OU Tron COCO Mc ero ee CO eae een ce UN tee er Ga RSE ee Peters “In Loving What Is, you have the key. Now use it eae ee eee pe (a) Favicon what to think and believe, comes Byron Katie and what she enc Ce ee ce rer nee of nowhere, like a fresh breeze in a marketplace crowded with In the midst of normal life, Kati became increasingly Cee ee ee ee) ns ee ee ee ee ee ee eet eee a eee eee ees Se eT et Sees Loving What Is ‘will show you step by step, through clear and vivid ee et ee people do"The Work with Katie on abroad range of human problems, in their relationships, at work, and on their deepest anxieties and fears. Once they have ee ny es cree ee een ee eee nasacort de ‘OMPraise fer LOVING WHAT IS “Good Lord! Where did Byron Katie come from? She’s the real McCoy. Her work is amazingly effective—a simple, straightforward antidote to the suffering we unnecessarily create for ourselves. She asks us to believe nothing, but provides a surprisingly effective and simple way to cut through the tangle of delusions we wrap ourselves in. Just reading the exchanges in Loving What Is, I can admit things I didn’t want to admit and stop torturing myself in ways I didn’t realize I was doing” —David Chadwick, author of Crooked Cucumber: The Life and Zen Teaching of Shunryu Suzuki “Suppose you could find a simple way to embrace your life with joy, stop arguing with reality, and achieve’ serenity in the midst of chaos. That is what Loving What Is offers. It is no less than a revolutionary way to live your life. The question is: Are we brave enough to accept it?” —Erica: Jong, author of Fear of Flying “Loving What Is is filled with the essence of wisdom. Katie’s Work is a wonderful, transformative practice for anyone interested in spiritual growth? —Latma, Surya, Das, author of Awakening the Buddha Within “Byron Katie's Work is a great blessing for our planet. The root cause of suffering is identification with our thoughts, the ‘stories’ that are continuously running through our minds, Byron Katie’s Work acts like a razor-sharp sword that cuts through that illusion and enables you to know for yourself the timeless essence of your being. Joy, peace, and love emanate from it as your natural state. In Loving What Is, you have the key. Now use it.” —Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power of NowTo Adan Joseph Lewis and. to Michael Copyright © 2002 by Byron Kathleen Mitchell All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system, without jon in writing ftom the publisher. permis Published by Three Rivers Press, New York, New York. ‘Member of the Crown Publishing Group, a division of Random House, Inc. ‘www.randomhouse.com THREE RIVERS PRESS and the Tugboat design are registered trademarks of Random House, Inc. Originally published in hardcover by Harmony Books, a division of Random House, Inc., in 2002 Printed in the United States of America Design by David Bullen Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Katie, Byron. Loving what is : four questions that can change your life / the work of Byron Katie; written with Stephen Mitchell, p. cm, 1, Self-actualization (Psychology) 2. Self-aeceptance. 1. Mitchell, Stephen, 1943~ II. Tite. BF63784 K336 2003 158.1—dear_ 2002010852 ISBN 1-4000-4537-1 109876 FIRST PAPERBACK EDITION 2 Contents Introduction by Stephen Mitchell How to Read This Book A Few Basic Principles The Great Undoing 3. Entering the Dialogues 5 10. Doing The Work on Couples and Family Life T Want My Son to Talk to Me ‘My Husband’s Affair The Baby Shouldn't Scream I Need My Family’s Approval Deepening Inquiry Doing The Work on Work and Money He's So Incompetent! Uncle Ralph and His Stock Tips “Angry at Corporate America Doing The Work on Self-Judgments Afraid of Life Doing The Work with Children Doing The Work on Underlying Beliefs ‘She Was Supposed to Make Me Happy I Need to Make a Decision Doing The Work on Any Thought or Situation n 28 3 35 46 39 66 81 105 109 ns 1235 oy 147 157 163 170 188