Tracy Vahle 
Family Violence Prevention Specialist 
Interface Children and Family Services
Define teen dating violence 
Understand barriers to help-seeking 
Identify risk-factors 
Use teen dating violence prevention strategies 
Help teens who are in unhealthy/abusive 
relationships 
Available Resources
Do I believe I can intervene and prevent the 
legacy of abuse?
Tween Teen Young Adult 
A pattern of behaviors used to 
obtain power and controlover 
another person
How Much do I Know about Teens 
and their Reality? 
Approximately, what 
percent of teens in 8th & 
9th grade are in dating 
relationships? 
A. 25% B. 50 % C. 75% 
Please indicate your response…
Did you Know That…? 
 Nearly 75% of eighth and ninth graders consider 
themselves to be “dating”. 
 One in five 13-14 year olds in relationships know friends and peers who have 
been struck in anger by a boyfriend/girlfriend. 
 Significant levels of abusive behavior are reported in 
tween dating relationships, and teens report that abusive 
behavior increases dramatically in the teen years (age 15- 
18) 
Sources: Love Is Respect & Liz Claiborne
Did you Know That…? 
 1 in 3 high school 
students has been or will 
be in an abusive 
relationship. 
 Females, ages 16-24, are 
more vulnerable to 
intimate partner violence 
than any other age group– 
at a rate almost triple the 
national average. 
Source: U.S. Department of Justice
Types of Abuse 
Physical 
Sexual 
Emotional / 
Verbal 
Digital
Physical 
Sexual 
Emotional / 
Verbal 
Digital 
Nearly 1.5 million 
high school students 
nationwide 
experience physical 
abuse from a dating 
partner in a single 
year. 
Source: Loveisrespect.org
Physical 
Sexual 
Emotional / 
Verbal 
Digital 
76% of female high 
school students 
surveyed reported that 
they had experienced 
one or more incidents of 
unwanted sexual 
activity, including 
unwanted kissing, 
hugging, groping and/or 
sexual intercourse. 
Source: NRCDV
Physical 
Sexual 
Emotional / 
Verbal 
Digital 
Half of the reported 
date rapes occur 
among teenagers. 
Source: CALCASA
Physical 
Sexual 
Emotional / 
Verbal 
Digital 
61% of high school 
students reported 
having had a partner 
who made them feel bad 
or embarrassed about 
themselves. 
Source: Liz Claiborne
Physical 
Sexual 
Emotional / 
Verbal 
Digital 
______of all teens 
regard boyfriends and 
girlfriends spreading 
rumors (via cellphone, 
email, IM, text, web chat, 
a blog, or networking 
site) about a dating 
partner to be a serious 
problem. 
A. 15% B. 33% C. 55% D. 71%
Physical 
Sexual 
Emotional / 
Verbal 
Digital 
1 in 5 “Sexting” type 
messages are shared 
with other people. 
50% of those are 
shared with multiple 
people. 
Source: MTV A Thin Line
Physical 
Sexual 
Emotional / 
Verbal 
Digital 
22% of young people 
report their 
significant other 
checks in on them 
too often. 
25% report having 
their bf/gf read their 
texts without 
permission. 
Source: MTV A Thin Line
Do Males and Females Experience the Same 
Types of Abuse? 
Males 
 Unwanted Calls / Visits 
 Threats 
 Put-Downs 
 Insults 
 Controlling Behavior 
Females 
 Threats 
 Slapped / Hit 
 Insults 
 Pressured Sex 
 Put-Downs, Name Calling 
 Controlling Behavior 
Source: BMC Public Health: Dating Violence Victimization Across the Teen Years: Abuse 
Frequency, Number of Abusive Partners, and Age at First Occurrence.
Teen Vulnerability 
Healthy 
Relationships 
Social 
Supports 
Misinterpretation
Why are more Teens today 
Vulnerable to Dating Violence? 
20s 50s 60s 70s 80s 90s 2000
Media Saturation
“The average teen is exposed 
to more than 8 hours of mass 
media daily” (Manganello, 
2008). 
