Discover your

STAR journey
Prepared by CPL
Table of Contents
• To understand more in your current situation
• Where to start first?
Personal Leadership

• How to change it?

Paradigm Shift

• The force to change

Taking Responsibility

• To draft out your own personal blueprint

Understanding Your Current
Situation
Where To Start
First?
- Personal Leadership
Four Stages of
Leadership
Organizational - Alignment

Managerial - Empowerment

Interpersonal - Trust

Personal
- Trustworthiness
Personal leadership starts
from trustworthiness.
• In order to lead others, individuals must be able to
lead their own self first. How?
• By demonstrating trustworthiness, other people will
begin to trust them as their leader.
What makes a person
trustworthy?
 Individual Behavior -
Iceberg

Ghandi
Story-telling session
• One day, a mother bring along her son to see
Ghandi.
• She said, “My son is very naughty, he can’t stop
eating sweets, any advice from my dear sir.”
• Ghandi asked them only come back
next week
Story-telling session
• One week passed already, the mother bring along
her child to visit Ghandi again.
• Now, Ghandi advised the child not to take sweet .
• The mother very curious, why Ghandi didn’t give
advice last week and only wait until now.
Story-telling session
• Ghandi said,

“Last week, I was still taking sweet, and I can’t

give any advice at that moment.”
“Only after I quit for taking any sweet, then I got
the right to advise others not to take sweet.”
How to become
someone trustworthy?
Character
A person with high character exhibits integrity,
maturity and mentality.

Competence
A person with high competence has knowledge and
ability in specific area.
Interpersonal leadership is
built on trust.
Trust flows from
trustworthy people, and it
will establish strong
relationship.
Character Competence
Role Play Session
During one of the Christmas, due to critical
illness – kidney failure, Mr. See Beh Heng
must undergo for the operation immediately.
The whole hospital only got two doctors left…
Choosing Your Doctor for
Your Operation?
Doctor A Doctor B

• 45 years old man • 25 years old fresh

graduate
• 20 years experience No experience
•
• Specialize on kidney • Mr. Nice guy
operation
• Caring patient but
• Evil, only care about careless and forgetful
money…
 How to
change it?
- Paradigm Shift
Why change?
• “I am nobody… I am only the cheap
labour… I can’t do anything…”
(showing low sense of responsibility toward yourself
and jobs)

• Understand how to view things differently

(Paradigm Shift)
How to go about change?
 Fundamental of
Change
How we view it (Occasion, problem, and etc.)

Outcome = What you have done?

We will act according to the result from “See”

What is paradigm?
• The way an individual perceives, understands
and interprets the surrounding world
• A mental map
What is paradigm?
• Individuals are products of learning and
experience
• There is no two individuals share the exactly
same knowledge base or the exactly same
set of experiences
• Consequently, no two people share identical
paradigm.
What is paradigm shift?
‘Almost every significant breakthrough in
science is first a break with tradition, old ways
of thinking, or old paradigm.’
(Thomas Kuhn, the author of a landmark book, ‘The Structure of Scientific Revolutions’)
What is paradigm shift?
• A change in thinking
• Gain additional insights and understanding
• The point of view change
Effective individuals create opportunities
for paradigm shift. How?
• Try to understand others’ paradigm
• Emphatically open their mind and let others freely
express themselves
• Avoiding stereotyping with close-minded
Exercise
Think of a time or event in your life in which
you experienced a paradigm shift.
1. What was the event?

2. What did you learnt that changed your paradigm?

Exercise (Cont’)
Think of a time or event in your life in which
you experienced a paradigm shift.
3. How did the paradigm shift affect your life?

4. What conditions contribute to paradigm shift?

Understand What We
Can Do
• During school holiday, a group of children is out for
camping.
• A fat boy “Ah Pui” always the one left behind.
• He always views himself “I am so fat and so clumsy”.
• Then he tend wake up late, walk slower and slower,
and he feels like he shouldn’t join the camp.
 Is it really

Fat = Clumsy/Lousy?
Understand What We
Can Do
• One day, we have appointed “Ah Pui” to be the team
leader.
• Every morning, “Ah Pui” always is the first one to
wake up, always the one walk in front of everyone
with smiling face.
What affects our
paradigm?
• Social Mirror
How others see you, and how you see others

