Building High in the making Self-Esteem.pptx

Building High in the making Self-Esteem.pptx

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  BUIILDING HIGH SELF-ESTEEM OSCAR T.YANZON Discussant
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  · Understand theconditions organizations can create that will help workers increase their self-esteem. LEARNING OBJECTIVES · Define self-esteem and discuss its impact on your life. · Discuss how self-esteem is developed. · Identify the characteristics of people with low and high self-esteem. · Identify ways to increase your self-esteem.
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  The Power ofSelf-Esteem • Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper editor for lack of ideas. He went bankrupt several times before he built Disneyland. • Thomas Edison’s teacher said he was “too stupid to learn anything.” • Fred Astaire recalls the 1933 memo from the MGM casting director that stated, “Can’t act. Can’t sing. Slightly bald. Can dance a little.” • Albert Einstein did not speak until he was four years old and did not read until he was seven. His teacher described him as “mentally slow, unsociable, and adrift forever in foolish dreams.” • Alan Jackson, country-music superstar, was turned down by every Nashville label at least once. Some said he lacked “star quality.”
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  Self-Esteem = Self-Efficacy+ Self-Respect is the learned expectation of success is what you think and feel about yourself
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  Self-esteem refers toa person’s overall sense of his or her value or worth. It can be considered a sort of measure of how much a person “values, approves of, appreciates, prizes, or likes him or herself” Self-esteem is quite simply one’s attitude toward oneself (1965). He described it as a “favourable or unfavourable attitude toward the self”. (Adler & Stewart, 2004) According to self-esteem expert Morris Rosenberg
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  ∙ Genetics ∙ Personality ∙Life experiences ∙ Age ∙ Health ∙ Thoughts ∙ Social circumstances ∙ The reactions of others ∙ Comparing the self to others Various factors believed to influence our self-esteem include:
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  EMMETT MILLER, a notedauthority on self-esteem, says that as adults we tend to define ourselves in terms of the following items: The Things We Possess What do we do for a living. Our internal value system and emotional make up. If we define ourselves in terms of what we have, the result may be an effort to accumulate more and more material things to achieve a greater feeling of self- worth. Miller points out that too often our self-worth and identity depend on something as arbitrary as a job title. If you don’t give yourself credit for excellence in other areas of life, besides your job and material possessions, you’ve got nothing to keep your identity afloat during a job layoff or a troubled family relationship. People who are in touch with their real identity weather the storm better because they have a more varied and richer sense of themselves, owing to the importance they attach to their personal lives and activities.
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  SELF-ESTEEM INFLUENCES YOURBEHAVIOR > Your level of self-esteem can have a powerful impact on your behavior. > Your sense of competence and resulting self-respect, the two components of self-esteem, stem from the belief that you are generally capable of producing the results in life that you want by making appropriate, constructive choices. Characteristics of People with Low Self-Esteem 1. They tend to maintain an external locus of control. People who maintain an external locus of control believe that their life is almost totally controlled by outside forces and that they bear little personal responsibility for what happens to them.
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  If you donot like yourself, there is no apparent reason to take care of yourself. 2. They are more likely to participate in self-destructive behaviors. Individuals with low self-esteem may have difficulty developing effective interpersonal skills. 3. They tend to exhibit poor human relations skills. Characteristics of People with High Self-Esteem 1. They tend to maintain an internal locus of control. 2. They are able to feel all dimensions of emotion without letting those emotions affect their behavior in a negative way. 3. They are less likely to take things personally. 4. They are able to accept other people as unique, talented individuals. 5. They have a productive personality.
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  HOW TO INCREASEYOUR SELF-ESTEEM “ 1. Search for the Source of Low Self-Esteem > Many people live with deep personal doubts about themselves but have difficulty determining the source of those feelings. > They even have difficulty finding the right words to describe those negative feelings. > People with low self-esteem are less likely to see themselves with great clarity. 2. Identify and Accept Your Limitations > Become realistic about who you are and what you can and cannot do. > Demanding perfection of yourself is unrealistic because no one is perfect. > The past cannot be changed: Acknowledge your mistakes; learn from them; then move on.
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  3. Take Responsibilityfor Your Decisions > Making decisions helps you develop confidence in your own judgment and enables you to explore options. > Psychologists have found that children who were encouraged to make their own decisions early in their lives have higher self-esteem than those who were kept dependent on their parents for a longer period of time. > Take every opportunity you can to make decisions both in setting your goals and in devising ways to achieve them 4. Seek the Support and Guidance of Mentors mentor - “someone who helps someone else learn something the learner would otherwise have learned less well, more slowly, or not at all.”
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  Here are sometips to keep in mind: 1. Search for a mentor who has the qualities of a good coach. > Mentors need to be accomplished in their own right, but success alone does not make someone a good mentor. > Look for someone whom you would like to emulate, both in business savvy and in operating style. 2. Market yourself to a prospective mentor. 5. Set Goals > The best mentor for you may be someone who is very busy. Sell the benefits of a mentoring partnership. “People who set goals and successfully achieve them are able to achieve higher self-esteem”
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  GOAL-SETTING PRINCIPLES 1. Spend timereflecting on the things you want to change in your life. 2. Develop a goal-setting plan that includes the steps necessary to achieve the goal. 3. Modify your environment by changing the stimuli around you. 4. Monitor your behavior, and reward your progress.
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  6. Practice GuidedImagery > Guided imagery is one of the most creative and empowering methods for achieving your goals available today. > It provides you with a way to harness the power of the mind and imagination to succeed at something. > It can be used to help you relax, set goals (like losing weight), or prepare for a challenging opportunity such as interviewing for a new job. 7. Use Positive Self-Talk > Self-talk takes place in the privacy of your mind. It can be rational and productive, or it can be irrational and disruptive. When the focus of this internal conversation is on negative thoughts, you are usually less productive.
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  You can createeffective, positive self-talk statements for each of your goals by using the following guidelines: 1. Be specific about the behavior you want to change. 2. Begin each self-talk statement with a first-person pronoun, such as I or my. 3. Describe the results you want to achieve.
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  CREATING SEMANTICALLY CORRECTSELF–TALK WRONG RIGHT I can quit smoking. I am in control of my habits. I will lose twenty pounds. I weigh a trim _________ pounds. I won’t worry anymore. I am confident and optimistic. Next time I won’t be late. I am prompt and efficient. I will avoid negative self-talk. I talk to myself, with all due respect. I’m not going to let people walk all over me anymore. I care enough to assert myself when necessary.
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  FIVE FACTORS THATCAN ENHANCE THE SELF-ESTEEM OF EMPLOYEES IN ANY ORGANIZATION ENHANCED SELF-ESTEEM Feeling valued Feeling competent Feeling secure Feeling empowered Feeling connected