter popular arguments for
the permissibility of masturbation. We will conclude with some pastoral reflections and exhortations.
God delivering Christians from a categorically impermissible activity of idolatry (10:14), as justification for mas-
turbation because it could be God’s way of deliverance from sin. For a fuller refutation of this exegesis, see Trent A.
Rogers, God and the Idols: Representations of God in 1 Corinthians 8–10, WUNT 2/427 (Tübingen: Mohr Siebeck,
2016).
As an example of the supposed moral relativity of the act, Gerali states, “After all, it’s possible that God hasn’t
given us all the answers… deliberately [ellipsis original]. It’s also quite possible that God allows some sin to be rela-
tive from person to person…. The relativity of sin regarding wisdom issues doesn’t make all sin relative. It doesn’t
give anyone the freedom or right to ignore moral absolutes. Yet God doesn’t give us a black-and-white answer to
every question we have about an activity’s moral quality. In some cases, he creates a ‘gray zone’ that requires us to
seek him and his wisdom each day” (The Struggle, 140).
10
See Denny Burk, What Is the Meaning of Sex? (Wheaton, IL: Crossway, 2013), 33.
11
John M Frame, The Doctrine of the Christian Life (Phillipsburg: P & R, 2008), 10.
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In addition to God’s essential goodness, Scripture affirms the fundamental wisdom of “the only
wise God” (Rom 16:27; Job 9:4; 12:13). God is the source of all wisdom (Prov 2:6; 9:10; Jas 1:5). More
importantly, Paul writes that his wisdom has been active from the beginning, where God planned what
was ultimately good for humanity: “for our glory” (1 Cor 2:6–7). Because God is good and wise, what he
does and plans is good, and consequently, never needs modifying.12
Goodness and wisdom are essential aspects of God’s nature; he cannot act without it being good
and wise. God displays his goodness and wisdom in all that he does, such as his act of creation. Scripture
affirms the presence of God’s wisdom—his planning for our good and his glory—in the act of creating
all things (Prov 3:19; 8:22–31) and appraises this wise creative work as good (Gen 1:4, 10, 12, 18, 21,
and 25). While everything that God made is good, he says that humanity, the crown of creation, is “very
good” (Gen 1:31).
The doctrine of humanity, therefore, begins with this truth: God planned and created humanity in
his wisdom and goodness. Moreover, he created human beings in his image and likeness (Gen 1:26–27).
Being created in God’s image suggests that God made a creature similar to himself. Men and women
share the likeness of their Creator. The author of Genesis does not delineate all the ways that humanity
shares in God’s likeness, but at the least this refers to God creating humanity as moral creatures for
interpersonal relationships.
Historically, theologians have referred to God as personal to express this capacity for social
relationships.13 As creatures made in God’s image and likeness, we too were created for relations. For
these relationships to receive God’s approval—to be morally good—individuals must relate to one
another in the ways that God planned and purposed.14
Thus, God’s attributes of goodness and wisdom apply not only to God’s creation of humanity;
they also associate with how God planned for individuals to relate. Because humans are by nature
sexual beings—individuals created as male and female—the way that they relate to one another must
necessarily include sexuality. That is, it must also deal with how men and women relate to one another.15
German theologian and ethicist, Helmut Thielicke, locates sexuality in two dimensions: how it relates
to being and how it relates to function. For Thielicke, sexuality is part of the essential nature of being
human, one’s being. “By man in his being we mean man as he is related to God, man insofar as he is the
bearer of responsibility and an infinite value and insofar as he thus has the dignity of being an ‘end in
12
For a discussion of God’s wisdom, see Donald Guthrie, New Testament Theology (Downers Grove, IL: Inter-
Varsity Press, 1981), 94–99; Wayne A. Grudem, Systematic Theology: An Introduction to Biblical Doctrine (Grand
Rapids: Zondervan, 2009), 193–95.
13
See Millard J. Erickson, Christian Theology (Grand Rapids: Baker Academic, 1998), 269–70.
14
For an excellent discussion of how the trinitarian concept of Person sheds light on the Christian under-
standing of human personhood, see Helmut Thielicke, The Evangelical Faith, trans. Geoffrey W. Bromiley (Grand
Rapids: Eerdmans, 1974).
15
In contemporary culture, the traditional understanding of the terms gender and sex has begun to shift.