“American children see more 
than 8,000 murders and more 
than 100,000 other violent 
acts (e.g., assaults, rapes) on 
network television by the end 
of elementary 
schools”(Bushman & 
Anderson, 2001).
Recognize these images? 
TV TV 
News Media 
Movies 
Video Games Magazines 
Images: Universal Pictures; MTV; Summit Entertainment; GTA; D&G Ads Inc.,
Media Influence on Teens 
Role Models and 
Examples 
Source of 
Information on 
Dating 
Relationships
Emotional and Brain 
Development 
The parts of the brain that 
 Control impulses 
 Foresee consequences 
 Regulate emotions 
do not fully develop until 
the early twenties
Risk Factors 
for 
Victimization 
Poverty 
Emotional 
Dependence 
Lack of 
Parental 
Behavioral 
Problems 
Location Support 
Associating 
with Violent 
Peers 
Previous 
Experience 
with Violence 
Age 
Difference 
Source: CDC
Risk 
Factors for 
Perpetration 
Aggressive 
Behavior 
Relationship 
Conflict 
Friends in 
Violent 
Relationships 
Negative 
Same Sex 
Peer 
Relationships 
Exposure to 
Community 
Violence 
Presence of 
Bystanders
Risk Factors for Victimization & 
Perpetration 
 Belief that it is acceptable to use 
violence to resolve conflict 
 Unhealthy family relationships 
 Low academic achievement 
 Low self esteem 
 Drugs and alcohol 
 Acceptance of traditional gender 
roles 
 Emotional issues 
 Depression 
 Changes in personality 
Victimization 
Perpetration
What Unique Obstacles Do Teens 
Face? 
Dependence Education Age 
Source: Violence Against Women Online Resources
50% stayed out of 
fear 
Source: Trauma Violence & Abuse: Teens, Dating Violence, and Media Use : A Review of the Literature and 
Conceptual Model for Future Research
How Much do I Know about Teens 
and their Reality? 
A. Parent B. Police officer 
C. Counselor or 
teacher 
D. Friend 
E. Minister or 
priest 
When teens experience 
abuse, who do they first 
seek help from? 
Please indicate your response…
Help-seeking among Latino, 9th 
graders in Los Angeles 
Formal Sources of Support 
 Counselors or teachers at 
school 
 School nurse 
 Doctor or other health 
professional 
 Minister or priest 
 Police officer 
 Lawyer 
Informal Sources of Support 
 Friends 
 Parent or guardian 
 Brother, sister, other 
family members 
Source: Violence Against Women. Latino Teens Talk 
About Help Seeking and Help Giving in Relation to 
Dating Violence
Physical 
Health 
Emotional 
Health 
Social Risky 
Behaviors 
Impact of TDV 
Homicide
Impact of TDV
Emotional and Brain 
Development 
 "When a teen is battered, 
critical development work may 
be interrupted. The stress and 
confusion of an abusive 
relationship can leave the 
victim with a diminished 
capacity to think, learn, and 
plan for the future" (Sousa, 
1999).
What Can I Do to 
Prevent TDV? 
Know the signs! 
Educate Teens & Parents 
Encourage youth to examine 
media 
Model healthy 
characteristics/Support healthy 
relationships 
Share information
Tips for Working with Young Adults 
 Language, lean towards 
and away from… 
 Recognize and adapt for 
cultural differences 
 Share power with young 
adults 
 Follow through 
 Take care of yourself
Teens need and want a 
Professional, Caring Adult who 
is….. Authentic 
Approachable 
Accepting 
Available 
4
What Can I Do? 
