SCHOOL
COUNSELING
MELINA V. KAHULUGAN, LPT
SHS Teacher
Siniloan INHS, Siniloan, Laguna
SLAC Objectives:
◦ To be aware of teacher’s function as class counselor/guidance
advocates
◦ To orient one’s self of the attitude, skills and characteristics of
teacher-guidance counselor
◦ To have a deep understanding about counseling and what
counseling is not
COUNSEL
◦ One of the seven gifts of the Holy Spirit: wisdom,
understanding, COUNSEL, fortitude, knowledge, piety and
fear of the Lord
◦ Spiritual Works of Mercy: Instruct the ignorant; admonish the
sinner; COUNSEL THE DOUBTFUL; comfort the sorrowful;
bear wrongs patiently, forgive all injuries; and pray for the
living and the dead.
BIBLICAL FOUNDATION
◦Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but
in an abundance of counselors there is safety.
Proverbs 11:14
◦Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers
they succeed. Proverbs 15:22
A Counselor…
◦is responsible for following up with students
regarding academic or social issues.
◦acts as a liaison between students, parents, and
teachers, helping them to work together to
help the student succeed socially and
academically.
A Counselor…
◦ recognizes the worth and dignity of each
student.
◦ helps students build their self-esteem and
self-confidence, develop better peer
relationships, improve organizational skills,
and improve behavior and anger
management skills.
A Teacher….
DOES ALL OF THOSE
THINGS
◦In DEP ED Laguna there are only few registered
guidance counselors among elementary and
secondary schools.
◦Schools without enough or ANY counselors
have to be able to rely on teachers and
administrators to identify troubled students.
(ASCA)
What Do Teachers Do
Guidance is an integral part of being a teacher!
It is about empowering a student to decide how to
accomplish his/her tasks;
Not solve problems but facilitating the way and
enabling the person to help him/herself.
◦Guidance is assisting the student in making wise
choices, plans and adjustment as he/she faces the
many crisis life holds.
Social Counseling
The secret sauce in programs that try to improve
student behavior is relationship
The goal is to get students to feel connected – to their
school, to their classmates and to their teachers.
Two-by-Ten Strategy
◦Developed by education professor Raymond
Wlodkowski:
◦Teachers spend two minutes a day for ten
consecutive days having private conversations with
their most challenging students.
◦Teachers leave it up to the student to pick the topic,
but may get the ball rolling with a comment or
question such as, “You seem especially tired today.”
◦Teachers can learn a lot about what’s going on in the
student’s life and begin to adjust their thinking.
◦Instead of seeing students as willfully being defiant of
the teacher, the teacher understands that they’re
exhibiting behaviors because something is going on in
their lives that is causing them to behave in a certain
way.
Counseling Steps
◦Compliment
◦Normalize
◦Clarify problems and related details.
◦Develop clear and meaningful goals.
The Situation: Teenage Pregnancy
◦ Student’s unexpressed reasons
◦Other people’s suspected reasons
◦Curses her will possibly hear
◦Words of comfort for her
Discouraging Facts about counseling
◦ It is time-consuming
◦ It is emotionally tiring
◦ It is physically exhausting
◦ It is frequently unsuccessful because we cannot impose on
them what can be perceived as the best and swift solution
◦ It looks unrewarding.
Counseling is not…
◦Judgmental
◦Giving Advice
◦Expecting in a way you behaved
◦Attempting to sort out the problems
◦Getting emotionally involved with the students
◦Looking at student’s problems from your own
perspective, based on your own value system.
Traits to Develop
◦Listening Skills – Active listening
◦Objectivity – Unconditional Positive Regard
Skills to Internalize
◦Self-direction
◦Mirroring
◦Empathy
◦Referral
Need for a Professional
◦Know when professional counseling is needed
◦Keep administrators informed – Cover yourself!
◦Documentation is key!
◦Keep parents in the loop.
◦Reach out to community to find Muslim Counselors
Dangers to Avoid
◦Transference
◦Counter-transference
◦Sympathy
◦Breach of Confidentiality
◦Breach of Privacy
The Eight Commandments
1.Be nonjudgmental
2.Be Empathic
3.Don’t give personal advice
4.Don’t begin with questions
5.Don’t take responsibility for the other person’s
problem
The Eight Commandments
6. Don’t interpret (when a paraphrase will do)
7. Stick to the here and now
8. Deal with the feelings first
TYPICAL SITUATIONS THAT MAKE SOME
COUNSELORS UNEASY
You feel like you are going around in circles and
not getting anywhere.
-Solution: pick one area to concentrate on and not
let the client get away from it.
-if it gets to be too much of a problem, express your
feelings-“we’re not getting anywhere because you….’
TYPICAL SITUATIONS THAT MAKE SOME
COUNSELORS UNEASY
The student starts crying.
-reassure the client that its okay to cry
The student becomes hysterical
-talk calmly
-ask whether he prefers to be alone for awhile or wishes
to continue the session later
-be prepared for a rather lengthy session
TYPICAL SITUATIONS THAT MAKE SOME
COUNSELORS UNEASY
You are attracted to the client, or the client is
attracted to you, or both
-clarify the nature of your relationship
A person wants to have someone to talk to, rather
than to work on problems.
