Coaching with Presence

Coaching with Presence

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  Coaching with Presence JeffMcKenna Roger Brown Agile Camp Silicon Valley 9/21/13 © 2013 Roger Brown and Jeff McKenna
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  What is Coaching? Coachingis a relationship in which one person is primarily dedicated to serving the long term development of effectiveness and self-generation in the other. - Doug Silsbee Service Learn Change Grow
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  What Tools Doesa Coach Have? Mechanics Soft Skills Leadership Tools Questions Advice Models Listening Guidance Frameworks Facilitation Discovery
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  How are TheseTools Applied? Observation Choice Action
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  What Do WeObserve? Individuals Situations Systems Places Teams Ourself
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  How Do WeObserve? In the beginning…. by paying attention As we grow…. by cultivating the skill of Mindfulness to access the state of Presence
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  What is Mindfulness? Mindfulnessis the rigorous attention to observing ourselves in action to become fluid, intuitive, aware and exquisitely responsive. - Doug Silsbee 3 Levels • Sensation (physical) • Emotion (feelings) • Mental (meaning, rationalization, use of language) Active mind plus observing mind
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  What is Presence? Presenceis the underlying state we access through mindfulness that allows us to be the best person we can be. - Doug Silsbee Experienced as - In the moment - Present Tense - Timelessness - Witnessing - Beside yourself - Self-awareness Presence is always accessible
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  Contact with Presence: Forourselves – To manage attachments and aversions – To learn, change and grow ourselves – To be a coach, not just do coaching – To be aware of choices For our clients – To make appropriate choices – To influence their state of being – To nurture mindfulness in them
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  A Place toStart: Posture Posture sends a subconscious message of energy. When standing, put your right foot forward and feel your toes. When sitting, sit up straight and feel your toes. Try leaning a bit forward as well.
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  Exercise: Physical Awareness •Choose a partner. • One partner is going to relate a challenging experience from work for which coaching could have been useful. • The other partner is going to use their listening skills to learn about the challenge. • When you hear a chime, we will ask you about a particular physical aspect of the encounter – both coach and client. • Both of you will note things about that aspect that they noticed, felt or wondered about.
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  Presence is Essentialto Coaching Tools Choice Observation Mindfulness Presence
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  Approaching Mindfulness • Mindfulnessis a practice that takes practice • Mindfulness is essential for successful coaching • Presence is here. Experience it. • Being mindful will enhance our lives and skills, improving our – Agility – Accountability – Resourcefulness – Resilience – Authenticity – Vitality
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  Resources • The MindfulCoach and Presence-Based Coaching by Doug Silsbee • The Leadership Dojo by Richard Strozzi-Heckler • Coaching with NLP: How to be a Master Coach • by Joseph O'Connor • The Human Side of Agile by Gil Broza
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  Presenters Jeff McKenna, CSCand CST [email protected] www.linkedin.com/pub/jeff-mckenna/0/29/71b Roger Brown, CSC and CST [email protected] www.linkedin.com/in/rogerwbrown