Supporting Teens 
 Validate (Listen & Believe) 
 Empathize 
 Generalize 
 Explore Options 
 Build on Strengths 
 Offer Resources and Support 
 Respect their Right to make their own Decisions
Where can I Direct Young Adults? 
 www.Loveisrespect.org 
 1-866-331-9474 National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline 
 1-866-331-8453 TTY 
 www.thatsnotcool.com 
 www.loveisnotabuse.com 
 http://icfs.org/teen-dating-violence.html 
 Tools 
 Equality Wheel 
 http://www.ncdsv.org/images/teenequalitywheelnoshading-ncdsv.pdf 
 Power and Control Wheel 
 http://www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/power-and-control-wheel 
 Healthy Relationship Quiz 
 http://www.loveisrespect.org/pdf/Healthy_Relationship_Quiz.pdf 
 Teen Safety Plan 
 http://www.loveisrespect.org/pdf/Teen-Safety-Plan.pdf
Resources for Professionals 
 California Partnership to End Domestic Violence 
 http://www.cpedv.org/ 
 1-800-524-4765 
 Teen Dating Violence Prevention Recommendations 
 http://www.americanbar.org/content/dam/aba/migrated/unmet/teenabus 
eguide.authcheckdam.pdf 
 Futures without Violence 
 http://www.futureswithoutviolence.org/ 
 Helping Teens Stop Violence, Build Community and Stand for 
Justice, Alan Creighton and Paul Kivel (2011)
Strengthening children, families and communities 
to be safe, healthy and thriving. 
Mental Health 
• 
Youth and Family 
Strengthening 
• 
Family Violence 
Intervention 
• 
2-1-1 Information 
& Referral 
• 
Best-Practice 
Training and 
Technical Assistance
 3 Day Interactive 
Workshop 
 9th grade health 
classes 
Available for all of 
Ventura County
 DAY 1 
 Define Authority 
 What it means to 
treat people 
Respectfully 
 Where we learn 
Violence From 
 Gender Roles & 
Stereotypes 
 DAY 2 
 What are the 
different types of 
abuse 
 The Cycle of 
Violence 
 Signs of a healthy 
relationship 
 Dating Rights 
 DAY 3 
 Barriers to Leaving 
an abusive 
relationship 
 Real cases 
 What to do if a friend 
is being abused, if 
you are or if you are 
abusing someone
Other Interface Services Available 
My Body Belongs to Me 
 Child Sexual Abuse Prevention 
Program 
 Presentations to teachers, 
parents and the children 
 Teaches Kids to say NO, get 
away, and tell an adult
Other Interface Services Available 
Youth Services 
 Crisis Intervention 
 Case Management 
 Family Mediation 
 Emancipation 
Information 
 Life Skills and Youth 
Development Activities 
 Shelter Services
Thank 
you! 
Tracy Vahle 
tvahle@icfs.org 
(805)485-6114 ext. 643

Teen Dating Violence Prevention

  • 1.
    Tracy Vahle FamilyViolence Prevention Specialist Interface Children and Family Services
  • 2.
    Define teen datingviolence Understand barriers to help-seeking Identify risk-factors Use teen dating violence prevention strategies Help teens who are in unhealthy/abusive relationships Available Resources
  • 3.
    Do I believeI can intervene and prevent the legacy of abuse?
  • 4.
    Tween Teen YoungAdult A pattern of behaviors used to obtain power and controlover another person
  • 5.
    How Much doI Know about Teens and their Reality? Approximately, what percent of teens in 8th & 9th grade are in dating relationships? A. 25% B. 50 % C. 75% Please indicate your response…
  • 6.
    Did you KnowThat…?  Nearly 75% of eighth and ninth graders consider themselves to be “dating”.  One in five 13-14 year olds in relationships know friends and peers who have been struck in anger by a boyfriend/girlfriend.  Significant levels of abusive behavior are reported in tween dating relationships, and teens report that abusive behavior increases dramatically in the teen years (age 15- 18) Sources: Love Is Respect & Liz Claiborne
  • 7.
    Did you KnowThat…?  1 in 3 high school students has been or will be in an abusive relationship.  Females, ages 16-24, are more vulnerable to intimate partner violence than any other age group– at a rate almost triple the national average. Source: U.S. Department of Justice
  • 8.