• Self-fulfilling prophecy
People live up to the social mirror that surrounds them
How to go about
paradigm shift?
• Seek more information
• Have an open mind
• Test it against principle
What is paradigm shift?
‘If you want small changes, work on your
behavior.
If you want quantum-leap changes, work on
you paradigm.’
(Stephen R. Covey, the author of a best-selling book, ‘The 7 habits of Highly Effective
People’)
LOVEISNOWHERE
The Force To
Change
- Taking Responsibility
The Force to Change?
What is the main force for you to change?
You, Yourself
“The dripping water on the stone, it can dig a
hole”
But if YOU didn’t put the stone under the dripping
water or YOU stopped the water to drip?
What is responsibility?
“It is not my fault, it is Mr. XXX’s
fault, don’t accuse me.”

Instead of blaming each another, we should put

the focus on the problem itself.
High level of
responsibility
(Scripts of a responsible person)

1. I have the freedom to choose.

2. I am responsible for my own behavior and the
choices I make in life.
3. I can expand my personal freedom by doing
things which I have influence.
1.) I have the freedom to
choose
A victim

A responsible person
Event Response

Event Response
How to choose our
response in a difficult
situation?
Story-telling session
• When Mother Theresa was in India, she chaired
an orphanage.
• Every morning, she needed to go out for getting
donation in order to keep her children not being
hungry
• One early morning, Mother Theresa was waiting
outside a bakery shop for the shop to open.
• The shop owner opened the door, and surprised
that Mother Theresa was sitting beside the door.
Story-telling session
• He asked, “Good morning, what can I do for you?”
• Mother Theresa said, “Good morning sir, I would
like to request some donation for my children.”
• The shop owner felt very angry, early in the
morning, without having any business came in,
already have someone outside begging for food.
• He shouted and spitted on the face of Mother
Theresa .
Story-telling session
• Mother Theresa took out a piece of cloth and
rubbed the face gently.
• She said, “Thank you sir, I know that is for me,
how about my children?”
Story-telling session
• The shop owner shocked and quickly apologized
to Mother Theresa.
• After that, he gave a basket of breads to Mother
Theresa. Not only that, he decided to give the
daily supply to the orphanage.
Situation Analysis
• What is the moral of the story?

• If you are Mother Theresa, what will you do?

• What is the consequence for your action?

The last of Human
Freedom
“The last of human freedoms - the ability
to choose one's attitude in a given set of
circumstances.”

(Viktor E. Frankl, Author of “Mean’s Search for Meaning”)

You can choose your action, but
you cannot choose your
consequences.
They are governed by natural laws or
principles.
Behavior is governed by values.
Consequences are governed by
principles.
2.) I am responsible for my
own behavior
and the choices I make in
my life
‘It is not what people do to do that hurts us. In
the most fundamental sense, it is our chosen
response to what they do to us that hurt us.
Story-telling session
• During school holiday, “Ah Pui” and his cousin are out for
jungle-trekking.
• They rest nearby the river, and “Ah Pui” went to pick some
dried woods for rising fire.
• Unluckily, his cousin was bitten by a poison snake and the
snake runaway.
• His cousin was very angry, he picked up a stick and try to
chase the snake.
• A few minutes later, his cousin died and the snake
disappeared.
Situation Analysis
• What is the choice his cousin made?
Snake bite? Or his response?

• What is the main reason of his death?

• What is the situation if he choose another

option?
3.) I can expand my personal
freedom by
doing things which I have
influence.
Circle of Concern
The things we are concerned about

Circle of Influence
The things we can really do something about
How to focus our time
and energy to be
effective?

Things which I
have NO influence

Things which I
have influence
How to focus our time
and energy to be
effective? – Victim
Things which I
have NO influence

Things which I have

influence
How to focus our time and
energy to be effective? –
Responsible Person
Things which I have
NO influence

Things which I
have influence
Do not wait for “IF ONLY ”.
Just grab the opportunity.
Because you do not know when
the next one will come.
High level of
responsibility
(Scripts of a responsible person)

1. I have the freedom to choose.

2. I am responsible for my own behavior and the
choices I make in life.
3. I can expand my personal freedom by doing
things which I have influence.
 Interactive Session

