KNOWING AND UNDERSTANDING

ONESELF DURING MIDDLE AND

LATE ADOLESCENCE

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
MODULE 1
Write your answer in a paper.
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2. aopselnrtyi 7. riexscenpee 12.
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3. gemai 8. omliitatin 13.
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4. odleevp 9. queniu
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Activity: SELF-CONCEPT INVENTORY
1.I have strong sex appeal.
2.I am proud of my physical figure.
3.I am physically attractive and beautiful/handsome.
4.I exude with charm and poise.
5.I am easy to get along with.
6.I can adjust to different people and different situations.
7.I am approachable; other people are at ease and comfortable with
me.
8. I am lovable and easy to love.
9. I am a fast learner, can understand with one instruction.
10. I am intelligent.
11. I have special talents and abilities.
12. I can easily analyze situations and make right judgments.
13. I can be trusted in any transaction.
14. I have a clean conscience and carry no guilty feeling.
15. I have integrity and good reputation.
16. My friends and classmates can look up to me as a model worth
emulating.
17. I can express my ideas without difficulty.
18. I talk in a persuasive manner that I can easily get people to
accept what I say.
19. I can express my ideas in writing without difficulty.
20. I am a good listener.
21. I am emotionally stable and not easily rattled when faced with
trouble.
22. I am logical and rational in my outlook and decisions.
23. I feel and act with confidence.
24. I am a mature person.
SELF-CONCEPT

Self - is the union of element namely: Body, thoughts, feeling or

emotions, and sensations that constitute the individuality and
identity of a person.

Imagine yourself looking into a mirror.

What do you see?
SELF-CONCEPT

Your ideal self is the self that you aspire to be. It is the one that you hope
will possess characteristics similar to that of a mentor or some other
worldly figure.

Your actual self, however, is the one that you actually see. It is the self
that has characteristics that you were nurtured or, in some cases, born to
have.

The actual self and the ideal self are two broad categories of self-concept.
SELF-CONCEPT

Self-concept refers to your awareness of yourself. It is the

construct that negotiates these two selves.
In other words, it connotes first the identification of the ideal self
as separate from others, and second, it encompasses all the
behaviors evaluated in the actual self that you engage in to reach
the ideal self.

The actual self is built on self-knowledge.

Self-knowledge is derived from social interactions that provide
insight into how others react to you.
 SELF-CONCEPT

The actual self is who we actually are. It is how we think, how we feel,
look, and act. The actual self can be seen by others, but because we
have no way of truly knowing how others view us, the actual self is our
self-image.

The ideal self, on the other hand, is how we want to be. It is an idealized
image that we have developed over time, based on what we have
learned and experienced. The ideal self could include components of
what our parents have taught us, what we admire in others, what our
society promotes, and what we think is in our best interest.
SELF-CONCEPT

There is negotiation that exists between the two selves

which is complex because there are numerous
exchanges between the ideal and actual self. These
exchanges are exemplified in social roles that are
adjusted and readjusted, and are derived from
outcomes of social interactions from infant to adult
development.
SELF-CONCEPT

Alignment is important. If the way that I am (the actual

self) is aligned with the way that I want to be (the ideal
self), then I will feel a sense of mental well-being or
peace of mind. If the way that I am is not aligned with
how I want to be, the incongruence, or lack of alignment,
will result in mental distress or anxiety.
SELF-CONCEPT

The greater the level of incongruence between the

ideal self and real self, the greater the level of
resulting distress.
 PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS

Personal effectiveness means making use of all the personal resources – talents,
skills, energy and time, to enable you to achieve life goals.

Your knowledge of yourself and how you manage yourself impacts directly on your
personal effectiveness. Being self-aware, making the most of your strengths,
learning new skills and techniques and behavioral flexibility are all keys to improving
your personal performance.

Our personal effectiveness depends on our innate characteristics – talent and

experience accumulated in the process of personal development. Talents first are
needed to be identified and then developed to be used in a particular subject area
(science, literature, sports, politics, etc.).
PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
Experience includes knowledge and skills that we acquire in the
process of cognitive and practical activities.

Knowledge is required for setting goals, defining an action plan to

achieve them and risk assessment.