-if you want to accept this, fine
-if you don’t, be firm about being willing to talk about
problems, but not being wiling just to talk
Everyone deserves a chance
All students must be viewed as
potential high achievers as opposed to
only high-ability students
LAST SHARING…..
CREED OF THE TEACHER AS
COUNSELOR
People seek us out. They seek us out for very private
and painful reasons. We must be able to tell them
what we can offer. If only for the ethics of the situation,
people must have the right to know beforehand our
personal values and our objectives.
1. I will not agree to help you go off the edge. I will not
agree to help you become a robotized normal and
adjusted person. I will not help you stay and wallow in
the cesspool of your own making. All these go against
my values. I will help you become autonomous, more
resistant to enculturation, more loving of yourself, more
excited, sensitive and full, more free to continue
becoming the authority of your own living.
CREED OF THE TEACHER AS
COUNSELOR
CREED OF THE TEACHER AS
COUNSELOR
2. I cannot give you your dreams or fix you up, simply
because I cannot .
3. I cannot make you grow, or grow for you. You must
grow for yourself.
4. I cannot take away your pain or loneliness.
CREED OF THE TEACHER AS
COUNSELOR
5. I will not sense your world for you, evaluate your
world for you, or tell you what is best for you in
your world, for you have your own world and I have
mine.
6.I cannot convince you of the crucial choice of
choosing the scary uncertainty of growing over the
safe misery of not growing.
CREED OF THE TEACHER AS
COUNSELOR
6.I cannot convince you of the crucial choice of
choosing the scary uncertainty of growing over the
safe misery of not growing.
7. I want to be with you and know you as a rich and
growing friend, yet I cannot get close to you when you
choose not to grow.
CREED OF THE TEACHER AS
COUNSELOR
8.When I begin to care for you out of pity, when I
begin to lose trust in you, then I am toxic, bad,
inhibiting for you and you for me.
CREED OF THE TEACHER AS
COUNSELOR
9.You bet, my helping is conditional; I will be with you,
I will hang on there with you as long as I continue to
get even the slightest hints that you are still trying to
grow.
10.If you accept all of these, then perhaps we can help
each other.
References:
◦ PDF Presentation of Sufia Azmat, “Every Teacher A Counselor”
◦ Smt. Ramaharan “Teacher as a Counselor”
◦ Catechism for Filipino Catholics page 272
◦ Catechism of the Catholic Church page 505

School counselingpresentaton

  • 1.
    SCHOOL COUNSELING MELINA V. KAHULUGAN,LPT SHS Teacher Siniloan INHS, Siniloan, Laguna
  • 2.
    SLAC Objectives: ◦ Tobe aware of teacher’s function as class counselor/guidance advocates ◦ To orient one’s self of the attitude, skills and characteristics of teacher-guidance counselor ◦ To have a deep understanding about counseling and what counseling is not
  • 3.
    COUNSEL ◦ One ofthe seven gifts of the Holy Spirit: wisdom, understanding, COUNSEL, fortitude, knowledge, piety and fear of the Lord ◦ Spiritual Works of Mercy: Instruct the ignorant; admonish the sinner; COUNSEL THE DOUBTFUL; comfort the sorrowful; bear wrongs patiently, forgive all injuries; and pray for the living and the dead.
  • 4.
    BIBLICAL FOUNDATION ◦Where thereis no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety. Proverbs 11:14 ◦Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed. Proverbs 15:22
  • 5.
    A Counselor… ◦is responsiblefor following up with students regarding academic or social issues. ◦acts as a liaison between students, parents, and teachers, helping them to work together to help the student succeed socially and academically.
  • 6.
    A Counselor… ◦ recognizesthe worth and dignity of each student. ◦ helps students build their self-esteem and self-confidence, develop better peer relationships, improve organizational skills, and improve behavior and anger management skills.
  • 7.
    A Teacher…. DOES ALLOF THOSE THINGS
  • 9.
    ◦In DEP EDLaguna there are only few registered guidance counselors among elementary and secondary schools. ◦Schools without enough or ANY counselors have to be able to rely on teachers and administrators to identify troubled students. (ASCA)
  • 10.
    What Do TeachersDo Guidance is an integral part of being a teacher! It is about empowering a student to decide how to accomplish his/her tasks; Not solve problems but facilitating the way and enabling the person to help him/herself.
  • 11.
    ◦Guidance is assistingthe student in making wise choices, plans and adjustment as he/she faces the many crisis life holds.
  • 12.
    Social Counseling The secretsauce in programs that try to improve student behavior is relationship The goal is to get students to feel connected – to their school, to their classmates and to their teachers.
  • 13.
    Two-by-Ten Strategy ◦Developed byeducation professor Raymond Wlodkowski: ◦Teachers spend two minutes a day for ten consecutive days having private conversations with their most challenging students. ◦Teachers leave it up to the student to pick the topic, but may get the ball rolling with a comment or question such as, “You seem especially tired today.”
  • 14.