Historically, the terms gender and sex were often used interchangeably. If one were a male biologically, then one’s
gender was understood to be male. But this traditional understanding of gender and biological sex is no longer
ubiquitous. In this article, we assume that there are only two options for gender: male and female. For a discussion
of issues related to gender, sex, and sexuality, see Mark D. Liederbach and Evan Lenow, Ethics as Worship: The
Pursuit of Moral Discipleship (Phillipsburg, NJ: P&R, 2021), ch. 17; and Mark A. Yarhouse, Understanding Gender
Dysphoria: Navigating Transgender Issues in a Changing Culture (Downers Grove, IL: IVP Academic, 2015).
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himself ’ (Kant), that is, never to be used as a means to an end.”16 In addition, sexuality also includes one’s
function, which refers to “man as he actively steps out of himself, accomplishes and effects something,
becomes, so to speak, ‘productive’—whether it has to do with things or persons.”17 Distinct from being,
function locates sexuality in not only who one is, but also in how one acts and relates to others.
What we contend, therefore, is that God’s creation of humans as sexual beings includes not only
who they are as men and women who bear the image of God, but also to how these image bearers relate
to one another as men and women. For humans to relate to one another in a manner that receives
God’s approval, they must relate as he planned in his wisdom. Scripture delineates two categories for
relationships: relationships between persons who are not married to one another and relationships
between persons who are married to one another. In his work True Sexual Morality, for instance,
Christian ethicist Daniel Heimbach highlights these two distinct channels. Moreover, he rightly notes
that both channels allow for chaste relations. For individuals not in a marriage relationship, Heimbach
notes, “chastity means abstaining from sex altogether.”18 For persons who are married to one another,
in contrast, chastity means sexual faithfulness to one’s partner. At its most basic level, therefore, the
marriage relationship sets the boundaries for moral, sexual activity—it is the relationship in which sex
operates as God designed it.
If God purposes that individuals in the marriage relationship relate to one another in sexual
relations, then sex is God’s idea. Moreover, it must, by nature, be good. Because it is designed to be
practiced within covenant marriage, it must also by nature be relational.
Just because sex may transpire between two persons, however, does not make it moral or fulfill the
relational aspect. Moral sex must correspond to how God designed it. When Jesus (e.g., Matt 19:3–9;
Mark 10:6–8) and Paul (e.g., 1 Cor 6:16; Eph 5:31) talk about sex and its purpose, they point us back
to God’s good design in creation. Theologians have attempted to capture Scripture’s teaching on the
purpose of sex under two main headings: unitive and procreative.19
The book of Genesis captures this unitive or bonding purpose this way: “Therefore a man shall leave
his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Gen 2:24). This “one
flesh” union requires that the marriage partners “hold fast to” or “cling to” one another, which involves
a deep commitment. To be sure, Jesus emphasized this devotion and loyalty when he said, “What
therefore God has joined together, let not man separate” (Matt 19:6). Far from being a casual encounter,
moral sex occurs within the context of deep and lasting commitment. Accordingly, the prophet Malachi
16
Helmut Thielicke, The Ethics of Sex, trans. J. Doberstein (Grand Rapids: Baker Books, 1964), 21.
17
Thielicke, The Ethics of Sex, 21.
18
Daniel R. Heimbach, True Sexual Morality: Recovering Biblical Standards for a Culture in Crisis (Wheaton,
IL: Crossway, 2004), 135.
19
Dennis P. Hollinger (The Meaning of Sex: Christian Ethics and the Moral Life [Grand Rapids: Baker Aca-
demic, 2009], 95) argues for four purposes of human sexuality: consummation of marriage, procreation, love, and
pleasure. Hollinger’s proposal subdivides the unitive aspect of marriage into the three purposes of consummation,
love, and pleasure. This fourfold approach is adopted by Burk, What is the Meaning of Sex?, 34–39. In this article,
we use only two headings, believing that the other divisions are subsets of these two. For example, we too believe
that moral sex is meant to be pleasurable but reason that this pleasure aspect fits within the unitive purpose.
Stated differently, God designed sex so that couples enjoy their efforts at bonding and uniting. Moreover, this
pleasure is not meant to be non-existent in efforts at procreation as well.
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warns marriage partners, “So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless” (Mal 2:16).20 Thus,
any form of sexual activity that consciously rejects this relational aspect of sex and treats it casually or
mechanically does not receive God’s blessing or approval. Such an approach is immoral.