1. Pen cannot leave the paper

2. Use 4 straight lines to link all the 9 dots
3. All 4 straight lines are connected
 Draft Out Your
Own Personal
Blueprint
“The most pathetic person in the
world is someone who has sight,
but no vision.”
(Helen Keller)
 All things are
created twice?
My personal blueprint
A powerful statement that expresses your personal
sense of purpose.
A powerful tool in providing direction and meaning to
life.
Every personal blueprint answers 2 basic questions:-
•What am I about?
•Upon what principles do I operate my life?
Benefits of a personal
blueprint
• Clarifies what is really important to you
• Encourage you to think deeply about your life
• Provides direction and commitment to values
• Expands your perspective
• Enables you to make daily progress toward long-term
goals
 Natural Law of Human
Behavior
Have You will
You need to have
do something DO something

BE

You are
somebody
Have: Results you want to
achieve
1. List down things you want to have that you feel are
important.
(maybe tangible possessions [e.g. a car] or intangible [e.g. a happy family])

1. Identify the 5 most important ones.

Do: Contributions &
Accomplishments
1. When I look at my work life, which activities do I consider of
greatest worth?

1. When I look at my personal life, which activities do I

consider of greatest worth?
Do: Contributions &
Accomplishments
3. What do I consider to be my most important future
contribution to others?

3. What talents do I have, whether developed or undeveloped?

Do: Contributions &
Accomplishments
5. Are there things I feel really should do (even though I might
have dismissed such thoughts many times before for
various reasons)? What are they?
Be: Look at an influential
person
1. Who is your positive role model (who has a significant
impact in your life)? Why did that person have such a
significant impact?

1. What qualities does this person possess that I would like to

emulate?
Be: Your legacy
1. Think of up to 5 key roles in your life (min 2 for professional
life).
2. Write your roles and the name of a key person in each role –
‘Relationships’ column.
3. Write a brief statement describing how you would like the
key person to perceive you and what tribute you hope they
would give to you – ‘Tribute statement’ column
Relationships Tribute statement
Role
Key person

Role
Key person

Role
Key person

Role
Key person

Role
Key person
Notes
Notes
You will become more aware of
your potential (natural talents and
tendencies).

This is an act of self discovery – to discover

purpose of living, to discover the deepest desires
for life
Let’s start draft our personal
blueprint: -
Stage 1 Positive Job Description
Stage 2 Complete blueprint
 There is a challenge
in every job
and in every action.
Only you can find it.

Find it.
The reward is GREAT!
Make your own positive job
description
1. Make a ‘normal’ job description by making a list
of tasks you actually do.

• I put groceries into bags

• I maintain machinery
• I am cleaning
• I send reminders for payment
• I handle complaints
Make your own positive job
description
2. For each task describe the challenge in what you
do.

• I ensure our customers want to come back

• I ensure the productivity for the company
• I am creating a better environment
• I secure money for the company
• I keep our customers happy
Examples - Banker
Normal JD
1. To provide mortgage loans.
2. To provide car loan.
3. To provide savings accounts, bancassurance, unit trust, share margin
financing, etc.
Positive JD
1. I assist someone to have better financial cash flow.
2. I assist someone who can’t afford to buy the car by cash to have their
own car.
3. I assist our customers to have better financial planning, which will bring
benefit to their future.
Exercise 2
Take 15 minutes.
Sketch a complete personal blueprint (combining both
personal & professional lives)
Notes
Notes
Example
Decalogue (Thomas Jefferson)
1. Never put off till tomorrow for what you can do today.
2. Never trouble another for what you can do yourself.
3. Never spend your money before you have it.
4. Never buy what you do not want, because it is cheap; it will de dear to you.
5. Pride costs us more than hunger, thirst and cold.
6. We have never repented of having eaten too little.
7. Forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the
futures.
8. Wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet
a smile.
9. Give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to
criticize others.
10. Be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to
permit troubles.
Example
To find fulfillment and value in living, I will
1. Lead a life centered around the principles of integrity &
trustworthiness.
2. Remember the important in life is contribution, family and
financial security.
3. Revere the admirable characteristics in others – courageous,
enthusiastic, ambitious & principle-centered.
4. Recognize my strengths as a person who is open-minded,
creative, & able to see potential in others.
5. Constantly renew myself – maintain good health & continuous
learning (at least read 1 book a month).
Assignments
1. Complete your Positive Job Description
2. Complete your personal blueprint

Deadline : ______________