Anger management 1

Anger management 1

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  Anger Management 1 Presentedby: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes Executive Director, AllCEUs AllCEUs.com Unlimited CEUs and Specialty Certifications $59
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  Objectives  Explore thefunction of anger  Identify the costs and benefits of anger  Identify anger triggers  Rejection/Isolation  Failure  Loss of control  The unknown
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  What is Anger Half of the fight or flight reaction  Based on prior learning, the brain interprets a threat to person, property or self-concept  Norepinephrine/adrenaline is secreted to prepare to fight or flee  Heart rate and respiration increases, focus becomes singular (tunnel vision), sweating begins  Urge to lash out verbally and/or physically  Feelings: More than just anger
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  Costs of Anger Social  Pushes people away / Increases isolation  Intimidates people (Respect vs. Intimidation)  Perceived by children which increases their anxiety  Physical  Uses a ton of energy for what is often not a major threat  Causes injury from others & self (ulcers, self harm, heart attack, high cholesterol)
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  Costs of Angercont…  Emotional  Reduces the amount of time to be happy (anger + time nurturing anger + time recovering from anger)  Can lead to depression  Environmental  Broken stuff (hands, windshields, plates)  Jail time  Reduces your options (relationships, work, housing)  Loss of employment  Anger episodes at work  Reduced productivity and increased illness due to anger
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  Benefits of Anger Power: Pushes away or dominates a threat  Punishment/revenge to make others feel the same pain  Save face/reputation  Hide emotional pain  Get attention (alarm people, make a scene)  Change other people’s behavior
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  Origins of Anger Feeling of a Threat  Society is less interdependent but we still need people (Barn Raising to Capitalism)  Valuing power and success above compassion  Harsh or disengaged parenting  Primitive coping skills  Low self-esteem / External validation  Threat Categories  Rejection/Isolation  Failure  The Unknown  Loss of Control
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  Origins of Anger Threat Categories  Rejection/Isolation  Failure  The Unknown  Loss of Control
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  Anger Triggers Rejection/ Isolation Failure Lossof Control Disrespected Disappointed Misunderstood Embarrassed Powerless Jealousy/Envy Traffic | Betrayal | Backtalk/Not Listening | Broken Promises | Teenager | Get Lost | Grief | Condescension | Judgementalism
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  Anger & IrritabilityVulnerabilities  Lack of sleep  Low blood sugar  Too many stimulants  Being sick or in pain  Being mindless and letting little things build up (think dirty laundry or weeds)  Depression  Too much estrogen or testosterone  Anxiety/stress (Bridezilla; Being spread too thin)
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  Addressing the Anger Develop skills to tolerate distress and self-soothe  Distract don’t react  Journaling  Urge surfing  Develop mindful self-awareness for  Vulnerabilities  Anger warning signs  Anger triggers  Goals (make a goals card)  Eliminate as many anger triggers as possible
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  Emergency Anger Control Stop  Breathe slowly  Repeat your confidence phrase 3 times  Take a walk  Identify your courses of action  Choose the course of action that is most in alignment with your goals card  Better relationship with kids/family/friends  More energy  Less desire to use drugs/alcohol
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  Addressing Anger Worksheet When x happened I felt Disrespected | Disappointed | Misunderstood | Embarrassed Powerless | Jealous/Envious  Which triggered my fear of:  Rejection/Isolation because of the following thoughts…  Failure because of the following thoughts…  Loss of control because of the following thoughts…  The unknown because of the following thoughts…
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  Worksheet cont…  Forevery negative thought, develop a positive coping thought  Rejection/Isolation  Who do you have  How are you better off without that person in their current state (or yours)  Failure  What can you do well  What can you learn  Loss of control/The unknown  What is the most probable outcome  How have you handled situations like this before
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  Summary  Anger isa protective response to a threat  Due to a myriad of factors, people can become hypersensitive to threats  Extended periods of anger and irritability cause the stress response system to dial down sensitivity leading to depression  Many people with anger management issues have internalized negative self-talk from childhood  Directed at them  Interpreted by them
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  Summary  Anger isoften reinforced by immediate, temporary relief/victory/vindication  Addressing anger involves helping the person  Learn to stop and de-escalate/downregulate  Identify and remember why change is important  Identify and develop alternative responses  Enhance self-esteem/reduce the need for external validation  Countercondition unnecessary threats  Become mindfully self-aware  Eliminate vulnerabilities