Skills also determine whether real actions are performed in

accordance with the plan. If the same ability is used many times in
the same situation, then it becomes a habit that runs automatically,
subconsciously. Here are some skills that will greatly increase the
efficiency of any person who owns them:
 SKILLS THAT WILL GREATLY INCREASE
THE EFFICIENCY OF ANY PERSON WHO
OWNS THEM:
1. Determination. It allows you to focus only on achieving a specific
goal without being distracted by less important things or spontaneous
desires. It may be developed with the help of self-discipline exercise.
2. Self-confidence. It appears in the process of personal development,
as a result of getting aware of yourself, your actions and their
consequences. Self-confidence is manifested in speech, appearance,
dressing, gait, and physical condition. To develop it, you need to learn
yourself and your capabilities, gain positive attitude and believe that
by performing right actions and achieving right goals you will certainly
reach success.
SKILLS THAT WILL GREATLY INCREASE
THE EFFICIENCY OF ANY PERSON WHO
OWNS THEM:
3. Persistence. It makes you keep moving forward regardless of emerging
obstacles – problems, laziness, bad emotional state, etc. It reduces the costs of
overcoming obstacles. It can also be developed with the help of self- discipline
exercise.
4. Managing stress. It helps combat stress that arises in daily life from the
environment and other people. Stress arises from the uncertainty in an
unknown situation when a lack of information creates the risk of negative
consequences of your actions. It increases efficiency in the actively changing
environment.
5. Problem-solving skills. They help cope with the problems encountered with
a lack of experience. It increases efficiency by adopting new ways of achieving
goals when obtaining a new experience.
SKILLS THAT WILL GREATLY INCREASE
THE EFFICIENCY OF ANY PERSON WHO
OWNS THEM:
6. Creativity. It allows you to find extraordinary ways to carry out a
specific action that no one has tried to use. It can lead to a decrease
or an increase of costs, but usually the speed of action is greatly
increased when using creative tools.
7. Generating ideas. It helps you achieve goals using new, original,
unconventional ideas. Idea is a mental image of an object formed
by the human mind, which can be changed before being
implemented in the real world. For generating ideas you can use a
method of mental maps, which allows you to materialize, visualize
and scrutinize all your ideas, which in turn contributes to the
emergence of new ideas.
HERE ARE 7 REASONS WHY WE SHOULD PUT
OUR TALENTS, GIFTS OR STRENGTHS TO
USE:

1. Other People Can Benefit From Them.

2. Other Lives May Change Because of Our Talents.
3. Leads to a More Satisfying Life.
4. We Can Make Money Out Of Them.
5. Let’s Us Leave a Lasting Impression to People
6. Leads to Faster Growth and Development
7. Show Appreciation to the Giver
1.Other People Can Benefit From Them.
Our gifts or talents are purposely created not just for ourselves
but to help those around us. We benefit from other people’s
talents.
Our gifts or talents are ours but they are not just there for us.
They are given to be shared with others. There’s no sense of
delight when we only want to serve ourselves. Sharing our
talents with other people can create more lasting fulfillment. It
is actually a win-win situation. We get to exercise our talent and
other people on the other end receives a benefit from it.
2. Other Lives May Change Because of Our Talents.
We may even change someone’s life just because
we exercise our gift. It doesn’t need to be a huge
one. Start small and someone out there will be
inspired because of it.
3. Leads to a More Satisfying Life.
Our gifts or talents are also considered our strengths. Gallup
conducted a research on people who use their strengths
every day and how it affects their performance and overall,
their quality of life.
Gallup found out that people who use their strengths and
talents (something that comes naturally and can be
enhanced through practice) every day are six times more
likely to be engaged on the job.
The key points they found in the research are as follows:
a. Improved Health and Wellness
b. Experienced Less Worry, Stress, Anger, Sadness or Physical
Pain
c. Boost Their Positive Emotions
d. More Energy to Face the Day
e. Higher Engagement Level on the Task They also found out
that building employees’ strengths is a far more effective
approach to improving performance than trying to improve
weaknesses.
4. We Can Make Money Out Of Them.
They found what they are really good at and with
constant use and practice, their gifts serve them well.
Whether we are great in doing calligraphy, tinkering
things, drawing or anything else, there is always an
opportunity waiting for us.
5. Let’s Us Leave a Lasting Impression to People
“If we want to leave a lasting imprint to people we
encounter, use whatever we have to offer. These are our
gifts and talents. “That moment of sharing without an
agenda of getting a part wasn’t about the outcome but
about the joy of touching others and giving
unconditionally what was mine to give. And that brought
with it a tremendous sense of fulfilment.”
6. Leads to Faster Growth and Development
When a person positively monitors his performance
and look for ways to improve his strengths, he will
develop faster than focusing on his weaknesses. If
we would like to improve vastly, start on where we
are good at. We have nothing to lose because we
already have them.
7. Show Appreciation to the Giver.
When we are using the talents given to us, we are
opening more doors and windows for more gifts. Why is
this so? Because it’s how the Law of God works. Whoever
we believe in, when we use the talents the Creator gave
us, it shows that we appreciate His works. He will give us
more opportunities to use them in return. Our talents
are investments of God. If we don’t capitalize on them,
they will never grow. We will lose the compounding
interest where we and others can benefit from.
CONCLUSION

Every human being conceived carries with him or her that innate ability that is
uniquely his or hers. It is like our finger print. Lots of people may carry the same
ability, but the way we use ours will make us unique. These talents, gifts or
strengths are our diamonds. We need to dig them. Nobody can dig them for us.
Once we find them, we should remove the dust. Keep polishing them. The more
we take care of them, the more we can recognize the other diamonds in our
lives. Soon, our gifts and talents, just like diamonds, will shine brightly and will
serve us well in the long run. Because we took the time to search for them, the
return of investment is more than what we have imagined. Because our Creator
saw that we are using them, He will bless us with more opportunities to apply
them. Make a promise to yourself. You’ll search for your diamonds. And you’ll
make sure they will shine brightly.
Awesome! You’re a great reader!
ACTIVITY:
THE CHALLENGE IS HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF
NOW?

Make an illustration that portrays your

actual and ideal self. (See sample picture)

Write an essay about your Ideal and

Actual self, how do you view yourself?