SCREENING QUESTIONNAIRE

1. I usually get fun and enjoyment out of life (true)

A. I do often. However, it is sometimes tinged with a feeling
of guilt and having to offset the time spent with getting some
studying/work done or worrying about getting home on time
lest my next outing is denied or I have to negotiate again.
This was more an issue till 2023 college days and even
during 2024 sometimes so since 2017 I developed a habit of
ending up scrolling more social media in free time away
from my parents, seeing what people are doing and feeling
FOMO. I have consciously made an effort to reduce this
feeling and to enjoy what I have since 2022. It has served me
much better in recent years, so yes I do enjoy life, I am not
disillusioned by it. I would like a lot more freedom and
autonomy though.
2. I don't react well when someone offends me. (false)
A. I don’t tend to be an impulsive reactor atleast in way of
words or actions. However I will ruminate in my mind over
it. Sometimes I may get defensive when required but I carry
it longer in my mind, longer than I would like for it to. I
actually struggle to express disagreement or discontent but I
have worked on this tendency and improved greatly since
2022, choosing to be assertive and calm. I now talk to the
person when needed and discuss the incident/disagreement
and always try to come to a resolution. Although it is still
hard.
3. I'm not fussy about little details. (True)
A. Largely not. I can live with some level of imperfection or
rather, things not being my way because I recognise that my
way will not always be perfect or amenable. However that
does not hamper my ability to be detail oriented when
needed.
4. I can't decide what kind of person I want to be. (False)
A. For the kind of person, I know I like helping people and
being part of a community, even if it is not going out
compulsively. I like indulging in acts of service and want to
base my life on the same, using my privilege, knowledge and
 resources for the same – self and community
enjoyment/thriving. However, being around people who
cannot resonate with the same even to an extent of 10-15%
frustrates me. Those who cannot fathom the idea of things
not always being ‘theirs’ or those who have little self
awareness, example not cleaning up after themselves,
leaving utilities on even when not in use, etc.
5. I show my feelings for everyone to see. (false)
A. Not everyone. Or atleast not every feeling to everyone. It
depends on how close they are to me and what they can
accept/cannot. Example, I do not tend to divulge a lot to
coworkers. Recently started telling my parents more about
my feelings and past experiences and discussing how we can
get past our previous contentions.
6. I let others make my big decisions for me. (false)
A. I cannot say that these decisions are solely mine, there is
some influence from parents some from others around me
but 60% or more is usually my own thoughts/feelings.
7. I usually feel tense or nervous. (false)
A. Only when I have to get help from someone to do
something or guidance. I hate being reliant on anyone for
anything or asking too many questions. Working on this
tendency though, as this is inevitable and I cannot function
on independence alone.
8. I almost never get angry about anything. (false)
A. I do feel anger, however the expression is largely
controlled and channelled in assertive and calm
disagreement, even if it is rare. And yes, I am slow to anger.
But I can get irritated by slurping chewing or similar noises.
In which case I remove myself from the location or request
the person to stop. But I get quite irritated by these sounds.
9. I go to extremes to try to keep people from leaving me.
(false)
A. I do think I am a people pleaser to some extent but I have
never really gone to an ‘extreme’ in the true sense to stop
them. I feel a loss when it happens but I recognize that
sometimes it is meant to happen.
10. I'm a very cautious person.(true)
A. Yes sometime I can even overthink certain moves.
However I can take risks even when overthinking.
11.I've never been arrested. (true)
12.People think I'm cold and detached. (false)
A. Infact I am known to be empathetic and considerate, as
well as approachable.
13.I get into very intense relationships that don't last. (false)
A. I take relationships seriously and choose to judge
someone on various parameters before getting into one,
while making sure I am also able to contribute meaningfully
to it. My last relationship (and only one) was very fulfilling
and ended on a reasonably good note, albeit my reason for
ending it mainly was over emotional dependence on my
boyfriend and me losing my ability to handle things
independently (mentally) along with a feeling of decrease in
connect in terms of mental alignment or sexual expectations.