The author of Genesis also captures the procreative purpose of sex. After the creation of humanity
in God’s image, God immediately commanded couples to “be fruitful and multiply” (Gen 1:28).
God designed sex so that couples could use it to “multiply and fill the earth” and build families and
communities. God approves of this purpose for sex within the marriage relationship. Nevertheless,
Scripture also has examples of couples for whom moral sexual activity did not always produce children.
Indeed, Abraham and Sarah struggled for years before God provided them with a child (Gen 15–21).
The point we are stressing here is that sex is not merely a private matter. Again, Heimbach writes, “If sex
generates nothing good for others, something must be wrong with how it is practiced.”21 It must be open
to the possibility of childbearing.22
Lastly, the author of Genesis hints that God approves the purpose of pleasure in sex when he
captures Adam’s response at first seeing Eve: “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she
shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man” (Gen 2:23). Likewise, Paul’s admonition to
engage regularly in sexual relations with one’s spouse suggests that sex was meant for more than just
procreation (1 Cor 7:3–4). However, God did not plan for this unitive purpose to be something that was
merely endured, but rather, it was to be pleasurable. Moreover, the focus of this sexual pleasure is on
one’s spouse and not self. Moral sex is other-oriented and focuses on pleasing one’s spouse.
The entire book of Song of Solomon seems to capture this divine perspective on the gift of sex
within the marriage relationship. To be sure, it beautifully depicts the pleasures experienced in sexual
relations. Solomon, for example, expresses how much he anticipates and enjoys kissing his bride: “Your
lips are like a scarlet thread, and your mouth is lovely” (Song 4:3). He continues, “Your lips drip nectar,
my bride: honey and milk are under your tongue” (4:11). He does not limit his praise to her lips and
the act of kissing however. He also delights in caressing her breasts (7:7–8; cf., Prov 5:19). Likewise,
Solomon’s wife invites her husband to come and enjoy the pleasures of sex with quite explicit language:
“Awake, O north wind, and come, O south wind! Blow upon my garden, let its spices flow. Let my
beloved come to his garden and eat its choicest fruits” (Song 4:16).
Because this is how God in his good wisdom planned for humans to relate to one another, any
other form of sexual expression, whether relational or non-relational, necessarily rejects God’s plan and
thus does not receive his blessing or approval. God in his goodness and wisdom, therefore, created sex.
He designed sex for meeting the unitive and procreative purposes, as well as designing it in a manner
that allows couples to enjoy it while fulfilling these purposes. We conclude that ethical sexual acts
occur exclusively within marriage, aimed at unity, typically open to procreativity.23 By stating that ethical
sexual acts are “aimed at unity,” we mean that pleasure is an aspect of unity. The exclusivity of shared
20
The NASB translation states, “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously” (Mal 2:16).
This idea of “taking heed of your life” is a strong warning against unfaithfulness in one’s commitment.
21
Heimbach, True Sexual Morality, 163.
22
Hollinger (The Meaning of Sex, 102) explains, “Though couples engaging in sex need not intend to have
children through a given act, they must always be open to the possibility, for sex is by nature procreative. It is part
of its essential meaning.”
23
We do not address certain issues such as homosexual sexual acts because they cannot exist within the con-
text of biblical marriage.
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pleasure makes the act unifying. That a spouse reserves this pleasure exclusively for his or her covenant
marriage partner as an act of self-giving necessarily unites two in the act. Moreover, ethical sexual acts
are “typically open to procreativity.” The married couple might not intend for a certain sexual act to
result in the production of children, but they must have a disposition that is open to procreativity if it
should result. These purposes recur repeatedly throughout the biblical storyline. Because God designed
sex according to his own goodness and wisdom, it is by nature good.
2.1. How Does Masturbation Fit within the Covenantal Nature of Marriage?
God created sex as a means for individuals within the marriage relationship to relate to one another.
Masturbation, in contrast, is a sexual act that is overtly non-relational. Moreover, where sex within
the marriage relationship is altruistic and other-focused, masturbation by nature focuses only on self.
