NCJH day 3

NCJH day 3

• 1.
  Susan Junis RVAP
• 2.
   The Linebetween Love and Control
• 3.
   What arethings you think of right away if we say someone is in an abusive relationship?  What are other examples of dating abuse?
• 4.
  • Physical Abuse • Emotional/Psychological Abuse  Hitting • Name calling  Slapping • Ignoring feelings  Pinching • Criticizing  Choking • Telling lies  Sexual abuse • Jealousy  Damaging personal • Isolation property • Spending ALL of their time together • Spreading rumors • Using cell phones to “keep track” of a partner • Putting down family/friends • Threatening to harm self/others if they break up
• 5.
   To gainpower and control over someone  To control what someone thinks, says, does, wears, eats, who they hang out with, who they talk to….  Why else?
• 9.
   1 in3 teens experience some kind of abuse in their romantic relationships, including verbal & emotional abuse. (BreaktheCycle.org)  59% of students who are currently dating have been abused physically and 96% have been abused emotionally. (Safe Dates)  Nearly 80% of girls who have been physically abused in their intimate relationships continue to date their abuser. (BreaktheCycle.org)  1 in 3 teens report they are text-messaged 10, 20, or 30 times an hour by a partner inquiring where they are, what they’re doing, or who they’re with. (LoveIsNotAbuse.org)
• 10.
   Emotional abuseand physical abuse are equally as serious  Both girls and boys can be victims of abuse  Both girls and boys can be perpetrators of abuse  Dating abuse can happen to anyone in any dating relationship  Some conflict is normal in relationships – but it matters how you deal with that conflict
• 11.
   Abuse almostalways happens over and over, it doesn’t just go away  Most abuse gets more severe over time  Everyone needs to know how to deal with dating abuse in case they end up in an abusive relationship, or in case a friend turns to them for help.  It is NEVER the victims fault for being abused.
• 12.
   State afact or feeling  Describe what you expect  Get their attention  Call them on their aggression or manipulation  Repeat what you expect  Leave if you need to  Get help
• 13.
   Getting angrywith your girlfriend when you see her talking to another boy.  Turning down your boyfriend or girlfriend if they ask you on a date.  Telling your girlfriend to put on more clothes because what she is wearing is too revealing.  Punching a wall when you get upset at your boyfriend or girlfriend.  Texting your boyfriend 10 times per hour asking where he is, what he is doing and who he is with.
• 14.
   Talking onthe phone with your friend for an hour instead of hanging out with your boyfriend or girlfriend.  Making your boyfriend clean your room because your mother won’t do it for you.  Refusing to date someone because you are not ready to date.  Calling your boyfriend or girlfriend and threatening suicide if he or she breaks up with you.  Pressuring your partner to make out with you, telling them that if they really loved you they would do it.
• 15.
  Services • 24-hour Rape Crisis Line • 800.284.7821 • Medical, Legal and School Advocacy • Counseling • Support • Information