I do have a certain level of sexual proclivity but it does not
interfere with any other domain of my life and I actively take
precautions, physically as well as mentally for myself and
the other person involved. So I have not had any ‘drama’ in
this domain as such and it is an aspect of my life that is well
managed.
14.Most people are fair and honest with me. (false)
A. I would like to think so but I do have to be cautious.
Doesn’t mean I cant trust them with anything.
15.I find it hard to disagree with people if I depend on them a
lot. (true) working on this
16.I feel awkward or out of place in social situations. (true most
times)
17.I'm too easily influenced by what goes on around me.
(somewhat)
18.I usually feel bad when I hurt or mistreat someone (true)
19.I argue or fight when people try to stop me from doing what
I want. (false, only sometimes).
20.At times I've refused to hold a job, even when I was expected
to (false, grappling with this dilemma right now though)
21.When I'm praised or criticized I don't show others my
reaction (true)
22.I've held grudges against people for years. (false)
23.I spend too much time trying to do things perfectly.
(somewhat true)
24.People often make fun of me behind my back. (sometimes
but it does not bother me much)
25.I've never threatened suicide or injured myself on purpose.
(false, not suicide but have injured myself via a skipping
rope as a form of punishment back when I was dealing with
survivor guilt, although I don not have this issue anymore)
26.My feelings are like the weather, they're always changing.
(false)
27.I fight for my rights even when it annoys people. (false)
28.I like to dress so I stand out in a crowd. (false)
29.I will lie or con someone if it serves my purpose. (false)
30.I don't stick with a plan if don't get results right away (can be
true to 10-20% but I like to not do this and try to see things
through)
31.I have little or no desire to have sex with anyone. (FALSE)
32.People think I'm too strict about rules and regulations.(false)
33.I usually feel uncomfortable or helpless when I'm alone
(rarely unless I am tasked with something difficult at work)
34.I won't get involved with people until I'm certain they like
me. (true)
35.I would rather not be the centre of attention. (false)
36.I think my spouse (or lover) may be unfaithful to me. (false)
37.Sometimes I get so angry I break or smash things (TRUE,
but privately)
38.I've had friendships that lasted a long time. (true)
39.I worry a lot that people may not like me. (true)
40.I often feel empty inside (false, rarely true)
41.I work so hard I don't have time left for anything else.(false)
42.I worry about being left alone and having to care for myself.
(false)
43.A lot of things seem dangerous to me that don't bother most
people.(false, but at this job it does feel like that somewhat)
44. I have a reputation for being a flirt (false, but I do use
online dating apps sometimes)
45.I don't ask favors from people I depend on a lot. (true I try
not to)
46.I prefer activities that I can do by myself. (somewhat true)
47.I lose my temper and get into physical fights.(FALSE)
48.People think I'm too stiff or formal. (sometimes)
 49.I often seek advice or reassurance about everyday decisions
(at this job sometimes).
50.I keep to myself even when there are other people around.
(sometimes)
51.It's hard for me to stay out of trouble.(false)
52.I'm convinced there's a conspiracy behind many things in the
world.(false)
53.I'm convinced there's a conspiracy behind many things in the
world.(false)
54.I'm very moody.(false)
55.It's hard for me to get used to a new way of doing things.
(false)
56.Most people think I'm a strange person. I take chances and
do reckless things. (false, sometimes I can though)
57.Everyone needs a friend or two to be happy. (true)
58.I'm more interested in my own thoughts than what goes on
around me (false)
59.I usually try to get people to do things my way.(sometimes,
but only if there is some level of concensus or I feel it is
within reason)
I tend to overthink and over-intellectualize my feelings and
thoughts and suppress my reactions and thoughts as I feel they can
be burdensome on others. I also feel guilty of my privilege
sometimes and compound my negative feelings by thinking that I
should be not be feeling a certain way because I am too privileged
to be allowed to feel it. For example – anxiety about work tasks and
work in general when I should be grateful that I have a job and
several others would jump at the opportunity that I currently have.