Scripture repeatedly warns against a heart that is selfish. Paul commands believers to “do nothing from
selfish ambition” (Phil 2:3), while James warns that the presence of selfishness in one’s heart leads to
“disorder and every vile practice” (Jas 3:16). With such a negative view of acting from selfish motives
presented in Scripture, it is impossible to imagine how masturbation does not fall short of God’s design
for marriage. Because masturbation focuses a sexual desire on someone other than one’s spouse, one
might rightly argue that it is a form of adultery—giving to another what alone should be given to one’s
spouse. For these reasons, masturbation cannot fit within God’s design for covenantal marriage.
24
See Lewis B. Smedes, Sex for Christians (Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 1994), 138–42; and Richard F. Het-
tlinger, Growing Up with Sex (Edinburgh: R&R Clark, 1970), 33–43.
25
Heimbach (True Sexual Morality, 223) advances a similar argument for the impermissibility of masturba-
tion: “God made sex to be relational, but solitary, self-stimulated sex is never relational. God made sex to be some-
thing exclusive, but while solitary self-stimulated sex is exclusive physically, it is not exclusive to another person
and it encourages thoughts to wander in ways that are not exclusive at all. God made sex to be profound, but soli-
tary self-stimulation is shallow. God made sex to be fruitful, but solitary self-stimulation treats sex like a commod-
ity rather than capacity for production. God made sex to be selflessly God-centered, but solitary self-stimulation
is self-centered and self-satisfying. God made sex to be multidimensional, but solitary self-stimulation separates
physical sex from everything else. Perhaps most seriously, God made sex to be a joining of complementary sexual
differences, but solitary, self-stimulated sex never involves corresponding sexual union” (original emphasis).
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2.2. How Does Masturbation Fulfill the Purposes for Which God Created Sex?
In addition, masturbation does not fulfil the three main purposes of sex. For example, masturbation
obviously is not procreative. The inclination to legitimize masturbation is part of a larger cultural denial
of the purpose of sex. Todd Wilson comments, “Our culture has separated the act of sex from the
purpose of sex. We have severed the connection between sex and its power to unite lives and create life,
so that now, virtually everywhere we look, sex is separated from its uniting and procreating purposes.”26
Furthermore, masturbation is not unitive because it privatizes sexual activity that is designed to be
shared. Matthew Anderson notes the inability of masturbation to fulfill God’s good design: “Human
sexuality is inherently social, and masturbation is not. In that sense, it represents a failure to fulfill the
nature of Christian sexuality as God designed it.”27 Finally, while it is true that self-stimulation may bring
intense pleasure, it does not achieve moral sexual pleasure as God designed it when it is practiced in
isolation from one’s spouse.
26
Todd Wilson, Mere Sexuality: Rediscovering the Christian Vision of Sexuality (Grand Rapids: Zondervan,
2017), 97–98. Ironically, Stan and Brenna Jones (Facing the Facts, 112) argue ultimately that masturbation may be
permissible even though they acknowledge its incompleteness: “Maybe one reason so many people have confused
feelings about masturbation is that it falls short of what God intended our bodies and sexual feelings to be used
for, because it is something a person does alone rather than with a spouse. It can be selfish rather than loving. So
even though masturbation may sometimes feel physically good, it will never feel complete.”
27
Matthew Lee Anderson, Earthen Vessels: Why Our Bodies Matter to Our Faith (Minneapolis: Bethany
House, 2011), 135.
28
For an excellent discussion on the relationship of what we love and ethics, see Augustine, On the Morals of
the Catholic Church 3 (NPNF1 4:42). An important contemporary treatment is found in David K. Naugle, Reor-
dered Loves, Reordered Lives (Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 2008), 37–45.
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God calls everyone to walk. For these reasons—it cannot meet any of God’s purposes for sex or for
marriage and it runs contrary to God’s moral character—we conclude that masturbation can never be
a God-honoring behavior.
29
Judith K. Balswick and Jack O. Balswick, Authentic Human Sexuality: An Integrated Christian Approach,
2nd ed. (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 2008), 289.
30
Balswick and Balswick, Authentic Human Sexuality, 290.
31
Balswick and Balswick, Authentic Human Sexuality, 290; Hollinger, The Meaning of Sex, 139–40.