    Types of Abuse Physical Sexual Emotional / Verbal Digital
  • 9.
    Physical Sexual Emotional/ Verbal Digital Nearly 1.5 million high school students nationwide experience physical abuse from a dating partner in a single year. Source: Loveisrespect.org
  • 10.
    Physical Sexual Emotional/ Verbal Digital 76% of female high school students surveyed reported that they had experienced one or more incidents of unwanted sexual activity, including unwanted kissing, hugging, groping and/or sexual intercourse. Source: NRCDV
  • 11.
    Physical Sexual Emotional/ Verbal Digital Half of the reported date rapes occur among teenagers. Source: CALCASA
  • 12.
    Physical Sexual Emotional/ Verbal Digital 61% of high school students reported having had a partner who made them feel bad or embarrassed about themselves. Source: Liz Claiborne
  • 13.
    Physical Sexual Emotional/ Verbal Digital ______of all teens regard boyfriends and girlfriends spreading rumors (via cellphone, email, IM, text, web chat, a blog, or networking site) about a dating partner to be a serious problem. A. 15% B. 33% C. 55% D. 71%
  • 14.
    Physical Sexual Emotional/ Verbal Digital 1 in 5 “Sexting” type messages are shared with other people. 50% of those are shared with multiple people. Source: MTV A Thin Line
  • 15.
    Physical Sexual Emotional/ Verbal Digital 22% of young people report their significant other checks in on them too often. 25% report having their bf/gf read their texts without permission. Source: MTV A Thin Line
  • 16.
    Do Males andFemales Experience the Same Types of Abuse? Males  Unwanted Calls / Visits  Threats  Put-Downs  Insults  Controlling Behavior Females  Threats  Slapped / Hit  Insults  Pressured Sex  Put-Downs, Name Calling  Controlling Behavior Source: BMC Public Health: Dating Violence Victimization Across the Teen Years: Abuse Frequency, Number of Abusive Partners, and Age at First Occurrence.
  • 17.
    Teen Vulnerability Healthy Relationships Social Supports Misinterpretation
  • 18.
    Why are moreTeens today Vulnerable to Dating Violence? 20s 50s 60s 70s 80s 90s 2000
  • 19.
  • 20.
    “The average teenis exposed to more than 8 hours of mass media daily” (Manganello, 2008). “American children see more than 8,000 murders and more than 100,000 other violent acts (e.g., assaults, rapes) on network television by the end of elementary schools”(Bushman & Anderson, 2001).
  • 21.
    Recognize these images? TV TV News Media Movies Video Games Magazines Images: Universal Pictures; MTV; Summit Entertainment; GTA; D&G Ads Inc.,
  • 22.
    Media Influence onTeens Role Models and Examples Source of Information on Dating Relationships
  • 23.
    Emotional and Brain Development The parts of the brain that  Control impulses  Foresee consequences  Regulate emotions do not fully develop until the early twenties
  • 24.
    Risk Factors for Victimization Poverty Emotional Dependence Lack of Parental Behavioral Problems Location Support Associating with Violent Peers Previous Experience with Violence Age Difference Source: CDC
  • 25.
    Risk Factors for Perpetration Aggressive Behavior Relationship Conflict Friends in Violent Relationships Negative Same Sex Peer Relationships Exposure to Community Violence Presence of Bystanders
  • 26.
    Risk Factors forVictimization & Perpetration  Belief that it is acceptable to use violence to resolve conflict  Unhealthy family relationships  Low academic achievement  Low self esteem  Drugs and alcohol  Acceptance of traditional gender roles  Emotional issues  Depression  Changes in personality Victimization Perpetration
  • 27.
    What Unique ObstaclesDo Teens Face? Dependence Education Age Source: Violence Against Women Online Resources
  • 28.
    50% stayed outof fear Source: Trauma Violence & Abuse: Teens, Dating Violence, and Media Use : A Review of the Literature and Conceptual Model for Future Research
  • 29.