    ◦Teachers can learna lot about what’s going on in the student’s life and begin to adjust their thinking. ◦Instead of seeing students as willfully being defiant of the teacher, the teacher understands that they’re exhibiting behaviors because something is going on in their lives that is causing them to behave in a certain way.
  • 16.
    Counseling Steps ◦Compliment ◦Normalize ◦Clarify problemsand related details. ◦Develop clear and meaningful goals.
  • 17.
    The Situation: TeenagePregnancy ◦ Student’s unexpressed reasons ◦Other people’s suspected reasons ◦Curses her will possibly hear ◦Words of comfort for her
  • 18.
    Discouraging Facts aboutcounseling ◦ It is time-consuming ◦ It is emotionally tiring ◦ It is physically exhausting ◦ It is frequently unsuccessful because we cannot impose on them what can be perceived as the best and swift solution ◦ It looks unrewarding.
  • 19.
    Counseling is not… ◦Judgmental ◦GivingAdvice ◦Expecting in a way you behaved ◦Attempting to sort out the problems ◦Getting emotionally involved with the students ◦Looking at student’s problems from your own perspective, based on your own value system.
  • 20.
    Traits to Develop ◦ListeningSkills – Active listening ◦Objectivity – Unconditional Positive Regard
  • 21.
  • 22.
    Need for aProfessional ◦Know when professional counseling is needed ◦Keep administrators informed – Cover yourself! ◦Documentation is key! ◦Keep parents in the loop. ◦Reach out to community to find Muslim Counselors
  • 23.
  • 24.
    The Eight Commandments 1.Benonjudgmental 2.Be Empathic 3.Don’t give personal advice 4.Don’t begin with questions 5.Don’t take responsibility for the other person’s problem
  • 25.
    The Eight Commandments 6.Don’t interpret (when a paraphrase will do) 7. Stick to the here and now 8. Deal with the feelings first
  • 26.
    TYPICAL SITUATIONS THATMAKE SOME COUNSELORS UNEASY You feel like you are going around in circles and not getting anywhere. -Solution: pick one area to concentrate on and not let the client get away from it. -if it gets to be too much of a problem, express your feelings-“we’re not getting anywhere because you….’
  • 27.
    TYPICAL SITUATIONS THATMAKE SOME COUNSELORS UNEASY The student starts crying. -reassure the client that its okay to cry The student becomes hysterical -talk calmly -ask whether he prefers to be alone for awhile or wishes to continue the session later -be prepared for a rather lengthy session
  • 28.
    TYPICAL SITUATIONS THATMAKE SOME COUNSELORS UNEASY You are attracted to the client, or the client is attracted to you, or both -clarify the nature of your relationship A person wants to have someone to talk to, rather than to work on problems. -if you want to accept this, fine -if you don’t, be firm about being willing to talk about problems, but not being wiling just to talk
  • 29.
    Everyone deserves achance All students must be viewed as potential high achievers as opposed to only high-ability students
  • 31.
  • 32.
    CREED OF THETEACHER AS COUNSELOR People seek us out. They seek us out for very private and painful reasons. We must be able to tell them what we can offer. If only for the ethics of the situation, people must have the right to know beforehand our personal values and our objectives.
  • 33.
    1. I willnot agree to help you go off the edge. I will not agree to help you become a robotized normal and adjusted person. I will not help you stay and wallow in the cesspool of your own making. All these go against my values. I will help you become autonomous, more resistant to enculturation, more loving of yourself, more excited, sensitive and full, more free to continue becoming the authority of your own living. CREED OF THE TEACHER AS COUNSELOR
  • 34.
    CREED OF THETEACHER AS COUNSELOR 2. I cannot give you your dreams or fix you up, simply because I cannot . 3. I cannot make you grow, or grow for you. You must grow for yourself. 4. I cannot take away your pain or loneliness.
  • 35.
    CREED OF THETEACHER AS COUNSELOR 5. I will not sense your world for you, evaluate your world for you, or tell you what is best for you in your world, for you have your own world and I have mine. 6.I cannot convince you of the crucial choice of choosing the scary uncertainty of growing over the safe misery of not growing.
  • 36.
    CREED OF THETEACHER AS COUNSELOR 6.I cannot convince you of the crucial choice of choosing the scary uncertainty of growing over the safe misery of not growing. 7. I want to be with you and know you as a rich and growing friend, yet I cannot get close to you when you choose not to grow.
  • 37.
    CREED OF THETEACHER AS COUNSELOR 8.When I begin to care for you out of pity, when I begin to lose trust in you, then I am toxic, bad, inhibiting for you and you for me.
  • 38.
    CREED OF THETEACHER AS COUNSELOR 9.You bet, my helping is conditional; I will be with you, I will hang on there with you as long as I continue to get even the slightest hints that you are still trying to grow. 10.If you accept all of these, then perhaps we can help each other.
  • 39.
    References: ◦ PDF Presentationof Sufia Azmat, “Every Teacher A Counselor” ◦ Smt. Ramaharan “Teacher as a Counselor” ◦ Catechism for Filipino Catholics page 272 ◦ Catechism of the Catholic Church page 505