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I hope you won’t feel the need for it. But if you do, it is my opinion that you should not
struggle with guilt over it.32
That this form of sexual expression “involves no one else” is the problem. Sexual expression, by
God’s good and wise design, must include someone else, namely one’s spouse. Some even argue that
masturbation focused on another person, such as one’s future spouse, could be a healthy practice:
“Fantasies about future possibilities are usually benign, and masturbating with one’s spouse or future
spouse in mind can be a way of creating a more personal context for an otherwise solitary act.”33
Additionally, it can be argued that masturbation can be a clinical exercise within marriage to prepare
or train a couple to achieve mutual orgasm.34 The assumption is that a person requires a certain level
of self-experience in order to be prepared to engage meaningfully with his or her spouse in a sexual
context. Of course, another option is that a husband and wife mutually explore their bodies within
the context of marriage. This moves the sexual learning experience within the context of the relational
covenant of marriage and keeps the marriage bed pure/undefiled by making it the exclusive locus
of sexual expression (Heb 13:4). Masturbation as a preparatory practice has the façade of making
masturbation inter-personal, but the reality is that there is still only one person in the room. Moreover,
this practice potentially creates unrealistic fantasies and expectations that will be unmet by a future or
current spouse. Fantasy and personal sexual stimulation on demand will always be more “efficient” than
godly mutual self-giving. Masturbation as a preparatory practice has the façade of training people to
interact rightly with their spouses, but, in reality, it tends to train them toward their own touch instead
of another’s.
32
Dobson, Preparing for Adolescence, 69 (emphasis his). Stan and Brenna Jones (Facing the Facts, 113) give
similar counsel to adolescents, “Masturbation is usually not such a big issue that people should be overwhelmed
with worry about it. Masturbation can become sinful if a person fills his or her imagination with immoral thoughts.
But occasional masturbation that focuses on the pleasure of your body and not on lustful images may not be much
of an issue with God. There may be more harm done by people punishing themselves with guilt than by the mas-
turbation itself. We do not think God wants that.”
33
Balswick and Balswick, Authentic Human Sexuality, 291. So also Johnson, “Toward a Biblical Approach to
Masturbation,” 138: “The sexual drive is achieving its divinely intended purpose when masturbation is merely a
side-effect of developing sexual maturity and the person is motivated for marriage.” And later, he states, “But fan-
tasies involving a legitimate marital relationship with a potential or imaginary partner need not involve wrongful
coveting. Such fantasies may quite appropriately express the affective-social dimension of the sex drive” (p. 142).
Ironically, in his explanation, he admits that there is a danger of these fantasies being misapplied. His counsel is
that it merely takes Christian maturity expressed in self-control: “One rightly concludes that sexual fantasies may
serve an appropriate function in sexual development and that their content should be deliberately limited to ac-
tivities and relationships consistent with the will of God, such as when one fantasizes relations with an imaginary
marriage partner. This may require self-discipline, but that is a mark of Christian maturity” (p. 142).
34
See for example, Mark A. Yarhouse and Erica S. N. Tan, Sexuality and Sex Therapy: A Comprehensive Chris-
tian Appraisal (Downers Grove, IL: IVP Academic, 2014), 180, 229–33. They indicate being influenced by Gerali,
whose hermeneutic we discussed above.
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spouses,35 circumstantial impediments,36 or even the death of one’s spouse.37 The assumptions again
are that (1) sexual release is a need, and (2) sexual release is merely a physical need. We have already
addressed that sexual release is a desire rather than a need. Masturbation as a cure for different sex
drives among spouses assumes that sexual release is a merely physical desire and that one’s spouse can
be replaced with self. Instead of sex being an act of self-giving love, masturbation makes sexual desire
to be an act of self-seeking substitution of one’s spouse. Again, God intends sexuality to be shared by
spouses. Paradoxically, one’s own body belongs sexually to one’s spouse (1 Cor 7:3–5). The consistent
biblical call is not to indulge in every physical desire, but rather to exercise godly self-control by the
Spirit (Gal 5:22–23; 1 Thess 4:3–7; 2 Tim 1:7). This type of utilitarian ethic assumes that the only options
for someone with a sexual desire are fulfillment within the marriage (i.e., sex with one’s spouse), illicit
sexual acts (e.g., adultery), or masturbation. But the two God-designed means for dealing with sexual
desires are sexual expression with one’s spouse and Spirit-enabled self-control.
35
McBurney and McBurney (Real Questions, Real Answers About Sex, 274) state, “It [i.e., masturbation]
relieves sexual tension when a man and his wife have very different sex drives.” So also Balswick and Balswick
(Authentic Human Sexuality, 291) state, “When married partners have different desires regarding the frequency
of intercourse, masturbation can be a helpful and loving way for dealing with different needs.”
