Meeting prep guidance informal conversations
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This document provides guidance for holding difficult informal conversations with staff. It recommends [1] preparing for the conversation by asking key questions and practicing what will be discussed. [2] When having the conversation, acknowledge any emotions and keep focused on the purpose while suggesting open-ended ways to begin. [3] Work toward a successful outcome by listening without judgment, repeating back the other perspective, advocating for your own position respectfully, and finding areas of agreement or identifying next steps if no consensus is reached.
Meeting prep guidance informal conversations
- 1. Meeting preparation guidance – Informal conversations This guidance is useful for when you hold difficult conversations with your staff. 1. Preparing for the conversation • Before going into the conversation, ask yourself several key questions. Consult with Human Resources, peers, and other appropriate resources to be sure you’re comfortable with possible answers. • Key questions include: ‐ What is my purpose for having the conversation? ‐ What do I hope to accomplish? ‐ What is the ideal outcome? ‐ What assumptions am I making about the other person’s reaction to the conversation? ‐ What “hot buttons” exist – for me and for the other person? ‐ How is my attitude toward the conversation contributing to the intended outcome? • Practice the conversation. You can mentally rehearse it in your mind, or practice it out loud with your supervisor, Employee Assistance Program, or Human Resources. 2. Holding the conversation • A successful outcome will depend on two things: what you say and how you say it. How you approach the conversation and how you behave will greatly influence what you say and how it is perceived. • Acknowledge any emotional energy that might be fueled by the conversation. The emotional content is as important as the facts. • Keep aligned with the purpose of your conversation. Don’t be distracted or side tracked. 1 April 2012 Schneider Trading Associates
- 2. • Suggestions for opening the conversation include: ‐ I’d like to talk to you about. . . ‐ I want to better understand your point of view. Can we talk more about. . . ‐ I’d like to talk about ________. I think we may have different ideas on how to ______. 3. Working toward a successful outcome • Approach the conversation with an attitude of inquiry and discovery. Set aside assumptions and try to learn as much as possible about the other person’s point of view. Let the employees complete what they have to say without interruption. • Acknowledge that you’ve heard what the other person is trying to say. The best way to do this is to repeat their argument back to them. You don’t have to agree. Saying “it sounds like this issue is very important to you” doesn’t mean that you have to decide the way they’d like you to. • Advocate for your position without diminishing theirs. State your position concisely and clarify points they may not have understood. • End with problem solving. Find mutual areas where you can agree on solutions and identify what steps need to be taken. If there is no common ground, return to inquiry. 2 April 2012 Schneider Trading Associates