The Dominance Code final
The Dominance Code final
Now that you understand the three pillars, let’s break down a
simple system you can apply immediately to shift how people
perceive you.
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approval further justification
himself
Weak men assume that being nice earns them respect. They
think that if they are good to others, others will be good
to them.
This is a fantasy.
In reality, respect is given only to those who demonstrate they
deserve it. Power recognizes and respects power. If you act
like a servant, people will treat you like one.
What this means:
• Never seek approval. Speak and act with certainty.
• Don’t over-apologize. Own your actions—weak men beg
for forgiveness unnecessarily.
• Maintain strong posture. Your body sends signals
before your words do.
If you behave like someone seeking validation, people will
automatically assume they are above you. Powerful men
respect those on their level—not those trying to impress them.
Now that you understand these laws, it’s time to put them into
practice.
Immediate Action Steps
Starting today, implement these three changes in your daily
life:
Eliminate Weak Apologies. Stop apologizing unless
absolutely necessary. If you’ve done nothing wrong, there’s
nothing to apologize for.
Slow Down Your Responses. Whether in conversation or
conflict, take an extra moment before replying. Powerful men
never rush.
Set Boundaries—And Enforce Them. If someone crosses
a line, they must feel it. No exceptions.
These small shifts will immediately make people react
differently to you. They will sense the change—even if they can’t
explain why.
Final Thoughts
Being “nice” and being respectable are not the same thing.
Nice guys believe:
• If I treat people well, they will respect me. (They
won’t—unless they already see you as strong.)
• If I am agreeable, I will be liked. (You’ll be tolerated,
not respected.)
• If I avoid conflict, things will go smoothly. (Avoiding
conflict means losing control.)
A man of power does not seek to be liked. He seeks to be
respected.
This means:
Being firm when setting boundaries. If someone pushes,
push back.
Saying no without guilt. Your time and
attention are valuable.
Not rewarding bad behavior. People
must earn your respect.
The Mentality Shift Challenge
2. The Second-in-Command
(The Influential Connectors)
These men are respected, but not
the top decision-makers. They:
• Hold influence but don’t directly lead.
• Have strong connections but lack full authority.
• Are one move away from dominance or
irrelevance.
3. The Extras (The Followers &
The Ignored)
These are the men who blend in.
• They talk too much, but no one listens.
• They try to force respect instead of earning it.
• They are replaceable—no one cares if they leave.
Where you position yourself determines how you’re
treated.
Before Elon Musk became the world’s richest man, he was just
another entrepreneur. But what made him rise above
everyone else at PayPal?
In the early 2000s, PayPal had multiple founders,
including Peter Thiel and Max Levchin. Musk didn’t start the
company, but he strategically positioned himself as the
leader.
He wasn’t the best engineer, nor the best coder,
but he understood dominance. Instead of fitting
into the existing hierarchy, he:
• Inserted himself into leadership conversations
where others hesitated.
• Publicly made high-stakes decisions before anyone
could challenge them.
• Asserted control over the company’s resources
and branding.
By the time PayPal was acquired by eBay, Musk had
solidified himself as the face of the company—despite
not being the original founder.
This is a classic example of social positioning. He didn’t wait
for approval—he took authority.
Most men wait for power to be handed to them. It never is.
Final Thoughts
He would:
• Pause deliberately before big reveals.
• Let the crowd sit in silence, building anticipation.
• Then deliver one powerful sentence.
This technique forced people to listen more closely and
made Apple’s product launches feel almost hypnotic.
Silence was his tool for controlling attention and
creating impact.
How to Apply the Power of Silence in Real Life
Predictability is weakness.
• If people always know how you’ll react, they can
manipulate you.
• If you’re always agreeable and the same, you become
boring.
• If you never challenge people, they won’t see you as a
leader.
A powerful man keeps people on edge just enough to make
them respect him.
How to apply this:
• Be firm one day, but distant the next. Keep people
guessing—it forces them to work for your attention.
• Sometimes be available, sometimes disappear.
Scarcity creates value.
• Switch up your tone and presence. If you’re always
serious, mix in humor. If you’re always humorous, mix in
seriousness.
People respect those they can’t fully predict.
📍 Rule #4: Master Controlled Confrontation
Final Thoughts
Signs:
• Someone makes a passive-aggressive comment about you
in front of others.
• A person subtly mocks your status, abilities, or
achievements.
• It seems like “just a joke,” but you feel the power play
behind it.
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How to Handle It:
• Don’t laugh along. Weak men laugh at their own
disrespect.
• Pause, then repeat the statement back to them.
Example:
o If someone says: “Oh, you think you’re the big guy
now, huh?” o You reply, calmly: “That’s an
interesting comment. What makes you say that?”
o This forces them to explain themselves, shifting
the power dynamic.
• Hold eye contact longer than they are comfortable
with. This signals that you see through their game.
Why this works:
It puts them on the spot.
• It makes them uncomfortable without you needing to
attack.
• It signals that you won’t tolerate disrespect, even in
disguise.
Signs:
• Someone raises their voice at you.
• A person interrupts you aggressively or tries to
dominate the conversation.
• They are testing to see if you will back down.
How to Handle It:
• Lower your voice when they raise theirs. This
instantly flips the power dynamic.
• Step slightly closer, but stay relaxed. Space equals
power—closing it signals dominance.
• Hold eye contact, say nothing. Let their words sit in
the air like dead weight.
Example Response:
• Someone says: “You don’t know what you’re talking
about.”
• You reply, calmly: “If you say so.” (then silence)
Why this works:
• It deprives them of the reaction they want.
• It forces them to keep talking, making them look
emotional.
• It establishes you as the calm, dominant force.
Signs:
• Someone steps too close to test your reaction.
• A man shoulder-checks you or tries to intimidate you
physically.
• You feel a clear dominance move happening.
How to Handle It:
• Hold your ground—never step back first.
Angle your body slightly instead of squaring up
(this makes you look more prepared without being
aggressive).
• Lower your energy instead of raising it. The calmer
you are, the more unstable they look.
If they physically push it further, that’s a different situation—but
most conflicts never reach that point.
Why?
Because power is psychological first.
If they sense that you won’t be intimidated, they usually
back down without action.
📌 Case Study: How Michael Jordan Used
Psychological Dominance in Conflict
There comes a point when you stop trying to grasp power and
realize that power is simply what remains when everything
weak has been stripped away.
It’s not about what
you gain. It’s about
what you remove.
• Remove the need to explain yourself.
• Remove the impulse to prove something.
• Remove the habit of reacting emotionally.
• Remove the fear of standing alone.
And what’s left?
A man who cannot be controlled.
A man who does not need to be followed—and yet, people
follow him.
A man who does not seek respect—and yet, people respect
him.
Because power is not in the man who moves toward things.
It’s in the man who stands still while the world adjusts to
him.
You’ve spent your whole life being told that power is about
having the right words, the right moves, the right
presence.
And to some extent, that’s true.
But the men who own the world’s respect do so because they
have done something most people will never have the courage to
do.
They have let go of everything unnecessary.
• No fear.
• No hesitation.
• No over-explanation.
• No need for approval.
And because they are no longer seeking anything, nothing
can be taken from them.
That is why they are respected.
That is why they are followed.
That is why they cannot be moved.
The End of the Road – Or the Beginning?