36
McBurney and McBurney (Real Questions, Real Answers About Sex, 273) state, “When a husband and wife
are separated by distance, sickness, disability, or pregnancy, masturbation is an option.” So also Hollinger (The
Meaning of Sex, 160) comments, “When a couple is apart for a period of time, masturbation can be used if the act
is directed toward the other and is clearly an expression of their loving, one-flesh union.” So also Johnson, “Toward
a Biblical Approach to Masturbation,” 139.
37
Hollinger (The Meaning of Sex, 160) states, “Some individuals may even use it [i.e., masturbation] legiti-
mately for a time after their spouse dies, as part of the loving memory of their loved one. While it is no longer
directly in the context of procreation, it is by memory still in the context of the one-flesh, procreative union.”
38
Gerali, The Struggle, 132, cf. 126, 169. In an earlier section, he describes the reasoning: “If we’re honest
we’d have to agree that the sexual thoughts, desires, arousal, and even lust precede the need to masturbate. Once
orgasm occurs, all that is gone. Masturbation is the end of lust, not the beginning of lust. Masturbation isn’t lust
nor does it feed lust. It ends lustful episodes. I continued to explain that there are many godly men and women
who believe that because masturbation follows the lust and shuts down the process, it becomes the way out that
many people pray for. For these people, this deliverance from lust makes masturbation a gift from God” (p. 103).
Gerali makes a pragmatic argument that does not account for the biblical argument that masturbation itself is a
sin, and thus it would not be a gift from God but rather the deceit of the flesh and Satan. Even from a pragmatic
standpoint, his argument is not compelling. He presents lustful desires as being able to be quickly and resolutely
dispatched by a mere physical release. But he does not consider that these “lustful episodes” are likely to become
reinforced by the practice of self-stimulated orgasm with the result that the person’s experience is not that of a
singular episode but rather a sinful pattern.
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expected in many cases where marriage is delayed and fornication is avoided.”39 Similarly, some argue
that even within marriage, masturbation can be a means of keeping oneself faithful to the marriage: “It
[i.e., masturbation] is a hedge against unfaithfulness when a man’s wife is unavailable and temptation
presents itself.”40 This line of reasoning is tantamount to saying “let us do [a lesser] evil that good may
come” (Rom 3:8). Masturbation is not a hedge against extramarital sexual expression; masturbation
itself is sexual expression outside of the marriage. The God-given means for dealing with sexual desire
are marriage and self-control (1 Cor 7:1–5, 36). Rather than engaging in so-called lesser sinful pleasures,
Christians are called to make no provision for ungodly sexual expression. “Let us walk properly as in the
daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and sensuality, not in quarreling and
jealousy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires”
(Rom 13:13–14).
4. Pastoral Reflections
In God’s goodness, he designed the goodness of marriage and the goodness of sex within marriage.
Both of these realities are good, God-glorifying gifts to humanity. God intends for marital sex to draw a
husband and wife together in mutual love and self-giving, thereby reinforcing their exclusive affections
for one another. In the first marriage, Adam recognizes in Eve someone in whom he can delight and
fulfill his commission, and he is to “hold fast” to her with care and devotion (Gen 2:24; cf., Matt 19:5;
Mark 10:7; Eph 5:31). In this marriage relationship, they enjoy the mutual sexual satisfaction of giving
themselves to “one another” (1 Cor 7:5). From that mutual love, God intends the generation of new life.
As with all of God’s good gifts, evil is eager to corrupt, distort, and defile God’s design. Thus, it takes
careful biblical thinking and Spirit-empowered self-control to enjoy and uphold God’s good design.
The church collectively supports the purity of marriage (Heb 13:4), and a primary way that the church
guards marriage and sex is by teaching about it rightly (1 Tim 4:1–10). Additionally, churches exercise
corrective discipline to train their members toward God’s way (1 Cor 5:1–13).
But the Christian virtue of self-control, being led by the Spirit, is directly at odds with prevailing
cultural narratives. Culture prizes license to do what one wants without constraints, particularly any
biblical constraint. The Bible, however, prescribes restraints that promote our flourishing because those
restraints are in line with how God designed us to flourish. So biblical morality is aligning our actions
with their intended and God-oriented design for our good. On the one hand, we want to say that sexual
expression is less than culture makes it—sexual expression is not our identity or essential humanity.
