Marriage advice
It is always important to put God number one and your husband number two, giving him the
respect that is due under Christ the King.
You will have a lot of sacrifices to make in order to show your spouse constant mutual love and
respect but let me suggest you pray hard and remember the grace received at the time of your
wedding. These Graces are continually offered for you to help you in your daily sacrifice.
Below are some links and items that I think might help if you research in your spare time.
Have respect for your partner.
The person you marry shares in a union that was established by God Himself and raised to the
dignity of a Sacrament by Christ.
"Ye husbands, likewise dwelling with them according to knowledge, giving honor to the female
as to the weaker vessel, and as to the co-heirs of the grace of life: that your prayers be not
hindered." (1 Peter 3:7)
Do not fight or argue!
Married people should learn to control their tempers and to discuss their problems as grown-
ups and not as children.
"Bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if any have a complaint against another:
even as the Lord hath forgiven you, so do you also. but above all these things have charity,
which is the bond of perfection: And let the peace of Christ rejoice in your hearts, wherein also
you are called in one body: and be ye thankful...Wives, be subject to your husbands, as it
behoveth in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter towards them." (Colossians
3:13-15, 18-19)
Do not criticize!
Criticizing your partner's faults or constantly harping on trifles soon destroys a happy marriage.
"And why seest thou the mote [speck] that is in thy brother's eye; and seest not the beam that is
in thy own eye? Or how sayest thou to thy brother: Let me cast the mote out of thy eye; and
behold a beam is in thy own eye?" (Matthew 7:3-4)
Trust one another completely.
It is a sin to be jealous or judge without evidence.
"Judge not, that you may not be judged. For with what judgment you judge, you shall be
judged: and with what measure you mete [measure], it shall be measured to you again."
(Matthew 7:1-2)
Do things together.
Husband and wife should find happiness in their own home with their children, and also should
associate with other happily married couples.
Make your home a pleasant place.
The wife should make the home a place to which her husband longs to go after his day's work;
it should be clean and orderly, and the meals well prepared and on time.
"Happy is the husband of a good wife: for the number of his years is double. A virtuous woman
rejoiceth her husband and shall fulfill the years of his life in peace. A good wife is a good
portion; she shall be given in the portion of them that fear God, to a man for his good deeds.
Rich or poor, if his heart is good, his countenance shall be cheerful at all times."
(Ecclesiasticus 26:1-4)
Use family money properly.
A husband is bound to the complete support of his wife and children; a wife is obliged to use
the family money wisely.
"But if any man have not care of his own, and especially of those of his house, he hath denied the
faith, and is worse than an infidel." (1 Timothy 5:8)
Pray together!
As the saying goes, "A family that prays together stays together," and this includes the family
Rosary, attending Mass and receiving Holy Communion together.
"Where there are two or three gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them."
(Matthew 18:20)