    How Much doI Know about Teens and their Reality? A. Parent B. Police officer C. Counselor or teacher D. Friend E. Minister or priest When teens experience abuse, who do they first seek help from? Please indicate your response…
  • 30.
    Help-seeking among Latino,9th graders in Los Angeles Formal Sources of Support  Counselors or teachers at school  School nurse  Doctor or other health professional  Minister or priest  Police officer  Lawyer Informal Sources of Support  Friends  Parent or guardian  Brother, sister, other family members Source: Violence Against Women. Latino Teens Talk About Help Seeking and Help Giving in Relation to Dating Violence
  • 31.
    Physical Health Emotional Health Social Risky Behaviors Impact of TDV Homicide
  • 32.
  • 33.
    Emotional and Brain Development  "When a teen is battered, critical development work may be interrupted. The stress and confusion of an abusive relationship can leave the victim with a diminished capacity to think, learn, and plan for the future" (Sousa, 1999).
  • 34.
    What Can IDo to Prevent TDV? Know the signs! Educate Teens & Parents Encourage youth to examine media Model healthy characteristics/Support healthy relationships Share information
  • 35.
    Tips for Workingwith Young Adults  Language, lean towards and away from…  Recognize and adapt for cultural differences  Share power with young adults  Follow through  Take care of yourself
  • 36.
    Teens need andwant a Professional, Caring Adult who is….. Authentic Approachable Accepting Available 4
  • 37.
    What Can IDo? Supporting Teens  Validate (Listen & Believe)  Empathize  Generalize  Explore Options  Build on Strengths  Offer Resources and Support  Respect their Right to make their own Decisions
  • 38.
    Where can IDirect Young Adults?  www.Loveisrespect.org  1-866-331-9474 National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline  1-866-331-8453 TTY  www.thatsnotcool.com  www.loveisnotabuse.com  http://icfs.org/teen-dating-violence.html  Tools  Equality Wheel  http://www.ncdsv.org/images/teenequalitywheelnoshading-ncdsv.pdf  Power and Control Wheel  http://www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/power-and-control-wheel  Healthy Relationship Quiz  http://www.loveisrespect.org/pdf/Healthy_Relationship_Quiz.pdf  Teen Safety Plan  http://www.loveisrespect.org/pdf/Teen-Safety-Plan.pdf
  • 39.
    Resources for Professionals  California Partnership to End Domestic Violence  http://www.cpedv.org/  1-800-524-4765  Teen Dating Violence Prevention Recommendations  http://www.americanbar.org/content/dam/aba/migrated/unmet/teenabus eguide.authcheckdam.pdf  Futures without Violence  http://www.futureswithoutviolence.org/  Helping Teens Stop Violence, Build Community and Stand for Justice, Alan Creighton and Paul Kivel (2011)
  • 40.
    Strengthening children, familiesand communities to be safe, healthy and thriving. Mental Health • Youth and Family Strengthening • Family Violence Intervention • 2-1-1 Information & Referral • Best-Practice Training and Technical Assistance
  • 41.
     3 DayInteractive Workshop  9th grade health classes Available for all of Ventura County
  • 42.
     DAY 1  Define Authority  What it means to treat people Respectfully  Where we learn Violence From  Gender Roles & Stereotypes  DAY 2  What are the different types of abuse  The Cycle of Violence  Signs of a healthy relationship  Dating Rights  DAY 3  Barriers to Leaving an abusive relationship  Real cases  What to do if a friend is being abused, if you are or if you are abusing someone
  • 47.
    Other Interface ServicesAvailable My Body Belongs to Me  Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Program  Presentations to teachers, parents and the children  Teaches Kids to say NO, get away, and tell an adult
  • 48.
    Other Interface ServicesAvailable Youth Services  Crisis Intervention  Case Management  Family Mediation  Emancipation Information  Life Skills and Youth Development Activities  Shelter Services
  • 49.
    Thank you! TracyVahle [email protected] (805)485-6114 ext. 643