And on the other hand, we want to say that sexual expression is more than what our culture makes
it—sexual acts are not merely biochemical hormonal release; rather, sex is divinely designed to glorify
God himself. A prevailing cultural lie is that one’s identity is his/her sexual expression; thus, the inability
or prohibition to act sexually makes someone less than human, robbing them of personhood. But, in
39
Johnson, “Toward a Biblical Approach to Masturbation,” 140. Kwee and Hoover seem to imply a similar jus-
tification of masturbation in the case of a dating couple: “Do all instances of masturbation reflect such grave moral
failures? The intentions behind masturbation are varied and, arguably, not always of a lustful nature. A contrast of
scenarios commonly encountered in the counseling office may help to illustrate this. In the first scenario, a young
man and his girlfriend make out during a date but, out of respect for their shared Christian value system, they
abstain from intercourse. The young man is nevertheless sexually aroused and on returning home, he masturbates
to alleviate his pent-up sexual tension” (“Theologically-Informed Education about Masturbation,” 262).
40
McBurney and McBurney, Real Questions, Real Answers About Sex, 274.
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reality, everyone experiences unfulfilled sexual desires. The non-fulfillment of sexual desire, even good
sexual desire, does not reduce a person’s humanity, virility, masculinity, or femininity. On the contrary,
the non-fulfillment of good desires can orient us properly to the consummation of all things for which
we pray, “Come, Lord Jesus” (Rev 22:20).
While we await our adoptions as sons and the redemption of our bodies (Rom 8:18–25), we are
indwelt and led by the Spirit of God as sons of God (Rom 8:9–15). Being indwelt by the Spirit transforms
our minds, so that “those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but
those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit” (Rom 8:5). Christians
walk by the Spirit and “do not gratify the desires of the flesh” (Gal 5:16). The desires of the flesh produce
the works of the flesh: “Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality…”
(Gal 5:19). In contrast to the desires and works of the flesh, the Spirit produces a radically unique
way of living: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. And those who belong to Christ Jesus have
crucified the flesh with its passions and desires” (Gal 5:22–24). And this Spirit-led way of life contrasts
the flesh-led way of life particularly in the way that Christians act on sexual desires: “For this is the will
of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how
to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not
know God” (1 Thess 4:3–5). Walking by the Spirit in our sexual desires and expressions means that
we enact God’s good design.41 We recognize that this side of heaven, many desires, even good desires,
remain unfulfilled. We affirm that sex is designed to be social (in the smallest social unit of husband and
wife), not secretive and secluded. We affirm that sex is designed to be selfless self-giving rather than
self-serving. As singles and as marrieds, we keep the marriage bed pure by reserving the emblematic
marriage act for the mutual self-giving of spouses.
In the midst of swirling cultural narratives urging the inherent goodness of every sexual impulse,
it might be hard to believe that God’s way is best. It might be hard to believe that living out our faith in
God through the blood of Christ and the empowering of the Spirit is really the most joy-filled course
of life. But God is wise. His way is best. And his plan is for our good. Marrieds rejoice in the goodness
and God-glorification of marital sex, and treasure Christ as all-satisfying in the midst of unfulfilled
desires. Unmarrieds rejoice in the goodness and God-glorification of seeing Christ as all-satisfying in
every desire. John Piper memorably summarizes the satisfying joy in the Christian life, “The fight for
joy is the fight to see and believe Christ as more to be desired than the promises of sin. This faith and
sight come by hearing, and hearing by the word of Christ.”42 Using our bodies rightly begins by thinking
rightly about God and humanity (2 Cor 10:5–6). With the hope of the near return of Christ, let us walk
by the Spirit not in the flesh: “But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to
gratify its desires” (Rom 13:14).
41
“Purity” is another word that can describe this Spirit-led walk in regard to our sexual desires. While the
word is often criticized along with aspects of “purity culture,” rightly understood “purity” communicates an orien-
tation of the heart rather than the mere absence of prohibited activity. Garrett Kell (Pure in Heart: Sexual Sin and
the Promises of God [Wheaton, IL: Crossway, 2021], 26) helpfully defines purity: “Purity is an orientation of the
faith-filled heart that flees the pleasures of sin and pursues the pleasures of God by the power of the Holy Spirit.”
42
John Piper, When I Don’t Desire God: How to Fight for Joy (Wheaton, IL: Crossway, 2013), 105.
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