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Team & Culture](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/founderleadershipworkshopfeb2017500contentonly-170210193437/75/Founder-Leadership-Workshop-11-2048.jpg)
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Effective Teams
1. Participation
2. Collaboration
3. Cooperation (Commitment)
Research: All of these are correlated to
Group EQ
“Building Emotional Intelligence”, Wolfe & Druskat, Harvard Business Review, 2004](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/founderleadershipworkshopfeb2017500contentonly-170210193437/75/Founder-Leadership-Workshop-12-2048.jpg)
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“I’m starting to
feel defensive”
Inward
(my emotions)
Outward
(others’ emotions)
Emotional
Awareness
Emotional
Management
(“Regulation”)
“He seems to be
getting agitated”
• Take a deep breath
• “Could you give
me a sec?”
• Take a walk
“Are you ok?”
EQ (Individual)](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/founderleadershipworkshopfeb2017500contentonly-170210193437/75/Founder-Leadership-Workshop-13-2048.jpg)
![High EQ individuals ≠ High EQ group
Group norms
determine group EQ
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![Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityHow to Give Effective Feedback
• “When you do [x]…”
Focus on specific, observable behavior
• "I feel [y]…”
Describe the impact of that behavior on you (disclosure)
• “Can you tell me what’s going on for you?”
Ask about the other person’s intentions and perspective
Stay on your side of the net!](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/founderleadershipworkshopfeb2017500contentonly-170210193437/75/Founder-Leadership-Workshop-19-2048.jpg)
![Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityHow to Give Effective Feedback
Step 1: Open with mutual goals and positive intent.
What do you really want for this relationship?
What is your intention in giving this feedback?
Step 2: Stay on your side of the net
a. Stick to observable behavior (“When you did [x]…”)
b. Share your reaction (“I felt [y], and my story is [z]”)
c. Ask for their perspective (“What was going on for you?”)
Step 3: Enter joint problem-solving.
Decide together how to make things better.
Design some experiments.](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/founderleadershipworkshopfeb2017500contentonly-170210193437/75/Founder-Leadership-Workshop-21-2048.jpg)
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![Benefits of Self-Disclosure / VulnerabilityLast Reminder
Stay on your side of the net:
When you do [x]…
I feel [y]…
And my story is [z].
Can you tell me what’s going on for you?
Use the Vocabulary of Emotions.](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/founderleadershipworkshopfeb2017500contentonly-170210193437/75/Founder-Leadership-Workshop-26-2048.jpg)
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Founder Leadership Workshop
The document discusses the importance of self-disclosure and vulnerability in building effective teams and relationships within organizations. It highlights strategies for giving and receiving feedback to foster a culture of emotional intelligence and appreciation. The authors emphasize that mutual goals and positive intent should guide feedback conversations to enhance team dynamics and workplace happiness.
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- 28. Fostering a feedback-richculture • Train your team on giving/receiving feedback • Schedule feedback-focused 1:1s (or begin 1:1s with two-way feedback) – And set expectations of others to do the same
- 29. Thanks, good-bye, andstay on your side of the net
Editor's Notes
- #2 Introduce ourselves here “as founders of this non-profit we’ve been doing this workshop w/ 500ish founders in the past 15months; first time w/ investors”
- #3 “We believe these skills help founders build more successful companies”
- #4 Our leaders matter In addition to being financially successful, we think the way we run companies matters -- wiser, more compassionate leaders who are skilled in their relationships w/ themselves & others are important to the world, & SV needs to lead the way - not just in the tech we develop but in how we develop people In our founder groups this where I usually talk abut how important building a team that brought out the best in each other was for me personally. But I will tell you guys, the real reason we are doing this work is because we believe that leaders matter. We believe we have entered a period where our biggest challenge as a species will be our ability to interact with each other wisely and manage the incredible power we are about to have. And in our corner of the world, you guys are the mentors for that next generation of leaders. So if anything we do here today is useful for you in your capacity as a role model and influencer of future leaders – that will make our day worthwhile.
- #7 ***feelings & emotions music has treble and clef 1. if you only have cognition and words without feelings, you don't have the full score, the full story 2. most of the time, people are "leaky" -- however they are feeling, they are emoting non-verbally. incongruence btwn words v behavior comes at the expense of credibility. therefore want congruence (so you dont want *only* thoughts or *only* feelings -- you want to communicate both) 3. "there's no room for feelings in business" -- is inspiring pple important in business? how do you inspire people without making them feel something? important for motivation Suppressing leads to lack of congruence – we are leaky.
- #10 “…highest-performing managers show more warmth and fondness towards others than do the bottom 25%. They get closer to people, they’re significantly more open in sharing thoughts and feelings than their low-performing counterparts. Note that they also scored high on “thinking” and a need to have power and influence over others, but that didn’t distinguish them from the bottom quartile.
- #15 Awareness & Regulation Within the group and with other groups (in relationship to other groups)
- #17 -rest of the workshop is on feedback & influence in 2 parts
- #18 Why is feedback scary? [discussion] -can feel like an attack -other person can feel controlled -other person can get defensive, have feelings hurt It’s “scary” but doesn’t pose any physical threat to us (most of the time!), so there must be something going on our in brains that are making us scared of giving critical feedback
- #20 Inarguably true Disclosure -> empathy
- #23 Setting the Context for Feedback Groundrules Discussion (What groundrules would help me be an effective participant in giving and receiving feedback) Organize folks so that each person has two people they work with/know well Give them time to plan feedback with each Bring them back and do “speed dating” format feedback– two rounds so that every person has done it twice Facilitator calls out time for switching "Second conversation" about feedback
- #24 Complimentary feedback: -Single biggest missed opportunity is building stronger relationships We think positive things about our colleagues, peers, and loved ones all the time but don’t say them Why do it? -encourage the good stuff -there is a relationship “bank account”- Gottman - ideal ratio of positive to negative interactions (5:1) And you want that bank account to have something in it for when you do have critical feedback to give b/c the context of your relationship does matter for delivering tough feedback. So let’s talk about constructive feedback